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- κ²μμΌ 2021. 06. 14.
- There are a few ways to tell if you're in a toxic relationship. Here are some quick tips and story about a toxic situation that I was involved with.
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βGirls this cute donβt talk to meβ
*all his girl friends get pissed off* πππ
They might be cute, but thats not how he looks at them
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@@notracc9096 no thanks
βi have to wife this girlβ *fast forward four years* βweβre still friendsβ ππ
And he wonders why some of his love interests get impatient π
π€£π€£ exactly. They probably get tired of being baited for content.
Yeah I didnβt understand why he didnβt try with herβ¦ like I guess she came on too strong? But theyβd been friends for a long timeβ¦ If I was her Iβd consider that a rejection and try to move on.
@@bloodyrose1995 idk swoozie comes off as confused to me
@@infiltretor287 dudes got trust issues from past relationships. I think he said that in a video
Her: βIβll get out of your hair in 30 days
Swozie: *B A L D*
You did not πππ
...ouch
"if you're not happy single, you're not going to be happy in a relationship."
_That just changed my whole perspective. Im-_
Im-...... what? Tell me
@@CrowOfDemise "I'm-" = speechless
@@captaincharlie_ Ok thank you
I keep seeing this and as a disabled person I feel so stupid about it. I can't be happy because of it, and it would be selfish if I got into a relationship because govt dictates they are now my carer so... Not allowed happiness either way and I've no idea what to do. It's nothing to with 'PMA'.
@@Roadent1241 I'm disabled too so ik what you mean. I think it means there's a lot about our lives we're unhappy with. And if we got in relationships, having a partner would only change a small percentage of that.
And yes, once someone finds out you're "sick" they don't treat you as a person, but a patient. And I want a partner, not another doctor taking constant care of me.
"Relationships should ADD to your happiness, not be the cause"
I'll remember that π
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Relationship should be a cause of happiness bruh
@@everythingpony Not the MAIN cause*
it's a red flag if your partner says you're the only reason they're happy. like bro, you don't have any hobbies? any friends? yikes.
Maybe I should say that to my obsessive ex, if I didn't had to block their number because it was that bad
I once had a toxic gf who was almost exactly like "Ann's" bf. She would hit me, racist parents(she was white I'm hispanic), and she cheated on me yet I was always the one she was suspicious of. I did so much for that girl and regrettably took her back several times. Luckily I got my shit together and got out of it but even though I saved myself I still have lasting trauma from her
Sorry to hear that hope youβre doing better.
Hope u are doing better!!!!
Iβm glad you left.
Good for you man, let's hope others can learn the easy way from your example
βRelationships should only add happiness, not be the source of your happinessβ That hit deep
When Swoozie gets in a relationship he doesn't post on Instagram like: "Hey i'm in a relationship"
He waits until the relationship goes down till it hits rock bottom and makes a video about it
One word: "GENIUS"
ππ€πΎ noo lies
No π§’
Yeah so he could get content on itπππ still funnyy af thoππ
Big up u Swoozie i live in trinidad toπ₯π₯π₯
ππππππseriously
Doors automatically shape into a fist when kicked at a certain speedβ¦..her story makes sense
Word?
The doorknob slid up a couple feet
On god thoe
It's possible in an odd way, it happened to me once. If the hit is strong enough on the cheekbone, the bruise can spread to the eye. Though it wouldn't be as painful looking as the cheekbone.
This sounds almost identical to the Amber Heard and Johnny Depp bathroom black eye incident ... π€
14:11 Get happy first before you get in a relationship
Learned this the hard way but itβs very true
Just got recommended to me. The toxicity isnβt apparent to most people until itβs in hindsight. For me, I was in a relationship with someone I was toxic with, and toxic towards, I never realized how bad things were until it was over. And then I met someone amazing. She broke me out of my shell and the habits I formed from the past relationship. It took time and understanding, and a lot of reinforcement. But once I was brought back from that place and understood how to healthily talk about issues, everything became okay. 2 years strong, and pretty happy with where Iβve ended up. Iβll end this with the βbestβ you can do, isnβt the best for you. Just find someone you can be happy with.
