come back next week for *I spent a day with CARMEN & LUPITA* “Conjoined But Individual” UNCENSORED ON SPOTIFY ▸ open.spotify.com/show/5aOLuPenneHbhLh05fmkeu UNCENSORED ON APPLE ▸ podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-spent-a-day-with/id1550213250
I lost both my grandfather and my dad to suicide, and I was forced to clean up after them. A LOT of people don't realize that if they don't have the money after someone dies from a violent or traumatic death, the clean up isn't done by the police. You'll have to do it yourself if you can't afford crime scene cleanup. It's the main reason I decided to get into crime and trauma scene cleanup. And even though it's hard, it's absolutely worth it to spare other families the pain of going through what I did.
As a funeral director who sees the aftermath of these tragedies for only a short period of time, I can’t imagine doing what these people do. Mad props to them, it’s a tough job.
Thank you for what you do! My friend was murdered and the funeral home was able to reconstruct her well enough for an open casket. It allowed all of us who loved her to say goodbye and get a bit of closure. The funeral home director was so kind to her parents and sensitive to the fact that her mom had a restraining order against her dad. He did an incredible job managing such a complicated and heavy situation. Your profession helps people grieve and heal.
@@Bottoms-Park_Lake No they do not. You would have to have a lot of empathy to be there for the families during times of horrific tragedy. These three especially do not have aspd.
My mother in law INSISTED on cleaning up after my sons dads suicide by gunshot to his head. She said she brought him into world and she needed to be there to the very end. I have so much respect for her as a mother. I couldn’t do it
The only things that worry me are 1. What lasting trauma did that leave her? And 2. If she could properly ensure all the biohazards for lack of a better term, we're disposed of properly. So sad. I wish this service was government funded.
That's how I felt when my mom died... She passed away of a heart attack. There was a lot of dry blood in her room. I cleaned every inch of the place because I loved her so much I wanted to leave the last place she was a good place 😭
There is a show called "move to heaven" and its about a father son duo doing this job. Main reason that they give people for doing this is that they can show care and respect for the person that once existed and to help their soul rest.
This might sound incredibly naive, but I honestly had never considered that people have to pay to have this done. And if they don't that they have to do it themselves. I can't even begin to imagine how traumatic that would be.
I still have the clothing my dad died in. And the dirty clothing he wore up to the days b4 he died. I have his hair that was in the carpet where his head was. He had a massive heartattack on Xmas day 2017. It shocked his body and he flew backwards landed in the hallway floor. He hit the floor soo hard the house shook and the Xmas tree almost fell over. My Gemma (his mom) and his wife cradled his head as he was dying. My frama called 911 the pd. No one answered she called my aunt who use to be an emt. Who came over with my cousin and they gave my dad cpr for 30 mins before the ambulance and police showed up. Whole they were giving him cpr my grama called her sisters who had to walk over to the e.r services trailer to get their attention. This is in a very rural area so the town has an ambulance service. By the time ems got there my dad was alllll the way dead. And my grama sent them off and called the coroner herself. Anyway the impact of his fall was so hard it pulled a wad of hair out of his head and imbedded it into the carpet. I pulled out that piece chunk of hair from the carpet and kept it. His clothing still smells like him. But ppl think uts weird I still have these particular items. But for me it's all I have left of my daddy. So I can understand her keeping the Jaw if that's all I had I would keep it too
@@jordankay8578 that's not weird at all jordan, if it helps you then other people can mind their own business. i completely understand wanting to keep a piece of a loved one after they pass. i'm sorry for your loss.
Let's take a moment to appreciate Anthony giving a voice to all of these people, giving them a moment to say what they want too when before they may have never gotten the opportunity.
When my sister committed suicide in our bathroom, obviously we hired a clean up crew. And what they said about grief is so true. I watched my mom dig through my sisters ashes and pull out pieces of boned. Grief is....something else..
One of my buddies moved to a city apartment. After a while she started wondering why are there so many flies flying around that she couldn't get rid of. Turned out former guy who had been living there had done a suicide and had melted to the concrete under the floortiles and they had simply put new tiles over the old ones without cleaning it properly. 😬
These crime scene cleaners who post these graphic photos have saved my life. When I was experiencing unalive urges, it was seeing these graphic images that made me realize, that I didn’t want anyone to see me like that, especially whoever finds me. Maybe it’s partially my vanity, but either way it changed my life.
I have a similar reminder in the memories I have of cleaning up the scene of my cousin's suicide, and watching what it did to his sister to have been the one to find him. Any reason to stay alive is a good reason!
After finding a friend hanging it definitely made me think twice about unaliving the grief, the mess, seeing how it affected even the EMS I just couldn’t anymore. Stay strong you are not alone!! 💕
shit, i didn't realize it was a service you had to pay for. I mean it's obvious, but i had hope that there was some government funding for it. I can't imagine the trauma of cleaning up after a loved one, utter horror. Along with funeral, cremation, mortuary, corpse beautification costs and so on (i honestly don't know the whole process), dying is really financially taxing on family & friends, you end up stressing about all the expenses and it feels like such an awful way to end off a life
Welcome to america the most fucked Up country in the world in every other Part of the world you dont have to pay for something Like that Your goverment is fucking you mentaly and physically You think someone who killed someone is a Bad person think about it Most of the time ITS the goverments or socitys fault
My mother attended a grief counseling group and a woman shared that her teenage son had accidentally been killed by his friend who was messing around with a gun while they were hanging out in her son’s bedroom. My mother was choking back tears while she told me that she had asked the woman, “Where were your friends?” My mother just couldn’t imagine being forced to scrub your child’s blood and remains from the floors and walls of your home. The story absolutely wrecked me. I’ll just never forget my mother’s grief stricken face or the mental image of another mother cleaning up what remained of her son. In an instant, two families were destroyed. Life is full of horrors and sometimes, it feels like a miracle that any of us can find joy
My aunt is a crime scene cleaner and she is probably the strongest person I know. I stayed with her a lot and she would come home from a job, always greeting us, able to smile until one day when she came home just completely in shock. I've never seen her like that before and I can only imagine what she saw. The people who do this kinda job are truly strong and I hope they continue doing what they love. I know I could never, any gore and I'm out. I'd pass out instantly
These people are what I call the “last responders” I have so much respect for what they do. I follow a few crime scene clean up companies online. They are so respectful and informative.
@@501jaylee i've been following laura's youtube channel for years because i do want to see it :) i debated joining a company like hers for years but i have some physical disabilities that would make it very hard so i scrapped that idea
That story about the woman wearing her dads jaw as a necklace is stuck with me. Like that’s a whole different level of grief and trauma a lot of people won’t ever experience.
@@ohwellidk I doubt that. Most of the ppl in my life including myself wear our loved ones ashes in lockets around our necks. I lost my mind for one of the deaths my loved one inflicted on himself. I can imagine losing your mind enough to do something like the jaw bone thing. So sad 😞
@@donnadanielsen9411 to be fair they have to pay for the service meaning if they wanted they could do it themselves which I guess in a sense means all the left over parts belong to them. As weird as that sounds.
Neal is THE O.G Crime Scene Cleaner and I am frickin' stoked you interviewed him for this. He's signed NDA's for crime scenes and has seen crime scenes where we haven't even publicly heard about what happened.
it's unfortunately way more common than people realize. people dont lock up their guns and then a kid finds it and either accidentally shoots themself or others, normally leading to death. it's horrible especially because it's a preventable tragedy.
I hope this video brings some attention to body transporters too! Aka the ones who go in to bag and remove a decedent before the cleaners even arrive. Working that job taught me A LOT.
@@kamekomiyamora I'm really interested into getting into these types of fields as a career, and doing the stuff that people don't know about, that is still regarded as very important. Do you have any suggestions or knowledge about it, if you don't mind sharing?
I actually did think about that field during the video when they discussed how bodies basically liquify. Wondering “How on earth do you transport the body then? What do you take? What do you leave behind? Do you need a shovel?” Every individual in the process plays a vital role!
It’d be interesting to see him talk with Suicide prevention hotline workers. I’m sure there will have been times where they couldn’t help the people who called and while it is dark.. I would be interested to see how their work really is Edit: never gotten this many likes on a comment before- Ty!
Being a funeral director I see this stuff way more than I’d like to say. We’re on scene to retrieve the deceased. We go to suicides, decomposition, accidents, fires. Unfortunately we don’t have full gear. We are usually showing up to these in suits and we have to be professional the whole time. Handling decomposition and maggots and purge in a suit ain’t fun.
I feel like that's wrong in some way. I can understand to a point why but I really feel like you guys should be allowed good PPE for picking up the deceased. Or at least have some kind of system where you have some guys in PPE helping remove the deceased, especially in extreme situations, and another individual in a suit talking to the family.
@@CN-hv1fx it depends on the state and county. Here where I work the ME comes out and does an investigation then we are hired by the county to provide transportation to where the autopsy will be performed.
Edited: It just bothers me how y'all make me look weird now lol, like can i just be confuse atleast for once?😭 Because at first I'm so confused why she thought that was funny until i finished the video.
True crime community doesn't give enough respect for these people. (Neither does anyone else, but cause it's crime related and we're on KRplus.. ) They have stories any of us can't imagine, thank you Anthony for giving them a voice 🙏
Try Mr. Ballen^^ he tells it from the victim's perspective and includes all sorts of things like their job, family, pets, hobbies etc plus his storytelling skills are great and he researches quite thoroughly. Stuff like real photos and police reports too
@@feb4305 yess Mr. Ballen is one of a kind on the true crime field, and weird mysterious disappearances etc. 👍 Highly recommended it for anyone who's interested in the strange dark and mysterious delivered in story format 🙌
@@madamsatan6 In my experience I was hired by the company and they put me through any training necessary. I did not need any prior experience or schooling.
As a child, I always wanted to be a 911 dispatcher. Something about not being the hero, but still being able to save someone's life from the phone was always a fascination. But I could never stomach the stuff they deal with. Massive props to these people, they have a stomach I could only wish
crying isnt a sign of weakness. not crying isnt a sign of strength. this is the type of rhetoric that makes people feel like they cant show their emotions to anyone, which is what often ends up leading to the tragedies the video mentioned. please consider that. /gen
Anthony, I would like to see a video of women who have had children from rape. Actually this is my story too, I don't know if I would feel ready to be public on something like this, but I know there are actually a lot of women raising kids conceived from sexual assault. It would be great to share this perspective. And explain how happy, healthy families can grow out of trauma. Be it a single mother and her child or a woman who chose to raise her assailant's child with her partner. This is definitely a reality that is under the radar and not talked about enough.
I also would be very interested to hear these stories, though I feel he may end up with guests who have a more positive view of their children. It’s not my story, but it could have been, and if I had had to have my abuser’s child I would have resented the child for their entire life. It would be informative but also potentially biased towards a pro-birth side of the issue
Eek. That is a ROUGH topic, with a full truckload of worms on board. Would be interesting to see how Anthony approached it though. He's always so lovely to people who have been through trauma, but that's DEFINITELY a topic that would cause a fascinating comment section... (I only know one person who raised her rapist's child. The man was her ex, he was batshit insane, and ended up in prison for murder. The apple, sadly, didn't fall far from the tree, so things didn't end as well as it sounds like your story did. Glad things worked out for you though!)
I have a 17 year old kid from a rape that I didn't accept was a rape until a few years ago. I have spent the last 17 years parenting with their father and stepmom, but I still have no idea how to deal with my pain. I vividly remember sobbing on the floor of the bathroom afterwards. I'd convinced myself for years it's because I knew my life was about to change because I somehow KNEW I was pregnant.. But really it's because I remember saying no. I remember trying to wash him out of me with his grandmothers frilly towels and then I collapsed. I love my kid with all my heart and cannot imagine life without them. But I was raped.
I agree with this. No one chooses to become a narcissist and we're actually some of the most insecure people. There is so much misinformation surrounding this topic, I would love a video on it!
@@jeollabackgurl i wish if this video becomes reality that cluster b milkshake is included. there's bunch of narcissist creators who bring absolutely nothing of use to the table, they just say what everyone wants to hear (who would have guessed lol) but mama milkshakes videos are like harsh therapy lol
@@jeollabackgurl I’m assuming there are different levels/kinds of narcissism, (I haven’t done much research on it) the only narcissistic person in my life is completely unaware of her tendencies and actions. She totally believes she’s normal I haven’t really thought of narcissists being aware of it
@@Breaksticks01 most are unaware and some say they are aware but don't actually believe it and then there's ones who are aware and do their best to be aware of their behaviors
The daughter that kept part of her fathers jaw bone- I can understand this… I mean, some of us as pet owners will cut fur off our pets after they have passed & will keep it so it feels like at least /some/ of their physical being is still with you. We just can’t seem to physically let go sometimes.
It makes me wonder if there are separate departments or options for people in this field to opt out of certain jobs if its too much for them. Or at least potentially those with more experience willing to take them for the sake of the newer recruits... Based on what was said in the video however, I don't think its likely there's the option to opt out unless you plan on leaving the field.
@Snicker Snacker there is! Most smaller companies or if you’re just contracting from a bigger company you can pick and choose what to do. Like i only do suicides and avoid grizzly deaths.
I can imagine you’d be so desensitised after a while, and might not even realise that they’re mental health is taking a toll, I hope these guys are all good.
Honestly, I think that's one reason they even said in the interview they were picky about who they let have the job. They probably want people who won't necessarily get completely desensitized since it could impact the empathy they need to keep for the ones paying them....At least that's my best guess. ...I can't imagine anyone starting the job without having a hard time though. Unless they've been actively involved in a situation like it before. And that's just on the mental side of things.
It’s called Vicarious Trauma and it can be a gradual accumulation like you described. You can also be triggered by something immediately in the moment and the trigger isn’t necessarily something traumatic or confronting either, it could be the jewellery of the deceased or a family photo or witnessing the grief of family. Speaking to colleagues, debriefing and good work-life balance are important protective factors against VT.
I think the lady who decided to keep her father’s jaw was super cool. In history, people have made jewelry of their loved ones’ hair, teeth, and bone. It’s a way to hold on to the remnants of that person. People didn’t always have the ability to have photos of loved ones, and even what they did, it might be more helpful for someone to have a physical reminder of that person.
Yeah people in history also burned each other alive, forced each other into slavery, and publicly executed each other, this isn’t going to be normalized
as a housekeeper who’s cleaned up a sink full of booboo, and even had someone pass away at a hotel I cleaned at and couldn’t even bring myself to sign up for that room…. These people are mf badass. It doesn’t take heartless ppl do do this job, but the exact opposite. Not easy at all
I understand the woman who took her fathers jaw and wore it. When I was younger my dog died and I had unburied the body and I reached into the bag and took a tooth from my dead dog and kept it in my backpack when I was little. Its a way to grieve and although it sounds strange it can be heart breaking to deal with things. Everyone handles death differently.
I don’t think keeping a tooth from your dog is strange. My beloved cat always shed a lot so when he passed unexpectedly, I was thankful to have kept some of his fur. But I wish I had saved more of it. Now with my new cat, I intend to save as much of her as I can (shed nail, shed fur, her favorite blanket, etc.) and record her beautiful voice when she talks to me. I don’t think I’d want a tooth or jaw from a loved one, but I certainly value things that I associate with and remind me of them.
Yeah, when my father died me and my mom requested to have some of his hair. The funeral director said it wouldn't be a problem, and that it's a really common thing people ask for.
What's most interesting is that you can see how someone changes with experience. While the youngest was analyzing everything, thinking the what ifs and whys; the older woman was in between the lines, she saw things as a job, but still had that connection. The older gentleman was more open and saw it all as a job that needs to be done and he's the one to do it.
This is 100% correct but the only reason I think people keep their guns loading is invade someone breaks in you can instantly shoot them instead of having to load it and risk your own life with those few seconds you have to run away
i'm not american, but we lived in a country where my father had a gun license, he ALWAYS kept it away from me and my sister and the ammo was always on the other side of the house somewhere we couldn't reach. (wasn't hard i was a baby and my sister was a tot) however, i don't understand how people don't just do that? it's just general safety.
@@dordly Not in all states. Even in the states that do, it can be anywhere from criminal liability for the POSSIBILITY of a child accessing the gun to only being liable if the child actually uses the gun. Beyond that, some states define a minor as anyone under 14, which would make it legal to have guns laying around a 15 year old. I know for a fact that in Utah it's completely legal to leave guns laying around... they have ZERO child access prevention laws. This doesn't even touch on the NRA lobbying against CAP laws, and when the NRA, in some states, are the ONLY way to legally obtain a license or become a trainer, their lobbying has A LOT of weight to it. This is what happens when you value money more than lives... you get a system where you're, essentially, 50 different countries pretending to be 1.
You should do one where you interview people who work in end-of-life care. I work exclusively with terminal elderly patients. It's a wild experience I'd love to watch interviews of other people in my line of work.
for anyone more interested in this topic, i recommend watching the kdrama "move to heaven". its about a father and son who are trauma cleaners and each episode focuses on one person's story prior to their death and what led up to it. during each cleanse they prepare a box which they fill with the victims most treasured items/items that reflect them/tell their story and then give the box to the victims family or someone they were close to. definitely prepare yourself to cry, but the show is so beautifully written that it's worth the tears. i think its available to watch on netflix so definitely check it out when you can
Yeah it's on netflix, and it's my favourite drama ever honestly. You can feel the amount of respect and sensitivity in every shot they take and it's womderful and moving.
this is what i was thinking of as i watched it. Move to heaven was the first encounter i had with the wòrld of trauma cleaning and it really opened my eyes to the realities of life. Tragic, unfortunate and heart wrenching deaths but the way their loved ones get closure is what i loved so much. seriously its so good and people should watch it.
I can’t imagine what these people see. It’s almost like when we see a crime in the movies but these people actually are there cleaning it up. I’m glad some light was shed on the. Props to these people
@@burrito9603yea, the USA is pretty much the only country in the world where KIDS will find a gun somewhere and accidentally shoot themselves because there is almost no restrictions on guns
@@SWFLAerialGuy **cough cough** Texas **cough cough** it’s legal to own as many guns as you want with no permit but it’s illegal to own more than 6 sex toys in Texas **COUGH COUGH**
I just quit my job as a CNA at a long term facility. Definitely the hardest thing that happened to me there was a man died on my shift that I was supposed to be taking care of and they wanted me to help clean and prepare the body. I had worked with him on and off for a few months up until this point, and upon seeing his dead body I completely broke down into tears. Couldn’t do it. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about doing something like that anymore. Kudos to you guys for doing such a hard job.
Interviewing suicide survivors I feel like that’ll help a lot of people going through that pain, Ik what it’s like. Kevin Hines would be a great person to do the interview with, his story is so powerful and just shows that there is hope
I was so lucky to find a good loss survivors group with my first loves mom and sister. I always hoped that our loved one could see how close I became with him family after being broke up for 9 years. His current gf at the time moved on instantly, posting half naked pics a month later. It was insane. He was such a prize & I hate that he’s gone forever because of their rocky relationship but mainly his pain and not being able to cope at that time. 😞
Same. I have pretty much constant suicidal ideation, and a huge part of not wanting to cause emotional trauma for anyone who would find my body and have to clean it up is a big part of why I haven't gone through with it. Tbh, I strongly support doctor assisted suicide because 1) at least the patient will have access to a medical professional that can offer treatment for their mental illness and 2) if the patient doesn't respond to treatment, or chooses to forego treatment, then the suffering caused by their passing is minimized for the people around them
I would love to see Anthony do an episode on living with misophonia. It doesn’t get talked about nearly as much as I feel it should. It’s not even in the DSM-5 yet, though from personal experience I can say it is very much real and needs to be considered an official diagnosis.
My step dad has misophonia, he suspects he got it sometime he was deployed because he's in the army. Things like eating popcorn kernals or making clicking sounds to call the dogs really trigger it
@@TheOverlordPepper that’s so interesting! I previously had a wonderful therapist specializing in misophonia who believed that it was often caused by a traumatic event in a persons life, causing them to be hypersensitive to certain sounds so if she’s correct (which I personally believe she is) then it’s entirely possible that a traumatic event could cause your step-father’s misophonia (Edited to correct wording)
When my cousin committed suicide, my family asked me to handle everything. They couldn't stand the thought of the family home looking like that while I was away on vacation, and the courts had not yet approved me as executor, so I cut out the carpet, cut off the mattress cover and pillowcases. When I got approved to spend estate funds, I hired a professional company to complete the process. The two young men were empathetic, compassionate and totally professional. It's hard to believe you can be pleased with anything to do with the aftermath of the suicide of a family member, but these two guys were a godsend to our family.