If I had a dollar every time Swoozie said "I need wife this girl", I could afford KRplus premium. π€£π€£
KRplus premium is literally $12 bro
@@officerphill7026 on gang ππ
Good one lmaooo
Best comment!
@@officerphill7026 her statement's still true if he's said it 12+ times. Might have some change left over lol
β I was just laying in bed thinking, humans donβt have flat facesβ πππ
RIGHT
Nice name
That's shower thoughts.
The bone below your eye if hit can cause a black eye, I have experienced it π (Yes a door can hit that bone)
@@wowanmyboat please comment this
Iβve been so caught up on KRplus drama that I forgot that swoozie gave some great advice even though Iβm already married with kids itβs always good to know ππ
Tbh, all friends with benefits relationships are toxic,
at least in the sense of βThis is super pathetic, duhβ.
The bottleneck analogy actually makes a lot of sense to me. Youβre a great storyteller!
β if you break up with me youβll never find anybody else like meβ BRO THATS THE POINT-
if its a kid then... *FBI OPEN UP!*
@@purplehaze4942 *AAAAA-*
RIGHT? Like man I don't want yet another DUMPSTER fire, k, thx!
"Better" is the key word, that messes up with some people's minds
why you dating a kid?
Iβm convinced Swoozie has been in 100 relationships
@Jack Pruett and tax
Honestly bruh Swoozie is pulling Wilt Chamberlain numbers lol.
*Situationships*
He is still in some of them,
@Cartoonist Louis Even flings, its too many. This man has had more flings than I have Knocked one out
The more swoozie vids I watch, the happier I am to be single. It seems the only plus side to dating is having an interesting story to tell when it's over.
I really like how the first part of this whole video was just hyping her up. It doesnβt matter how much youβre worth, a toxic person will be toxic to you.
My reaction to her choices: "Huh? Huh? Huh? HUH? HUH?!?!?!?!?!?"
The fact that they got married?? Even blatant verbal and physical abuse, just blows my mind
Sad truth
ok we meet again HAHAHAHA
I see u everywhere π€£
and her parents hate her? i have no idea how they got married
Wow you're really late.
Itβs so unbelievable how happy you can be if you just block the problem
That sometimes can work, but sometimes it can make things worse or more dangerous.
To be honest, in your other video where you mentioned "Ann" driving an hour to pick up a game for you I thought, "Damn that's a bit much. Maybe she's just a really nice person?" Someone coming on too strong when they haven't even met you is a red flag. It's not often talked about because it doesn't seem like a negative. You want to give those people the benefit of the doubt because they are being nice to you after all. This is just a personal observation, but people who want to give you their everything within a short period of time after meeting you usually have problems with boundaries, self-worth, and healthy social interaction. You can feel bad for them because they're not bad people, but that "I need someone to love me or I'm worthless" mentality is not something that you want to get deeply involved with. Swoozie did the right thing by offering to pay rent for a separate apartment for her instead of letting her stay with him in exchange for her "keeping his belly full" and "making sure there's never a dirty dish in the sink". It sounded like she wanted to be his live-in girlfriend. It seems that she felt the need to be an relationship so badly to the point that she'd rather be married to an abusive man than be single. There's sadly not much you can do in these situations if the person being abused does not take concrete steps towards making healthier choices (ex: taking Swoozie up on his offer). You can't force a person's hand or live their life for them, no matter how badly you might want to.
βRelationships should add to your happiness not be your happinessβ my man speaking a language I shouldβve learned a long time ago
Make sure the person your with knows this too cuz that's where things can go off
That quote could've saved some past relationships of mine years ago ngl wish I could change it. Also saw a young couple that I didn't know personally but would see them around a lot and would sometimes overhear them and it sounds like they depend on their affections a bit too much which is another example-
Wise words as he said once... "I have spoken!"
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Swoozie is like a variety pack KRplusr he talks about everything, and that's what I like about him
He mostly talks about relationships though
Word word
When's the talk about "The Great Filter" or "The Fermi Paradox" in this channel? That would be dope
Just like a super wise person once told me: "Appreciate, dont attach"... if you derive all your happiness and STABILITY from a relationship, you will be unhealthily paranoid and anxious and will smother the other person and yourself. Give eachother the freedom to be completely independent and have your own agency. Then, you can appreciate eachother as a part of a greater puzzle. And remember, you can still be super romantic while maintaining boundaries!