I was an Ambulance Officer for five years, so I have seen very sick/injured people and major trauma scenes, dead bodies have a very, very strong familiar smell. One my first shift I was told the most important person is you, you need to look after yourself first, specifically ie keep your emotions/attitude in check. My basic approach was this, I was simply doing a job helping folks but I had a very realistic attitude/belief that the patients ultimate fate was not only determined by my input/actions but so many other variables.
As a CSI, I have experienced some horrific scenes that includes huge amounts of blood, flesh, brain matter, and other bodily fluids. The CS cleanup crew has all my respect because these scenes are extremely difficult to clean up and deal with.
My aunt had to clean up her son, my cousin’s, apartment after he took his life with his rifle. I wish I had been older at the time and closer to help. It makes me sad to think of her doing it alone. These people are so compassionate and I am glad they are there to help people like my aunt as they grieve.
Thank you Jacob, Laura, and Neal for your service! Obviously crime scene cleaning isn't for everyone... You all are heroes. Hey Anthony, can you please make a future video about spending a day with people who are childfree by choice (not wanting to have biological or adopted children/no desire to experience parenthood)? More people have been choosing this option and it'd be interesting to hear about men's and women's perspectives about it these days. Thank you!
i used to be as a trade embalmer and worked with the hospital embalming donated bodies for medical student research/dissections. we encountered these kinds of cleaning crews regularly and sympathize a lot with their experiences. thank you for doing what you do 🙏🏻❤️
14 years ago my grandparents died after some time in nursing homes. At the end of their time there me and a buddy were gonna move out from home for the first time and mom(their daugther) had the idea that we could move into her parents old home as it was very close to either family, but still provided us that "moved from home and can be independent" feel. Well, before we could move in, we had to clear out all the old stuff that had basically been sitting there untouched for nearly 2 years. Logically, the power had been cut for the past year as noone was living there any more. Someone clearly failed to think about their basement, and cleaning out 2 large freezers filled with frozen meat and other... variables. To this day the smell that hit my nose when we opened the first of those sits with me. I had to bolt from that basement and couldn't deal being down there until those freezers were gone. I imagine what I smelled that day was a sample size of what these people deal with on a nearly daily basis...
I’ve been following Laura Spaulding for years now. So happy to see this video giving her and her work the recognition that she deserves. Such an amazing and inspiring woman!
When I was a housekeeper at a nursing home I had to scrub blood out of a ladies carpet who had fell and I sobbed because of how LONG it took and just being quiet and thinking about the lady and everything. I can’t imagine doing this. Super huge props to these people 💖
"It's all about love and servitude for your neighbor" just..... wow. a society needs all kinds of people, and i am so grateful that we have folks like this out there, taking care of people in a needed way. thank you guys for talking about this, amazing interview !!!
I lost two people last year, less than a month apart, to suicide. I had to help clean what was left of one person because we couldn’t afford to hire crime scene cleaners. Surprisingly that’s not the part that bothers me at all it’s just the simple fact that they were in too much pain to handle what they were going through. I didn’t have to do the same for the other person luckily. I was 17 at the time. I’ve battled suicidal thoughts and I still do to this day so that’s why it hit me even harder because I was once in that position and I know exactly how they felt. I was just lucky enough to manage those thoughts.
wow this has to be one of the toughest jobs out there - physically and emotionally. ive seen a lot of crime scenes on the internet but i cannot imagine being there in real life and witnessing the aftermath of a tragedy. props to these people for doing the stuff that most of us can say that we will never want to do in our lifetime
8:35 Anthony looked so teary eyed. I feel so bad for both the families and the cleanup of a lost human being done by PEOPLE. This world hurts. "This world can hurt you, it cuts you deep and leaves a scar" -Mark Ronson
@@primo2419 they clean bodies, fecies, entire houses, wake up at extremely unpredictable hours, and risk their health cleaning biohazards every day. They do things not everyone has the mental capacity to do. They deserve to get paid so much more.
@@LauraSpaulding Agreed! As soon as I saw “crime scene cleaners” in the title, I immediately thought of you! Was a little sad when I didn’t see Kyle in the video, as well lol
Hearing these people talk about their experiences really makes it sink in just that little bit more.. their absolute heroes and I give them all my respect for the guts they obviously have
So glad you had Laura on! I found her channel (Crime scene cleanup) in 2020 and honestly started thinking about getting into that kind of work, but realized it probably wasn’t completely for me haha. But it did help me figure out I wanted to get into the death care field of work. so now I’m certified to do cremations, and hopefully will find a job opening for it soon. So thanks to Laura for inadvertently helping me there! Lol
I love Laura too!! How her channel explains everything and how they try to find light in things during the gory work, and honestly as a person with depression…I’m glad there are channels like her, because I could never imagine the amount of pain that I or ANYONE could leave for the loved ones that have to witness a body that was once their child,friend or just loved one in general. Makes me thankful in an odd way that I’ve never went that deep. I feel terrible for the ones who have. If a friend of mine feels like ending it I plead with them calmly to check themselves in, call a hotline and please think about it. I just hope Anthony’s…and these crime scene cleaners channels or work can help those who want to end it to change their minds.
@@sixxrachel definitely agree! It was a good but hard way to put certain things into perspective for me with my own mental health struggles. I’m glad it helped you too 💙
Honestly, I despise real blood. It's hard to deal with and makes me throw up. These guys are legends for having a whole career doing what others have phobias of.
It's so great for all these people to get an outlet to let other people be more aware, and get an understanding of things others dont know. This would take a huge toll on anyone doing the job. Mad respect! And thank you Anthony for educating many! 🙏
When my brother was killed, my mom and I almost sent each other into hysteria because we couldn’t find where they had taken his body and no one would answer us. I completely understand the girl who took the piece of her father’s bone and wore it around her neck.
I wish we had you guys after the homicide in our family. The adults in my family had to clean the blood off of everything and remove the carpets. I don't think it was helpful for their grieving process.
I'm not sure if people typically have to or how that goes but in our case my step dad murdered my mom who was pregnant with their child and then himself. So the homeowners were dead and they had to sell the house. My sister who was 18 at the time came back to get things in order and a lot of older family members came to get things squared away. I don't think any of us knew a service like this existed. I'm sure that job is extremely difficult, the guy who was talking about how it's completely different than seeing blood and violence on tv, and it not comparing to real life is absolutely right. Nothing could prepare you for that. But especially when it's family, it's literally just hell. I'm grateful that these people do what they do, it really is needed.
I think they were right that the grieving process is really different for everyone. I think a lot of it would come down to what happened and how an individual processes grief. My father and grandmother passed away (natural causes) in at my mom's house when I was still living there with them. It wasn't a huge clean up because someone was with them both times, but I think being in control in the process of putting everything back to "normal" was really important to my mom. I couldn't handle it with my dad, I was still in high school, and stayed with my boyfriend's family for two days afterwards. It wasn't until I started realizing that I was developing an aversion to being on a second floor of any building that I forced myself to start being in the areas of the house that I associated with that traumatic event. It was when I started having a panic attack going up the stairs at school that I knew I was on the cusp of developing a phobia that I could either deal with immediately, or have cripple me for the rest of my life. It was terrifying, because I knew that my own body was starting to spin outside of my own control, and I had so little power to control it
I've watched some of Laura's videos. Her staff is amazing. I have to stop watching at a certain point tho. If you are feeling like KO'ing it, watch a few of these videos.... you will change your mind, at least, It did for me. It's unimaginable the mess that's left behind. Both physically and emotionally. These workers are heroes. Also, call your friends and family member and check up on them...some of these cases sit for months and no one knew or cared.
Anthony, can you do one with Veterinarians? I think it would be very eye opening to so many people what we go through in Vet Med. There are so many amazing doctors with soooo many stories that people outside of the field would never know.
That sounds so exhausting mentally, I obviously know I could never do this job; but also I'm writing it down on my list of reasons to stay alive cause holy crap did this give me a perspective on how much the people who are left behind suffer.
I love watching the crime scene cleaner videos. Such a hard job. It really sucks when families can’t afford these guys. Then they have to clean the carnage.
@@glorynicol7189 Well - if they are proffessional enough, they would most likely want to clean up themselves. Also - what about suicides? The perpetrator is the one being cleaned in that case ... so who do you charge? If I ever decide to blow my brain out, I do hope the government won't bill me after! If they do, I'll be pretty pissed off!
@@glorynicol7189 yeah I meant more on the side of suicides. Sadly, I was in this situation a few years ago. My husband committed suicide and we couldn’t afford a crew to cleanup. My brothers stepped in.
@@velvet9724 I can relate. In 2013 my fiance committed suicide. I actually thought in the moment it was just part of the police response to have the main part where it took place cleaned, at least SOMETHING. I was in a haze of shock and grief at the time and couldnt comprehend that they were leaving me with all the blood
I could not do this...takes special kind of people to have this job title. I cannot imagine a world where people just left things as is. Thanks to them for all they do! They are underrated & definitely needed.
All I can say is thank you Anthony for this episode. I recently lost all my friends due to stuff related to this episode. This stuff makes us think so much and half the time it's not the right thoughts. man I'm glad you did an episode on this. love you forever Anthony
All this suicide talk is upsetting me quite a lot. My brother passed from suicide, and my friend's 17 year old son just barely took his own life as well. BOTH ARE SO upsetting for everyone. My brother's was a while back, but I still think of him everyday and have been crying a lot every day for my brother and my friend's son for the past week and still am. I was asked if I wanted to see my brother's body at the scene of his death. I decided no. I didn't, couldn't believe he was actually gone. But I did see him at the mortuary and they said before I went in to see him that they'd made him more presentable to look at. After hearing all these stories being told here, I am so glad I didn't see him in the state he was in right after his suicide. I also wonder if any of these things happened to his body. I am very naive about how horrific death can really look like. I am quite upset, but will continue watching this to the end.
Don’t watch anything that is going to upset you! I’m sure Anthony appreciates the support but he’s got tons of other videos for you to watch that won’t upset you or talk about something that triggers you! Your mental health comes first💛 I’m sorry to read your story & I hope you’re able to heal as much as you can from something like that. Please take care of yourself!
Hey Julie, I don’t know what’s best to say. I know nothing makes this better; but I feel compelled to tell you you are loved and I’m sure your brother loved you very deeply. I hope your brother has found some peace wherever he is now🤍 Please Protect your heart and mind as best you can from anything triggering, even these type of videos. Nothing wrong with grieving but reach out to your support system if things get to heavy.
I've had a lot of people close to me pass, and how I processed them all was different every time, and how I coped looked different from how the people around me were dealing with their grief. It felt exactly like when you are climbing stairs in the dark, and you get to the top, and you think there should be one more step there isn't one. That feeling, but it just keeps happening over and over again. I can't tell you how to get through your grief, but I can tell you that eventually it will be something that you learn to live with. For me, it's similar to how losing a finger or limb would feel, but emotional rather than physical. It hurts, your life and how you move through it is permanently altered. But over time you can learn to adapt, and even thrive despite the loss. It's harder to do simple things, and sometimes you'll reflexively try to reach out to that missing part, and probably fall flat on your face and it'll be hard to get back up again. This Doctor Who quote helped give me some prospective- "The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don’t always spoil the good things and make them unimportant." Take care of yourself, and whatever that looks like, it's valid. If something, like watching videos like this, causes a lot of pain to resurface, it's okay to pause it and set it down. You can come back to if if you want, or not. Feeling pain is how our bodies tell us that damage has occurred, mentally or physically. It's how we know that we need to stop what we are doing and focus on how to help ourselves recover from that trauma. It's how we knew when we need help, and it pushes us to reach out for it. I wish there was a way that I could prevent anyone from having to go through all of the things that you and your loved ones are going through. I wish I could make it better. All I can give you is that in my experience, you will still experience joy, laughter, contentment, and any other positive emotion. You can't fight them any more than you can fight the negative ones. Your life will be different, the way you experience those things will be different. But you'll learn that just because the good things are different doesn't mean that they aren't valuable, even if they aren't what you had hoped for.
I was waiting for this waaaay too long. Great strength these people carry physically and emotionally and don't even make me talk about their huge awareness of their role in making a "better" place. Thanks to Anthony and the people being interviewed :)
I really like how you edit your videos. This one made me feel like I was watching a forensic files documentary which is so sick. Your so good at what you do. I’ve been a fan since for forever💛
@@shey8984 no yeah for sure the kid should not have had access to the weapon. That's why it's so heartbreaking to me. It is something that is so easily preventable if you put the gun out of reach, or lock it, or straight up if you didn't have it. And your right it's absolute negligence. It's appalling.
this is really interesting seeing this point of view of these situations. my dad is a medical death examiner he basically the person there before it gets cleaned up he goes to the scenes and pretty much examines the body to find a cause of death. i’ve heard some pretty crazy stories from his work in my life. if would be great to see an episode on this!
If you don’t mind me asking how long of schooling did it take for him to do? I’m trying to head down that bath and see how it goes or something similar!
@@zackramirez7409 I’m not sure about the US or Europe but generally you need to become a forensic pathologist which is whatever you need to do to enter medical school, obtaining a medical degree (either doc of medicine or surgical) + specialising. It’s 10-14 years.
It pays relatively well because it's an on-call job that most people don't want to do, and doesn't require any sort of degrees, so that period of time makes a lot of sense to me to be honest.
Years ago, my uncle was at work and his coworker fell onto a large table saw and was sawed in half right in front of him within seconds. He was the only one there with the man who died. He endured so much shock and trauma in a matter of seconds and had to go to the hospital for treatment. He rarely ever talks about it, but the ppl people who knew him before that say he was never the same again. Also props to these people for cleaning up stuff like that.
There’s few KRplusrs on this platform that can transform their channels into something amazing after so many years of being here! Your content right now Anthony is so inspiring and always helps me to learn more about certain harsh matters Would love to see you cover more about BPD and crime Thanks for all you do x
Omg the story of the Little five year old Broke my heart.... May they rest in piece 💕 Ps- Parents if You have Guns put them in a secure place where children can't reach it
![[EN/JP] 탑게이 impossible 완성시킨 💎라이즈①💎 l 홍석천의 보석함 시즌2 EP.09](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/ydRNw-e9C3Y/mqdefault.jpg)
![[ENG] 눈물의 여왕 홍해인 본캐, 김지원! 알고 보니 애교 많은 깜고잖아요?💗ㅣ인마이백ㅣ눈물의 여왕ㅣ줌터뷰](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/hML98xV8Jcw/mqdefault.jpg)
![수상한 연구소 (Suspicious Lab) #2｜[SKZ CODE] Ep.48](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/b-ztNXTxxLA/mqdefault.jpg)
![[스페셜] 등장만으로 투수조 사기 저하💦 역대급 트라이아웃 지원자의 등장💥 | 최강야구 | JTBC 240415 방송](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/XS5qT9orzdA/mqdefault.jpg)
come back next week for *I spent a day with CARMEN & LUPITA* “Conjoined But Individual”
UNCENSORED ON SPOTIFY ▸ open.spotify.com/show/5aOLuPenneHbhLh05fmkeu
UNCENSORED ON APPLE ▸ podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-spent-a-day-with/id1550213250
ok
I'll be here
Panthony Adilla
Bleb hello
Can't wait
I lost both my grandfather and my dad to suicide, and I was forced to clean up after them. A LOT of people don't realize that if they don't have the money after someone dies from a violent or traumatic death, the clean up isn't done by the police. You'll have to do it yourself if you can't afford crime scene cleanup.
It's the main reason I decided to get into crime and trauma scene cleanup. And even though it's hard, it's absolutely worth it to spare other families the pain of going through what I did.
Thanks for your service mate I'm so sorry for you loss
jesus dude i'm so sorry
I’m so sorry, thank you for doing what you do.
I am terribly sorry for your loss. Thank you for your service
Thank you for all you do 🖤
As a funeral director who sees the aftermath of these tragedies for only a short period of time, I can’t imagine doing what these people do. Mad props to them, it’s a tough job.
Me neither I don’t think I could ever do this job also thank you for doing a job that I don’t think most would want to do :)
Thank you for what you do! My friend was murdered and the funeral home was able to reconstruct her well enough for an open casket. It allowed all of us who loved her to say goodbye and get a bit of closure. The funeral home director was so kind to her parents and sensitive to the fact that her mom had a restraining order against her dad. He did an incredible job managing such a complicated and heavy situation. Your profession helps people grieve and heal.
And you do the latter half of the cleanup! You deserve just at much props. You help families get that last moment.
It's a grim job for sure. Specialy when you think about your own mortality, you know - now you are cleaning, tomorow you are the one being cleaned.
@@Bottoms-Park_Lake No they do not. You would have to have a lot of empathy to be there for the families during times of horrific tragedy. These three especially do not have aspd.
My mother in law INSISTED on cleaning up after my sons dads suicide by gunshot to his head. She said she brought him into world and she needed to be there to the very end. I have so much respect for her as a mother. I couldn’t do it
The only things that worry me are 1. What lasting trauma did that leave her? And 2. If she could properly ensure all the biohazards for lack of a better term, we're disposed of properly. So sad. I wish this service was government funded.
I wouldn’t want anyone cleaning up my child that’s my job. I would need to say goodbye 😢and cry the entire time it’s closer
@@michellebeno6577 It's so stupid that it isn't government funded...
That's how I felt when my mom died... She passed away of a heart attack. There was a lot of dry blood in her room. I cleaned every inch of the place because I loved her so much I wanted to leave the last place she was a good place 😭
When my 1SGTs wife died, he wouldn't let the cemetery bury her. He put every last drop of earth on her. It was so heart breaking.
I know it's a serious topic, but the bad service from Laura's camera transforming her Into an occadional elderich horror has got me in tears
I was looking for this comment 😂
@@annalisajohnson5759 Same!!😂
I thought it was my phone lagging 😂😂
same what is wrong with me 😭
I wanted to say it but didn't have the balls
this seems like a terrifying, but rather interesting job. props to them, i'd never be able to do this.
Also probably rewarding that you can help people but also so grim
It does seem rather interesting doesn’t it
There is a show called "move to heaven" and its about a father son duo doing this job. Main reason that they give people for doing this is that they can show care and respect for the person that once existed and to help their soul rest.
Yeah its gnarly as hell for sure
Fr the smell is awful they say
How they can do this almost everyday is astounding, props to them for being the people to do this kind if job!
These guys are used to this at this point
@@justsomeguywholovesberserk6375 of course they do, at some level, but you don't lose your feelings.... it's a hard job
if? of*
@@Benjaminn69 Probably just misspelled :)
@@justsomeguywholovesberserk6375 You get used to seeing deaths while working in the hospital but it’s never easy to deal with :/
This might sound incredibly naive, but I honestly had never considered that people have to pay to have this done. And if they don't that they have to do it themselves. I can't even begin to imagine how traumatic that would be.
MOST people do it themselves... Unfortunately
in some countries it's common for people to do it outside the city so their family doesn't have to pay for the cleaning
There should be something set up for families struggling.
Yeah like
Wtf
@@ashlieghdeeble9112 do they? Holy shit
I just wanna say thank you for not freaking out or demonising the daughter who kept a piece of her dad’s bone
Honestly as someone into vulture culture (bones and taxidermy etc) I understand the desire to keep it, and grief manifests in strange ways too.
It might seem strange to most but it's not abnormal to want to keep something to be close to someone you love
I still have the clothing my dad died in. And the dirty clothing he wore up to the days b4 he died.
I have his hair that was in the carpet where his head was. He had a massive heartattack on Xmas day 2017. It shocked his body and he flew backwards landed in the hallway floor. He hit the floor soo hard the house shook and the Xmas tree almost fell over. My Gemma (his mom) and his wife cradled his head as he was dying. My frama called 911 the pd. No one answered she called my aunt who use to be an emt. Who came over with my cousin and they gave my dad cpr for 30 mins before the ambulance and police showed up.
Whole they were giving him cpr my grama called her sisters who had to walk over to the e.r services trailer to get their attention. This is in a very rural area so the town has an ambulance service. By the time ems got there my dad was alllll the way dead. And my grama sent them off and called the coroner herself. Anyway the impact of his fall was so hard it pulled a wad of hair out of his head and imbedded it into the carpet.
I pulled out that piece chunk of hair from the carpet and kept it.
His clothing still smells like him. But ppl think uts weird I still have these particular items. But for me it's all I have left of my daddy. So I can understand her keeping the Jaw if that's all I had I would keep it too
@@jordankay8578 thank you for sharing. I’m really glad you got to hold onto those pieces of your dad ❤️
@@jordankay8578 that's not weird at all jordan, if it helps you then other people can mind their own business. i completely understand wanting to keep a piece of a loved one after they pass. i'm sorry for your loss.