Wow, I gotta say I feel for Ann. Obviously her relationship with Swoozie wasnβt great, but this second guy? It reminds me so much of one of my former friends (Iβll call her Julie) and her boyfriend, now husband (who Iβll call Drew). When they were dating, βsheβ slowly started cutting people out of her friendship group. I say βsheβ because the types of people and the way it would happen was highly suggestive that it was his idea. For example, she was still close friends with her exes because they ended on very good terms, but they were βcut outβ first, then came the other members of the friend group who were still close friends with said exes. They only other friends it seemed like she was βallowed to keepβ were the ones sheβd met in uni with Drew and any of Drewβs friends. However, Julie would still hang out with a lot of us when Drew (before they were married) would occasionally take an out of town business maybe twice a year; idk if she was lying to him, but it was like the only time she felt safe. Any other time I asked her to hang out sheβd say something like, βNot today because Drew is in town and he said he likes spending as much time together as possible.β Oh, heβs in town? You mean in the same apartment where you both live together and see each other every day (this is directed towards the SO, not my friend). From the moment they started dating-especially after she got engaged-, sheβs changed her appearance because βDrew liked it better that wayβ, changed parts of her dream wedding because βDrew didnβt like that ideaβ (although that I kinda understand, I do think the groom should have some input on the wedding, but maybe not SO much), and suddenly moved her halfway across the country, which even further isolated her from her friends, and now her family. She hasnβt talked to me since her wedding, so I have no idea how sheβs doing but I think of her everyday. I know she loves him and I know she is happy in her own way, itβs just so hard to watch. If youβre out there Julie, I miss you and I hope youβre okay. π
This is quite sad especially when you know theres nearly nothing you can do. My best condolences to you and Julieβs friends and family.
Hopefully you're able to meet your friend again and she's safe while out of a relationship with that other person.
JESUSS CHRIST.!
I haven't been in too many relationships but 100% the biggest killer is both people being at different stages or having different ideas of where it's at. YET ANOTHER GREAT VID SWOOZIE this guy actually has such good advice
Hello
Facts
@vonto he is in highschool
Dude you and Brice always get me confused. Iβm also talking about hamanimations and I think you already know his name is Bryson.
Brody getting the girls but they doesn't last π’
Now that Swoozie confessed his embarrassing l's, let's see him now confess his amazing W's!!!
He kinda does every other video
I love it when I get the notification βSomeone subbed to youβ and βSomeone liked your comment π.β
@@zyclo good for you bud
Im more curious how heβs dated all these people the stories are endless.
Yes that would be a great video
"Know your value, and add tax". One of the best pieces of advice ever.
He is someone to look up to. His experience feel real and understandable and even relatable.
It feels nice to find your channel.
"She's the center of attention, every dude here is like simping hard over her."
Samsung Sam and Lady Dimitrescu: *First time?*
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God damnππ
Lol
Yup lol
... Samsung Sam???
Swoozie quote: Relationships should add to your happiness they shouldnβt be the reason for it.
So true!
Ok, but what if you have nothing else good in life, what then? Serious question
@@planta-ray well first you shouldβve found something you enjoy doing or pursuing in life before a relationship so you can get right back up if something goes bad in the relationship and if you are in the situation like the one you are in try to find something that you will enjoy not just your relationship it will make you even happier weather or not you are in one or notπ
@@planta-ray What Sacred said is right, find something you enjoy so you have something to fall back to. And of course most importantly Love Yourself first before loving others. If you can't love yourself, others will have a harder time loving you, although it's not impossible, it's harder.
Life is shit, but you can still love it!
@@sacredxeno I'm doing lots of things to distract me from being disabled but they're not really making me happy, should I just stop doing them even though I don't have any other choices, or know how to FIND any other choices?? Everything else exists out of reach or it's unfixable.
Is Swoozie actually giving me frrrrr π― advice right now? Bro you are a legend. ππΌππΌππΌ
"Relationship should add to your happiness"...Been hearing you say this for probably almost a decade since i was a teenager...i think i finally kinda sorta get get it as an adult...Thanks man
βKnow your value and add taxβ. As person with low self esteem, this hits for me. Damn π
Nice profile picπ
Go add some more tax
Add more tax after that
βKnow your value and add taxβ -sWooZie that is the best quote I have heard in a while
Tbh, all friends with benefits relationships are toxic,
at least in the sense of βThis is super pathetic, duhβ.
FR.
I needed this β¨
I've gotta start writing a few of these down.
One of the best videos ever! The advice at the end, that's just super on point!
Man I love you giving just life advice, thank you
*"Relationships should add to your happiness not be your source of happiness"*
~~~Swoozie 2021
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PREACH!ππ»ππ»βπ»
Needed that
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βA few months ago we talked about toxic friends.β BRO THAT WAS ALMOST A YEAR AGO ππ
Holy shit how times fly
@@marlom7882 fr i didnt realize until i checked lol
on soullll .
The best reason I can think of for why she didn't take your offer is that she doesn't want to be alone. People with great personalities like you explained that she had tend to also struggle mentally and it may be the reason why she stayed and didn't want to move to a place without someone. Besides that, not knowing an area can also cause more stress if you don't have a roommate. I totally get why you didn't want her to come in, but I think that she might have needed more support than financially. Just me though because I struggle with abandonment PTSD, so there are some things I can't handle well on my own.
If Iβm ever in a Toxic Relationship.
And she say βyouβll never find another girl like meβ
Shiiiiiii thatβs the Planππ€¦πΎββοΈπ
Iβm gonna use thatπ
@@jp290 You should
@Greys Tf u talking about
I LEGIT SAID THAT TO MY TOXIC EX WHEN I BROKE UP AND IT WAS HILARIOUS
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I hate hearing βyouβll never find someone like me.β Thatβs the point isnβt it???
Yea, cuz you wonβt find someone as toxic as them again. xD
I just got to say first of all, I love the way that you tell stories, and your style is so cool dude. I also wanna mention how that also happen to me as well I've been stuck in a similar situation before like that where the girl ended up eventually leaving and getting back with her toxic after I tried to make a move.
Literally had this same situation bro swoozie gives such great advice bro
"Know your value, plus add tax" Welp, that's a quote I'm using now
FR! When he said that my jaw DROPPED
same thing I was thinking
problem is way too many people undervalue or overvalue themselves
both usually end up screwed
A lot of women who act like her were probably raised in dysfunctional households and don't actually know what it's like to feel loved or respected, let alone safe. You feel comfortable in what you know, and if you're comfortable being abused, it's difficult to leave. That's why it's so difficult for people to get out of some toxic situations.
I saw a "nice" guy in the comments who said women like being abused, so I figured I should say something.
Yes, THIS!
Or they just suck
Thank you!
@@goonk6149 stop
People want to stay in a comfort zone so familiar suffering vs unknown healthy relationships where you dont have experience in dealing with them, tend to override our chances at real happiness.
I just got out of a relationship 3 months ago. And Iβm still trying to somewhat recover and get over it. The thing is, I see him a lot since weβre in the same band.
He was very very emotionally dependent on me, in fact he was dependent on me for almost everything. Before getting into the relationship, he already didnβt love himself and relied on me for most of his self-worth and saw no problem with that. I was basically his mother and his therapist. He was way too physical with other people and most of his friends were girls. There was one in particular who I honestly hated. She was clearly into him the entire time, but he always denied it. 2 months after I leave him, he gets with her, and the next day, breaks up with her over Discord. Yeah, over Discord. Then they get back together 2 days later. He says I have jealousy issues when Iβve been told repeatedly by friends that I was just setting boundaries. He just makes me feel like a terrible person and doesnβt see any problem with not taking care of himself and blaming everything he does on other people.
Never be afraid to leave someone.
Girl tell me how it went!!!!
@@faadumoahmed we didnβt confront him. We thought it was best to leave it alone and I need to move on.
Honestly this vid helped me realize some problems I have too work and out. Thanks man, Great vid.