Let's take a moment to appreciate Anthony giving a voice to all of these people, giving them a moment to say what they want too when before they may have never gotten the opportunity.
HELP!!! Everybody at my school cyberbullies me because they say me good good GOOD videos are extremely BAD!!! Please help me, dear ur
@@AxxLAfriku Based Bullies
@@AxxLAfriku oh hey it's that one elmo looking mask guy
@@AxxLAfriku hey, stop
Yes 100% I love how much diversity is in his interviews to give them their voice! Also love your username :)
Great talking with you Anthony! Thank you so much for having me and letting me share part of my life with ya!
Who where you ??
@@Nigerian_mann it’s jacobs channel
Jake you seem like such a cool and awesome person that everyone would wanna be friends with, thanks for helping make content!
Omg! It’s you. Thank you for all you do!
thanks for doing the stuff you do
When my sister committed suicide in our bathroom, obviously we hired a clean up crew. And what they said about grief is so true. I watched my mom dig through my sisters ashes and pull out pieces of boned. Grief is....something else..
Hey, hope you’re doing well now, I’m so sorry for your loss
rest in peace 🕊️🎗️
One of my buddies moved to a city apartment. After a while she started wondering why are there so many flies flying around that she couldn't get rid of.
Turned out former guy who had been living there had done a suicide and had melted to the concrete under the floortiles and they had simply put new tiles over the old ones without cleaning it properly.
😬
That's horrible..
Jesus...
This sounds like it could be a plot from CSI! Like whoa dude!
Mad props to these people for doing a job like this. I would be pretty traumatised to clean something where the death once laid there.
Damn... can’t imagine what being a bitch all my life would feel like
@@addictedtomoney2196 okay tough guy 😂
@@addictedtomoney2196 well you don't have to. It's your reality appearently.
@@jokerman9623 coo
IT'S THE OWO-
These crime scene cleaners who post these graphic photos have saved my life. When I was experiencing unalive urges, it was seeing these graphic images that made me realize, that I didn’t want anyone to see me like that, especially whoever finds me. Maybe it’s partially my vanity, but either way it changed my life.
So glad youre still here! Keep fighting, you deserve a good life.
I’m so glad you’re still here 💕
I have a similar reminder in the memories I have of cleaning up the scene of my cousin's suicide, and watching what it did to his sister to have been the one to find him. Any reason to stay alive is a good reason!
Fuck yea
After finding a friend hanging it definitely made me think twice about unaliving the grief, the mess, seeing how it affected even the EMS I just couldn’t anymore.
Stay strong you are not alone!! 💕
shit, i didn't realize it was a service you had to pay for. I mean it's obvious, but i had hope that there was some government funding for it. I can't imagine the trauma of cleaning up after a loved one, utter horror. Along with funeral, cremation, mortuary, corpse beautification costs and so on (i honestly don't know the whole process), dying is really financially taxing on family & friends, you end up stressing about all the expenses and it feels like such an awful way to end off a life
Welcome to america the most fucked Up country in the world in every other Part of the world you dont have to pay for something Like that
Your goverment is fucking you mentaly and physically
You think someone who killed someone is a Bad person think about it Most of the time ITS the goverments or socitys fault
Right :(
The government will never help anyone unless it's a payday for them unfortunately.
My mother attended a grief counseling group and a woman shared that her teenage son had accidentally been killed by his friend who was messing around with a gun while they were hanging out in her son’s bedroom. My mother was choking back tears while she told me that she had asked the woman, “Where were your friends?” My mother just couldn’t imagine being forced to scrub your child’s blood and remains from the floors and walls of your home.
The story absolutely wrecked me. I’ll just never forget my mother’s grief stricken face or the mental image of another mother cleaning up what remained of her son. In an instant, two families were destroyed. Life is full of horrors and sometimes, it feels like a miracle that any of us can find joy
My aunt is a crime scene cleaner and she is probably the strongest person I know. I stayed with her a lot and she would come home from a job, always greeting us, able to smile until one day when she came home just completely in shock. I've never seen her like that before and I can only imagine what she saw. The people who do this kinda job are truly strong and I hope they continue doing what they love. I know I could never, any gore and I'm out. I'd pass out instantly
I’ve been interested in the job for a while so it’s interesting hearing it from someone else. We’ll see.
Did you ask what happened?
These people are what I call the “last responders” I have so much respect for what they do. I follow a few crime scene clean up companies online. They are so respectful and informative.
Yesss, I used that hashtag on tiktok!!
@@smileyriley1001 bruh
Yo why you following them? you really tryna see gross shit like that? 😭
@@501jaylee i've been following laura's youtube channel for years because i do want to see it :) i debated joining a company like hers for years but i have some physical disabilities that would make it very hard so i scrapped that idea
@@501jaylee it is gross, but I find it really interesting!
That story about the woman wearing her dads jaw as a necklace is stuck with me. Like that’s a whole different level of grief and trauma a lot of people won’t ever experience.
sounds like she did it and wears it as a trophy
@@ohwellidk I doubt that. Most of the ppl in my life including myself wear our loved ones ashes in lockets around our necks. I lost my mind for one of the deaths my loved one inflicted on himself. I can imagine losing your mind enough to do something like the jaw bone thing. So sad 😞
I’m not sure how legal it is to simply handover a body part like that to someone else for safe keeping.
@@donnadanielsen9411 to be fair they have to pay for the service meaning if they wanted they could do it themselves which I guess in a sense means all the left over parts belong to them. As weird as that sounds.
i probably would want a piece of my dad too, but im not sure I'd wear it as jewelry
Neal is THE O.G Crime Scene Cleaner and I am frickin' stoked you interviewed him for this. He's signed NDA's for crime scenes and has seen crime scenes where we haven't even publicly heard about what happened.
I’m just watching this ep now, but as soon as I read the title I hoped he would be in the interview!
Neil is a bit of a nutjob to be honest
The story of that 5 year old is just…heartbreaking, I’m speechless
it's unfortunately way more common than people realize. people dont lock up their guns and then a kid finds it and either accidentally shoots themself or others, normally leading to death. it's horrible especially because it's a preventable tragedy.
I hope this video brings some attention to body transporters too! Aka the ones who go in to bag and remove a decedent before the cleaners even arrive. Working that job taught me A LOT.
Thanks for doing this job. It’s kind of professions that people don’t realize is needed on daily basis.
@@kamekomiyamora I'm really interested into getting into these types of fields as a career, and doing the stuff that people don't know about, that is still regarded as very important. Do you have any suggestions or knowledge about it, if you don't mind sharing?
@@Diana-whathappenedin97 yea , someone unfortunately has to do it, and it takes a true brave person to face it.
SQUID GAMES GUARDS 😳😳😳
I’m sorry I’m very immature
I actually did think about that field during the video when they discussed how bodies basically liquify. Wondering “How on earth do you transport the body then? What do you take? What do you leave behind? Do you need a shovel?” Every individual in the process plays a vital role!
It’d be interesting to see him talk with Suicide prevention hotline workers. I’m sure there will have been times where they couldn’t help the people who called and while it is dark.. I would be interested to see how their work really is
Edit: never gotten this many likes on a comment before- Ty!
oo yes!!! would love to see that!
This would be so interesting!
So true that’d be super interesting
i 100% agree
Yess I would love to see that too
Being a funeral director I see this stuff way more than I’d like to say. We’re on scene to retrieve the deceased. We go to suicides, decomposition, accidents, fires. Unfortunately we don’t have full gear. We are usually showing up to these in suits and we have to be professional the whole time. Handling decomposition and maggots and purge in a suit ain’t fun.
I feel like that's wrong in some way. I can understand to a point why but I really feel like you guys should be allowed good PPE for picking up the deceased. Or at least have some kind of system where you have some guys in PPE helping remove the deceased, especially in extreme situations, and another individual in a suit talking to the family.
I thought medical examiners arrived at the scene to take the body then after that it goes to funeral directors
@@CN-hv1fx it depends on the state and county. Here where I work the ME comes out and does an investigation then we are hired by the county to provide transportation to where the autopsy will be performed.
“Death is fUnKY” YALL I CANT THAT WAS TOO FUNNY 💀💀
Edited: It just bothers me how y'all make me look weird now lol, like can i just be confuse atleast for once?😭
Because at first I'm so confused why she thought that was funny until i finished the video.
@@Ale_xandra1u ok tf
@@Ale_xandra1 ok weirdo
@@TheAmazingCatman it's just how you understand things💀
@@Ale_xandra1 ok weirdo who uses 💀 emoji still 💀💀💀
True crime community doesn't give enough respect for these people. (Neither does anyone else, but cause it's crime related and we're on KRplus.. )
They have stories any of us can't imagine, thank you Anthony for giving them a voice 🙏
True
I'm not even sure many people know this kind of job exists. It's not something you'd think much about until you need to.
Try Mr. Ballen^^ he tells it from the victim's perspective and includes all sorts of things like their job, family, pets, hobbies etc plus his storytelling skills are great and he researches quite thoroughly. Stuff like real photos and police reports too
@@feb4305 yess Mr. Ballen is one of a kind on the true crime field, and weird mysterious disappearances etc. 👍
Highly recommended it for anyone who's interested in the strange dark and mysterious delivered in story format 🙌
@@ilarious5729 and for people who have a burning hate for the like button
As a crime scene cleanup technician I would just like to add one thing. Its a tragedy, and I'm so happy to be there and help people through it.
thank you for your work ♥️
thank you 😊
Hey, I'm really interested in this kind of job, should I have some kind of certificate or diploma to be a cleaner?
@@madamsatan6 In my experience I was hired by the company and they put me through any training necessary. I did not need any prior experience or schooling.
@@XxDainBramagedxX, thank you very much ❤️
As a child, I always wanted to be a 911 dispatcher. Something about not being the hero, but still being able to save someone's life from the phone was always a fascination. But I could never stomach the stuff they deal with. Massive props to these people, they have a stomach I could only wish
This man is so strong for not crying, I mean you can see him trying to hold it in. So strong how these people are and Anthony for interviewing them
crying isnt a sign of weakness. not crying isnt a sign of strength. this is the type of rhetoric that makes people feel like they cant show their emotions to anyone, which is what often ends up leading to the tragedies the video mentioned. please consider that. /gen
Anthony, I would like to see a video of women who have had children from rape. Actually this is my story too, I don't know if I would feel ready to be public on something like this, but I know there are actually a lot of women raising kids conceived from sexual assault. It would be great to share this perspective. And explain how happy, healthy families can grow out of trauma. Be it a single mother and her child or a woman who chose to raise her assailant's child with her partner. This is definitely a reality that is under the radar and not talked about enough.
that would be very interesting. sorry you went through that...Glad you had your baby though.
I also would be very interested to hear these stories, though I feel he may end up with guests who have a more positive view of their children. It’s not my story, but it could have been, and if I had had to have my abuser’s child I would have resented the child for their entire life. It would be informative but also potentially biased towards a pro-birth side of the issue
Eek. That is a ROUGH topic, with a full truckload of worms on board. Would be interesting to see how Anthony approached it though. He's always so lovely to people who have been through trauma, but that's DEFINITELY a topic that would cause a fascinating comment section... (I only know one person who raised her rapist's child. The man was her ex, he was batshit insane, and ended up in prison for murder. The apple, sadly, didn't fall far from the tree, so things didn't end as well as it sounds like your story did. Glad things worked out for you though!)
I have a 17 year old kid from a rape that I didn't accept was a rape until a few years ago. I have spent the last 17 years parenting with their father and stepmom, but I still have no idea how to deal with my pain. I vividly remember sobbing on the floor of the bathroom afterwards. I'd convinced myself for years it's because I knew my life was about to change because I somehow KNEW I was pregnant.. But really it's because I remember saying no. I remember trying to wash him out of me with his grandmothers frilly towels and then I collapsed. I love my kid with all my heart and cannot imagine life without them. But I was raped.
Oh my god I'm so sorry you had to go through that... I hope you and your baby are better now
A video idea: self aware narcissists. They've helped me more with getting over my narcissist than any victim group etc
I agree with this. No one chooses to become a narcissist and we're actually some of the most insecure people. There is so much misinformation surrounding this topic, I would love a video on it!
@@jeollabackgurl i wish if this video becomes reality that cluster b milkshake is included. there's bunch of narcissist creators who bring absolutely nothing of use to the table, they just say what everyone wants to hear (who would have guessed lol) but mama milkshakes videos are like harsh therapy lol
@@jeollabackgurl I’m assuming there are different levels/kinds of narcissism, (I haven’t done much research on it) the only narcissistic person in my life is completely unaware of her tendencies and actions. She totally believes she’s normal
I haven’t really thought of narcissists being aware of it
@@Breaksticks01 most are unaware and some say they are aware but don't actually believe it and then there's ones who are aware and do their best to be aware of their behaviors
this would be incredibly interesting!
The daughter that kept part of her fathers jaw bone- I can understand this… I mean, some of us as pet owners will cut fur off our pets after they have passed & will keep it so it feels like at least /some/ of their physical being is still with you. We just can’t seem to physically let go sometimes.
I agree, it's hard to let go.
Thank you for mentioning the hotline Anthony. I literally started crying, as someone who has been suicidal it touched me
I am way too soft to even think about getting into a profession like this. When Laura said about the little boy I teared up instantly.
i was the same when i heard about the child, these people are so incredible
I actually felt my stomach drop and my mouth open when she first said that.. only 5 😔 so gutwrenching
It makes me wonder if there are separate departments or options for people in this field to opt out of certain jobs if its too much for them. Or at least potentially those with more experience willing to take them for the sake of the newer recruits...
Based on what was said in the video however, I don't think its likely there's the option to opt out unless you plan on leaving the field.
@Snicker Snacker there is! Most smaller companies or if you’re just contracting from a bigger company you can pick and choose what to do. Like i only do suicides and avoid grizzly deaths.
Same. Like what these death crime people are dealing with are insane. Legends just legends. HUDGE props to them.
I can imagine you’d be so desensitised after a while, and might not even realise that they’re mental health is taking a toll, I hope these guys are all good.
Honestly, I think that's one reason they even said in the interview they were picky about who they let have the job. They probably want people who won't necessarily get completely desensitized since it could impact the empathy they need to keep for the ones paying them....At least that's my best guess.
...I can't imagine anyone starting the job without having a hard time though. Unless they've been actively involved in a situation like it before. And that's just on the mental side of things.
It’s called Vicarious Trauma and it can be a gradual accumulation like you described. You can also be triggered by something immediately in the moment and the trigger isn’t necessarily something traumatic or confronting either, it could be the jewellery of the deceased or a family photo or witnessing the grief of family.
Speaking to colleagues, debriefing and good work-life balance are important protective factors against VT.
I think the lady who decided to keep her father’s jaw was super cool.
In history, people have made jewelry of their loved ones’ hair, teeth, and bone. It’s a way to hold on to the remnants of that person. People didn’t always have the ability to have photos of loved ones, and even what they did, it might be more helpful for someone to have a physical reminder of that person.
Yeah people in history also burned each other alive, forced each other into slavery, and publicly executed each other, this isn’t going to be normalized
as a housekeeper who’s cleaned up a sink full of booboo, and even had someone pass away at a hotel I cleaned at and couldn’t even bring myself to sign up for that room…. These people are mf badass. It doesn’t take heartless ppl do do this job, but the exact opposite. Not easy at all
I understand the woman who took her fathers jaw and wore it. When I was younger my dog died and I had unburied the body and I reached into the bag and took a tooth from my dead dog and kept it in my backpack when I was little. Its a way to grieve and although it sounds strange it can be heart breaking to deal with things. Everyone handles death differently.
I don’t think keeping a tooth from your dog is strange. My beloved cat always shed a lot so when he passed unexpectedly, I was thankful to have kept some of his fur. But I wish I had saved more of it. Now with my new cat, I intend to save as much of her as I can (shed nail, shed fur, her favorite blanket, etc.) and record her beautiful voice when she talks to me.
I don’t think I’d want a tooth or jaw from a loved one, but I certainly value things that I associate with and remind me of them.
Yeah, when my father died me and my mom requested to have some of his hair. The funeral director said it wouldn't be a problem, and that it's a really common thing people ask for.
Cubone from pokemon
@@Victoria-dh9vb I’m really glad they did that for you.
@@cdy Oof…that hurt.
What's most interesting is that you can see how someone changes with experience. While the youngest was analyzing everything, thinking the what ifs and whys; the older woman was in between the lines, she saw things as a job, but still had that connection. The older gentleman was more open and saw it all as a job that needs to be done and he's the one to do it.
Very interesting observation
The older guy is a total psychopath... Eerie guy.
@@thisiscait Idk if you work in anything related to healthcare, but, you just desensitize to most things over time.
The 5 year old story was devastating...
How many times should I say this
KEEP YOUR GUNS AWAY FROM CHILDREN.
AND KEEP THEM UN-LOADED
This is 100% correct but the only reason I think people keep their guns loading is invade someone breaks in you can instantly shoot them instead of having to load it and risk your own life with those few seconds you have to run away
@@urika3327 thats when you keep it in a thumbprint locked case so only you can access it
@@katekinder oh ok makes sense
i'm not american, but we lived in a country where my father had a gun license, he ALWAYS kept it away from me and my sister and the ammo was always on the other side of the house somewhere we couldn't reach. (wasn't hard i was a baby and my sister was a tot) however, i don't understand how people don't just do that? it's just general safety.
@@dordly Not in all states. Even in the states that do, it can be anywhere from criminal liability for the POSSIBILITY of a child accessing the gun to only being liable if the child actually uses the gun. Beyond that, some states define a minor as anyone under 14, which would make it legal to have guns laying around a 15 year old. I know for a fact that in Utah it's completely legal to leave guns laying around... they have ZERO child access prevention laws. This doesn't even touch on the NRA lobbying against CAP laws, and when the NRA, in some states, are the ONLY way to legally obtain a license or become a trainer, their lobbying has A LOT of weight to it.
This is what happens when you value money more than lives... you get a system where you're, essentially, 50 different countries pretending to be 1.
You should do one where you interview people who work in end-of-life care. I work exclusively with terminal elderly patients. It's a wild experience I'd love to watch interviews of other people in my line of work.
for anyone more interested in this topic, i recommend watching the kdrama "move to heaven". its about a father and son who are trauma cleaners and each episode focuses on one person's story prior to their death and what led up to it. during each cleanse they prepare a box which they fill with the victims most treasured items/items that reflect them/tell their story and then give the box to the victims family or someone they were close to. definitely prepare yourself to cry, but the show is so beautifully written that it's worth the tears. i think its available to watch on netflix so definitely check it out when you can
Laura actually has a channel. Their team is very thoughtful
Yeah it's on netflix, and it's my favourite drama ever honestly. You can feel the amount of respect and sensitivity in every shot they take and it's womderful and moving.
this sounds amazing thank u for recommending this shall watch it later today :)
this is what i was thinking of as i watched it. Move to heaven was the first encounter i had with the wòrld of trauma cleaning and it really opened my eyes to the realities of life. Tragic, unfortunate and heart wrenching deaths but the way their loved ones get closure is what i loved so much. seriously its so good and people should watch it.
will check it out !! thank you
I can’t imagine what these people see. It’s almost like when we see a crime in the movies but these people actually are there cleaning it up. I’m glad some light was shed on the. Props to these people
I started crying when I heard about the 5 year old. Why did he have to go out so young with so many years ahead of him?
Because he lived in USA. How many other countries have so many guns that 5yr olds are always finding them laying around?
@@Cory_Springer Thats not Funny man
@Nastasia Tait Oh, well sorry for the misunderstanding.
@@burrito9603yea, the USA is pretty much the only country in the world where KIDS will find a gun somewhere and accidentally shoot themselves because there is almost no restrictions on guns
@@SWFLAerialGuy **cough cough** Texas **cough cough** it’s legal to own as many guns as you want with no permit but it’s illegal to own more than 6 sex toys in Texas **COUGH COUGH**
I just quit my job as a CNA at a long term facility. Definitely the hardest thing that happened to me there was a man died on my shift that I was supposed to be taking care of and they wanted me to help clean and prepare the body. I had worked with him on and off for a few months up until this point, and upon seeing his dead body I completely broke down into tears. Couldn’t do it. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about doing something like that anymore. Kudos to you guys for doing such a hard job.