"Get happy first then get into a relationship...relationships should add to your happiness NOT your reason to happiness"-Swoozie 2021
14:12
Your life will be a billion times better without them
good
I can't explain why but I love Swoozie's video style of irl/animating a lot
I litterally just found you today and i cannot stop watching, your litterally epic dude
"Know your value and add tax"
I don't respect anyone that puts their hands on their significant other..... toxic people are horrible
βDonβt price yourself out of the game.β
I ruined the 69
Moral of the story: all girls should just date Swoozie.
y e s
true
what about me nigga
@@mdott17 the needs of the many outway the needs of the few, im sorry my mans
We trying!!! ππ€£
I feel when a relationship starts to get serious, voices everything basically what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable and just talking and getting to know each others boundaries so things get smoother when getting deeper into the relationship. It helps with a lot πβ¨
I can't shake the feeling that Adande should have done more. He seems to constantly let good woman out of his life.
I'm just over here for years, really hoping you find your match someday.
βRelationships should add to your happiness, not be your happiness.β Actually some really good advice swooz, thanks :).
Nice
Fax
This girl seem like the type thatβs so scared to be alone that sheβll cling on to anybody no matter how horrible they are or how bad they treat her. Itβs just sad
Dude, just found ur channel and watched a few videos and i gotta say, I like you. You are so self aware and got a great mindset. Gotta subscribe for this! great work!
Iβve always been that friend whoβs seen the signs of toxic relationships and wanting/helping my friends in these problems has been so exhausting and frustrating because they always crawl back. The good thing is that since Iβm in high school I donβt have to deal with friends who are in toxic relationships/wanting advice just to crawl back but something I do wish and want people to take more seriously is that you shouldnβt find happiness in relationships. I can understand that we all want comfort and affection but if you keep finding happiness in relationships to be the cause in being happy thatβs not helping you thatβs hurting you more and most of the time people donβt know what theyβre doing. I donβt mind giving advice but itβs up to you if youβre going to take my advice and be useful with it or just bluntly throw it the window and crawl back if somebodyβs there to help at the end of the day itβs up to you if you want to help yourself or hurt yourself.
Jesusβs Christ.
I swear the most toxic relationships get married/engaged so fast πβπ»
After my sister broke up with her toxic as hell boyfriend, he started dating one of her ex friends (who also turned out to be toxic as hell). I swear that girl was pregnant and engaged to him before end of the year.
So all military relationships? My girl had her dude cheat on her and theyβve barely been married.
From a relatives experience, I think it has something to do with a thought process that goes, "I can get used to this behaviour." Which clearly is a mistake.
Very true..They think marriage is the solution.. if it's still toxic... They continue to have kids and remain toxic.
I think I saw some famous psychologist say that the reason why some get marriwd/engaged/get babies so quickly is they know they are toxic and they want "lock" that person before the other one realizes how toxic they are. And boom trapped. Form of manipulation...
The scariest toxic situations are βIβll die without you.β
See, you can't let them use that to keep you around. If ANYTHING you need to bounce IMMEDIATLY after someone uses that line. If you're really worried about them harming themselves, call the Cops for a wellness check on them.
My ex cheated on me then dumped me bc she got caught, then told me if I told her friends the truth of what happened, sheβd kill herself.
@@LowkeyHundo somethin similar happened to me. good. one less cheater in the world
@@brennen79 when they say they can't live without you and you leave anyway but they're STILL alive π
Even lil Uzi said it π’
Swoozie seems like such a good dude to be friends with. Not gonna lie, kind of jealous of his friends. You got a good head on your Swooze, don't ever lose it
Going through the BIGGEST break up of my life. Feel absolutely worthless and remotely suicidal, but Can always count on swoozie to make me feel just a little bit better.
wish u the best!
I think the term "toxic relationship" underplays what's happening here - These are literally classic signs of domestic abuse. Restricting her contacts, controlling every aspect of her life, chasing her and abusing her..? She could be seriously hurt if it escalates
It prob already has he talks about whatβs happens years after the event actually took place so she shouldβve left while she could but look at bozo now
titling a vid about domestic abuse would not get through the algorithm
She's the idiot that not only stayed but married him. People can only treat you the way you allow them to
I just wanna ask- (based on my experiences) Is guy who's pursuing you "toxic" if he keeps stalking you and following you everywhere and gets upset when you hug your friends? And is like pushing and pulling you away? That you're always left confused in the end? That's what happened last year with me and my almost-bf but I cut him off cause I didn't feel happy. I just wonder if I did the right thing.