Interviewing suicide survivors I feel like that’ll help a lot of people going through that pain, Ik what it’s like. Kevin Hines would be a great person to do the interview with, his story is so powerful and just shows that there is hope
I was so lucky to find a good loss survivors group with my first loves mom and sister. I always hoped that our loved one could see how close I became with him family after being broke up for 9 years. His current gf at the time moved on instantly, posting half naked pics a month later. It was insane. He was such a prize & I hate that he’s gone forever because of their rocky relationship but mainly his pain and not being able to cope at that time. 😞
there were times when not wanting to put first responders and crime scene clean up through my suicide was what kept me from doing it.
Thank you for being here today 💗
Same.
I have pretty much constant suicidal ideation, and a huge part of not wanting to cause emotional trauma for anyone who would find my body and have to clean it up is a big part of why I haven't gone through with it.
Tbh, I strongly support doctor assisted suicide because 1) at least the patient will have access to a medical professional that can offer treatment for their mental illness and 2) if the patient doesn't respond to treatment, or chooses to forego treatment, then the suffering caused by their passing is minimized for the people around them
Ayo, you're precious.
@@ariahazelwood3842 Thank you so much.
@@hairold5680 As are you!!
I absolutely love these darker episodes! Please do more.
I would love to see Anthony do an episode on living with misophonia. It doesn’t get talked about nearly as much as I feel it should. It’s not even in the DSM-5 yet, though from personal experience I can say it is very much real and needs to be considered an official diagnosis.
My step dad has misophonia, he suspects he got it sometime he was deployed because he's in the army. Things like eating popcorn kernals or making clicking sounds to call the dogs really trigger it
YES OMG
I WOULD LOVE TO DO AN INTERVIEW
I would be happy to see that too. I also have misophonia
@@TheOverlordPepper that’s so interesting! I previously had a wonderful therapist specializing in misophonia who believed that it was often caused by a traumatic event in a persons life, causing them to be hypersensitive to certain sounds so if she’s correct (which I personally believe she is) then it’s entirely possible that a traumatic event could cause your step-father’s misophonia
(Edited to correct wording)
What is it?
The young guy seems super empathetic and genuinely down-to-earth and awesome. Huge respect to them all!
When my cousin committed suicide, my family asked me to handle everything. They couldn't stand the thought of the family home looking like that while I was away on vacation, and the courts had not yet approved me as executor, so I cut out the carpet, cut off the mattress cover and pillowcases. When I got approved to spend estate funds, I hired a professional company to complete the process. The two young men were empathetic, compassionate and totally professional. It's hard to believe you can be pleased with anything to do with the aftermath of the suicide of a family member, but these two guys were a godsend to our family.
These people are angels 🕊️ seriously need more recognition and praise for such hard work they do ❤️
I was an Ambulance Officer for five years, so I have seen very sick/injured people and major trauma scenes, dead bodies have a very, very strong familiar smell. One my first shift I was told the most important person is you, you need to look after yourself first, specifically ie keep your emotions/attitude in check. My basic approach was this, I was simply doing a job helping folks but I had a very realistic attitude/belief that the patients ultimate fate was not only determined by my input/actions but so many other variables.
As a CSI, I have experienced some horrific scenes that includes huge amounts of blood, flesh, brain matter, and other bodily fluids. The CS cleanup crew has all my respect because these scenes are extremely difficult to clean up and deal with.
My aunt had to clean up her son, my cousin’s, apartment after he took his life with his rifle. I wish I had been older at the time and closer to help. It makes me sad to think of her doing it alone. These people are so compassionate and I am glad they are there to help people like my aunt as they grieve.
jfc that is so traumatic and horrible. that poor woman
Thank you Jacob, Laura, and Neal for your service! Obviously crime scene cleaning isn't for everyone... You all are heroes.
Hey Anthony, can you please make a future video about spending a day with people who are childfree by choice (not wanting to have biological or adopted children/no desire to experience parenthood)? More people have been choosing this option and it'd be interesting to hear about men's and women's perspectives about it these days. Thank you!
Can interview me! 🙋🏻♀️
i used to be as a trade embalmer and worked with the hospital embalming donated bodies for medical student research/dissections. we encountered these kinds of cleaning crews regularly and sympathize a lot with their experiences. thank you for doing what you do 🙏🏻❤️
14 years ago my grandparents died after some time in nursing homes. At the end of their time there me and a buddy were gonna move out from home for the first time and mom(their daugther) had the idea that we could move into her parents old home as it was very close to either family, but still provided us that "moved from home and can be independent" feel.
Well, before we could move in, we had to clear out all the old stuff that had basically been sitting there untouched for nearly 2 years. Logically, the power had been cut for the past year as noone was living there any more. Someone clearly failed to think about their basement, and cleaning out 2 large freezers filled with frozen meat and other... variables. To this day the smell that hit my nose when we opened the first of those sits with me. I had to bolt from that basement and couldn't deal being down there until those freezers were gone.
I imagine what I smelled that day was a sample size of what these people deal with on a nearly daily basis...
I’m so glad there are brave people like this. Most people never think of this but it really is an important job
I’ve been following Laura Spaulding for years now. So happy to see this video giving her and her work the recognition that she deserves. Such an amazing and inspiring woman!
When I was a housekeeper at a nursing home I had to scrub blood out of a ladies carpet who had fell and I sobbed because of how LONG it took and just being quiet and thinking about the lady and everything. I can’t imagine doing this. Super huge props to these people 💖
"It's all about love and servitude for your neighbor" just..... wow. a society needs all kinds of people, and i am so grateful that we have folks like this out there, taking care of people in a needed way. thank you guys for talking about this, amazing interview !!!
Kinda weird while I was reading this he said it in the video at the same time
I lost two people last year, less than a month apart, to suicide. I had to help clean what was left of one person because we couldn’t afford to hire crime scene cleaners. Surprisingly that’s not the part that bothers me at all it’s just the simple fact that they were in too much pain to handle what they were going through. I didn’t have to do the same for the other person luckily. I was 17 at the time. I’ve battled suicidal thoughts and I still do to this day so that’s why it hit me even harder because I was once in that position and I know exactly how they felt. I was just lucky enough to manage those thoughts.
I'm sorry you had to do that I hope you feel alot better ❤️❤️ n I pray one day those thoughts will disappear God bless you💞💞
I’m so sorry that happened to you and your loved ones. I hope you stay strong and keep fighting those thoughts! ♥️
wow this has to be one of the toughest jobs out there - physically and emotionally. ive seen a lot of crime scenes on the internet but i cannot imagine being there in real life and witnessing the aftermath of a tragedy. props to these people for doing the stuff that most of us can say that we will never want to do in our lifetime
8:35 Anthony looked so teary eyed. I feel so bad for both the families and the cleanup of a lost human being done by PEOPLE. This world hurts.
"This world can hurt you, it cuts you deep and leaves a scar"
-Mark Ronson
Things fall apart, nothing breaks like a hearttt
Crime scene cleaners are extremely underpaid for what they do.
It's an accumulation of college stress levels, so I can understand why they are underpaid.
I mean they only clean bodies tbh
@@primo2419 my man it's way more bad then that lits gorey and other stuff like it's not just cleaning bodies
@@primo2419 ok then go clean some and don’t complain if you think it’s easy
@@primo2419 they clean bodies, fecies, entire houses, wake up at extremely unpredictable hours, and risk their health cleaning biohazards every day. They do things not everyone has the mental capacity to do. They deserve to get paid so much more.
So happy to see Laura here. She is such an inspiring woman!
Thank you so much!
@@LauraSpaulding thank you for everything you do!
@@LauraSpaulding Agreed! As soon as I saw “crime scene cleaners” in the title, I immediately thought of you! Was a little sad when I didn’t see Kyle in the video, as well lol
I agree! Her story is so inspiring, and Spaulding is so empathetic!
Mad respect to everyone who does stuff like this. They deal with a whole bunch of gruesome stuff most/many couldn’t even look at properly
Hearing these people talk about their experiences really makes it sink in just that little bit more.. their absolute heroes and I give them all my respect for the guts they obviously have
So glad you had Laura on! I found her channel (Crime scene cleanup) in 2020 and honestly started thinking about getting into that kind of work, but realized it probably wasn’t completely for me haha. But it did help me figure out I wanted to get into the death care field of work. so now I’m certified to do cremations, and hopefully will find a job opening for it soon. So thanks to Laura for inadvertently helping me there! Lol
You are very welcome! 😂 Thanks for watching and supporting! 💙
I love Laura too!! How her channel explains everything and how they try to find light in things during the gory work, and honestly as a person with depression…I’m glad there are channels like her, because I could never imagine the amount of pain that I or ANYONE could leave for the loved ones that have to witness a body that was once their child,friend or just loved one in general. Makes me thankful in an odd way that I’ve never went that deep. I feel terrible for the ones who have. If a friend of mine feels like ending it I plead with them calmly to check themselves in, call a hotline and please think about it. I just hope Anthony’s…and these crime scene cleaners channels or work can help those who want to end it to change their minds.
@@sixxrachel definitely agree! It was a good but hard way to put certain things into perspective for me with my own mental health struggles. I’m glad it helped you too 💙
YESSSS I found the channel in 2020 as well, I also realized I want to work in the death care field, when I'm an adult I plan on becoming a mortician:)
Honestly, I despise real blood. It's hard to deal with and makes me throw up. These guys are legends for having a whole career doing what others have phobias of.
It's so great for all these people to get an outlet to let other people be more aware, and get an understanding of things others dont know. This would take a huge toll on anyone doing the job. Mad respect! And thank you Anthony for educating many! 🙏
When my brother was killed, my mom and I almost sent each other into hysteria because we couldn’t find where they had taken his body and no one would answer us. I completely understand the girl who took the piece of her father’s bone and wore it around her neck.
I wish we had you guys after the homicide in our family. The adults in my family had to clean the blood off of everything and remove the carpets. I don't think it was helpful for their grieving process.
that’s horrible…. I didn’t know people have to clear it their selves i’m so sorry
I'm not sure if people typically have to or how that goes but in our case my step dad murdered my mom who was pregnant with their child and then himself. So the homeowners were dead and they had to sell the house. My sister who was 18 at the time came back to get things in order and a lot of older family members came to get things squared away. I don't think any of us knew a service like this existed. I'm sure that job is extremely difficult, the guy who was talking about how it's completely different than seeing blood and violence on tv, and it not comparing to real life is absolutely right. Nothing could prepare you for that. But especially when it's family, it's literally just hell. I'm grateful that these people do what they do, it really is needed.
@@ImGoingToMakeShowsWithOprah That's so horrible, I'm sorry for the loss and tragedy your family went through. I can't imagine having to do that...
I think they were right that the grieving process is really different for everyone.
I think a lot of it would come down to what happened and how an individual processes grief.
My father and grandmother passed away (natural causes) in at my mom's house when I was still living there with them. It wasn't a huge clean up because someone was with them both times, but I think being in control in the process of putting everything back to "normal" was really important to my mom.
I couldn't handle it with my dad, I was still in high school, and stayed with my boyfriend's family for two days afterwards. It wasn't until I started realizing that I was developing an aversion to being on a second floor of any building that I forced myself to start being in the areas of the house that I associated with that traumatic event.
It was when I started having a panic attack going up the stairs at school that I knew I was on the cusp of developing a phobia that I could either deal with immediately, or have cripple me for the rest of my life. It was terrifying, because I knew that my own body was starting to spin outside of my own control, and I had so little power to control it
Oh I'm so sorry for ur family
I've watched some of Laura's videos. Her staff is amazing. I have to stop watching at a certain point tho. If you are feeling like KO'ing it, watch a few of these videos.... you will change your mind, at least, It did for me. It's unimaginable the mess that's left behind. Both physically and emotionally. These workers are heroes.
Also, call your friends and family member and check up on them...some of these cases sit for months and no one knew or cared.
Thanks for supporting! 💙 Call your loved ones!!
worded perfectly.
I learned so much from this & all your other videos. Glad I found your channel!
I could never... Major respect to them, God bless them!
Anthony, can you do one with Veterinarians? I think it would be very eye opening to so many people what we go through in Vet Med. There are so many amazing doctors with soooo many stories that people outside of the field would never know.
They have super high rates of suicide too :(
@@Kad6976x I cant tell if thats a joke or if your reading it as the wrong Vet XD
@@bradleyunknown319 nah, veterinarians as in animal medicine have high suicide rates as well. don't think that person misread anything.
That would be a good interview considering there is shortage of vets right now across the country
@@bradleyunknown319 Putting down animals and constantly seeing them in neglect can be very traumatic. It’s something people don’t usually think about.
Anthony is so nice for letting these people get their experiences off their shoulders.
One of the hardest videos I've ever watched. Thank you Anthony and everyone interviewed.
These people are literally so strong to do a tough job like this props to them!!!
That sounds so exhausting mentally, I obviously know I could never do this job; but also I'm writing it down on my list of reasons to stay alive cause holy crap did this give me a perspective on how much the people who are left behind suffer.
I love watching the crime scene cleaner videos. Such a hard job. It really sucks when families can’t afford these guys. Then they have to clean the carnage.
The perpetrators of the crimes should be made to pay for cleanup, if possible
@@glorynicol7189 Well - if they are proffessional enough, they would most likely want to clean up themselves. Also - what about suicides? The perpetrator is the one being cleaned in that case ... so who do you charge? If I ever decide to blow my brain out, I do hope the government won't bill me after! If they do, I'll be pretty pissed off!
@@glorynicol7189 yeah I meant more on the side of suicides. Sadly, I was in this situation a few years ago. My husband committed suicide and we couldn’t afford a crew to cleanup. My brothers stepped in.
@@velvet9724 I am so extremely sorry for your loss. I lost my oldest brother to suicide a few years ago.
@@velvet9724 I can relate. In 2013 my fiance committed suicide. I actually thought in the moment it was just part of the police response to have the main part where it took place cleaned, at least SOMETHING. I was in a haze of shock and grief at the time and couldnt comprehend that they were leaving me with all the blood
I could not do this...takes special kind of people to have this job title. I cannot imagine a world where people just left things as is. Thanks to them for all they do! They are underrated & definitely needed.
All I can say is thank you Anthony for this episode. I recently lost all my friends due to stuff related to this episode. This stuff makes us think so much and half the time it's not the right thoughts. man I'm glad you did an episode on this. love you forever Anthony
All this suicide talk is upsetting me quite a lot. My brother passed from suicide, and my friend's 17 year old son just barely took his own life as well. BOTH ARE SO upsetting for everyone. My brother's was a while back, but I still think of him everyday and have been crying a lot every day for my brother and my friend's son for the past week and still am.
I was asked if I wanted to see my brother's body at the scene of his death. I decided no. I didn't, couldn't believe he was actually gone. But I did see him at the mortuary and they said before I went in to see him that they'd made him more presentable to look at. After hearing all these stories being told here, I am so glad I didn't see him in the state he was in right after his suicide. I also wonder if any of these things happened to his body. I am very naive about how horrific death can really look like. I am quite upset, but will continue watching this to the end.
Don’t watch anything that is going to upset you! I’m sure Anthony appreciates the support but he’s got tons of other videos for you to watch that won’t upset you or talk about something that triggers you! Your mental health comes first💛 I’m sorry to read your story & I hope you’re able to heal as much as you can from something like that. Please take care of yourself!
Hey Julie, I don’t know what’s best to say. I know nothing makes this better; but I feel compelled to tell you you are loved and I’m sure your brother loved you very deeply. I hope your brother has found some peace wherever he is now🤍
Please Protect your heart and mind as best you can from anything triggering, even these type of videos. Nothing wrong with grieving but reach out to your support system if things get to heavy.
@@Mess4jess Thank you!💞
@@junniebear49 Thank you!💕
I've had a lot of people close to me pass, and how I processed them all was different every time, and how I coped looked different from how the people around me were dealing with their grief.
It felt exactly like when you are climbing stairs in the dark, and you get to the top, and you think there should be one more step there isn't one. That feeling, but it just keeps happening over and over again.
I can't tell you how to get through your grief, but I can tell you that eventually it will be something that you learn to live with.
For me, it's similar to how losing a finger or limb would feel, but emotional rather than physical. It hurts, your life and how you move through it is permanently altered. But over time you can learn to adapt, and even thrive despite the loss. It's harder to do simple things, and sometimes you'll reflexively try to reach out to that missing part, and probably fall flat on your face and it'll be hard to get back up again.
This Doctor Who quote helped give me some prospective-
"The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don’t always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don’t always spoil the good things and make them unimportant."
Take care of yourself, and whatever that looks like, it's valid. If something, like watching videos like this, causes a lot of pain to resurface, it's okay to pause it and set it down. You can come back to if if you want, or not.
Feeling pain is how our bodies tell us that damage has occurred, mentally or physically. It's how we know that we need to stop what we are doing and focus on how to help ourselves recover from that trauma. It's how we knew when we need help, and it pushes us to reach out for it.
I wish there was a way that I could prevent anyone from having to go through all of the things that you and your loved ones are going through. I wish I could make it better. All I can give you is that in my experience, you will still experience joy, laughter, contentment, and any other positive emotion. You can't fight them any more than you can fight the negative ones. Your life will be different, the way you experience those things will be different. But you'll learn that just because the good things are different doesn't mean that they aren't valuable, even if they aren't what you had hoped for.
i can’t imagine this going into work and seeing blood guts etc these people are true hero’s.
I was waiting for this waaaay too long.
Great strength these people carry physically and emotionally and don't even make me talk about their huge awareness of their role in making a "better" place. Thanks to Anthony and the people being interviewed :)
I really like how you edit your videos. This one made me feel like I was watching a forensic files documentary which is so sick. Your so good at what you do. I’ve been a fan since for forever💛
the story about the five year old completely broke me. my heart goes out to those poor parents
Maybe they should have locked their gun up then. Its their fault. Complete negligence on their part :( Poor boy didnt know or mean to im sure.
@@shey8984 no yeah for sure the kid should not have had access to the weapon. That's why it's so heartbreaking to me. It is something that is so easily preventable if you put the gun out of reach, or lock it, or straight up if you didn't have it.
And your right it's absolute negligence. It's appalling.
@@antoniakircheva5652 yes, so sad. Like you said, totally preventable. :(
this is really interesting seeing this point of view of these situations. my dad is a medical death examiner he basically the person there before it gets cleaned up he goes to the scenes and pretty much examines the body to find a cause of death. i’ve heard some pretty crazy stories from his work in my life. if would be great to see an episode on this!
If you don’t mind me asking how long of schooling did it take for him to do? I’m trying to head down that bath and see how it goes or something similar!
@@zackramirez7409 I’m not sure about the US or Europe but generally you need to become a forensic pathologist which is whatever you need to do to enter medical school, obtaining a medical degree (either doc of medicine or surgical) + specialising. It’s 10-14 years.
Wow. It must take a tremendous amount of strength and determination to actually go through with this profession. I have so much respect for them.
You are such a good example of what a content creator is! I hope young KRplusrs find inspiration in series like this
this dude. Graduates high school and just instantly starts doing crime scene cleaning
It pays relatively well because it's an on-call job that most people don't want to do, and doesn't require any sort of degrees, so that period of time makes a lot of sense to me to be honest.
@@jijitters Does it require any kind of prior training? I'm about to graduate high school and want to know if I can join right off the bat
@@meatballmeatwad5730 There is on-the-job training that you will usually need to do but no prior schooling or higher education necessary.
my mom is a crime scene cleaner and she loved this video! thank you so much anthony!!
Years ago, my uncle was at work and his coworker fell onto a large table saw and was sawed in half right in front of him within seconds. He was the only one there with the man who died. He endured so much shock and trauma in a matter of seconds and had to go to the hospital for treatment. He rarely ever talks about it, but the ppl people who knew him before that say he was never the same again.
Also props to these people for cleaning up stuff like that.
There’s few KRplusrs on this platform that can transform their channels into something amazing after so many years of being here! Your content right now Anthony is so inspiring and always helps me to learn more about certain harsh matters
Would love to see you cover more about BPD and crime
Thanks for all you do x
This fits right into my true crime and forensic anthropology infatuation. Thanks for exploring this topic!
Omg the story of the Little five year old Broke my heart.... May they rest in piece 💕
Ps- Parents if You have Guns put them in a secure place where children can't reach it
Or better not to have guns in the house at all, period.
@@zeinabachi7637 fuck that, idk about you but i like having protection from the crazies in this world. It just needs to be locked up correctly
he/she? you mean they??
@@jxxcey no she means she doesn’t know if the little kid was a girl or a boy but the woman in the video said they were a little boy.
@@kthentm1338 exactly. in the english language if you dont know someones gender, you use the pronoun "they"
I genuinely cannot fathom doing this and having to see this sort of thing every day. So glad there's people out here like this that do this.