β@@Arifumiii you dodged a bullet. Men who are secure don't need to be all up in your biz like that, if you give them a reason to doubt, they're out. Ppl who are extremely jealous have skeletons in their closets and / or are trying to isolate you. NEVER settle for that, for your one safety and sanity. The fact that you have to wonder should already be a clue in itself
"It sucks that somebody who so nice and has such a big heart has all this crap happening to her and she's staying in that situation" - swoozie 2021
bro I really needed to hear your message, thank u sm
Honestly I think Swoozie's offer to help her was great, she would have had her own space and more time to figure things out. I think she just wanted him to fall for her by being a perfect live-in girlfriend. She seems very co-dependant. A lot of beautiful girls have deep insecurities that jerks exploit, it's so sad.
"Oh you didn't hear?"
"They just got married"
*Aggressively throws my phone*
I thought that he was going to say that she died π¬
@@alishaoharrow769 Same.
Everyone: I canβt find a gamer girl that simps for me as much as I simp for them
Swoozie: yeah she simped to muchβ¦
Maybe dont simp for anyone? Give what you get. A relationship requires balance so if someone doesnβt show you the same love you show them, you know thatβs not a good relationship
During this last school year/my junior year of college I had a toxic roommate similar to this where she only thought of herself and made it seem like I was the bad guy whenever I stood up for myself and it was horrible. Iβm very happy I no longer have to deal with her anymore after just living with her for a couple of months, I canβt imagine being in a whole relationship with someone like this.
I've also had friends that kind of act like this, they call and cry about how their partner have been horrible and how they've broken up, but the next day they're back together again. I've learned that it doesn't matter what you say or do. If people don't want to get help you can't help them. I choose to live in a happy and sane relationship, if they want to continue with their toxic one then that's their choice.
Swoozie's literally the only KRplusr that's been on here for over 10 years thats not problematic, like i dont think he's even had a scandal. He just chills, tells stories and minds his business
βRelationships should add to your happiness, not be the reason for your happinessβ
Truer words have never been uttered before
I understand! Even in social situations, this can happen. We need to identify the root causes of why the individual may be exhibiting these behaviors. They could have been harmed in the past, may have borderline personality etc. The more you know about the situation, the more that you can identify what to do in a given situation. Also one of my own friends behaves this way as well. Every time she fights with her mom she runs away and will stay with the guys she dates until they fight and break up. It has ended badly for my friend multiple times. My friend and I have a strategy now where she can call me if she ever wants to run away. I dont always allow he to stay over but i let her hash her emotions out with me until she is able to rationalize her thoughts.
Iβm late Swoozie but this just changed my perspective completely! I did not think there was a point to be made but it was a good one.
"Oh you didnt hear? they're married now!"
I've never seen someones soul leave out so hard for a moment from a single B R U H
Wowwww thatβs crazy, I like the honesty. God Bless β€οΈβ¨
"Know your value... And add tax."
YES!!! Perfect analogy.
Thanks for the new video, Rachel.
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Yeah, thanks, Rachel
Who?
@@zn_greasy5507 were you not listening
We love Rachel
I had a friend in a toxic relationship. Dude was incredibly controlling. He had a "Three-strikes" rule where if she did stuff he didn't like, he gave her a strike. When she tried using the same thing, he told her to stop joking.
They broke up and she asked to hang out and talk. She talked to me and another friend over the phone. She told us about all the crap he did. But the more she said and the more we confirmed that her relationship was toxic, the more willing she seemed to go back and give him another shot. And she got back with him, briefly, before they broke up again.
Break-ups can be difficult to deal with, and sometimes it can be tempting to go back to something familiar. But you don't owe anyone a relationship that makes you unhappy for any reason. And it can feel bad being alone, but you will be okay.
What happened if she got three strikes?
@@justamonkewithinternetacce3278 Then he'd break up with her. He kept holding the relationship hostage like that.
And you will *definitely* find someone better who loves you so much more! You don't need them. :/
Wdym the stuff he didn't like... What is she doing that makes him so mad
@@yakheen581 She hung out with friends he didn't like. And she smoked pot which he apparently didn't approve of.
My problem with this dynamic is that it's just a manipulative tactic. If she had been doing something bad enough for him to want to leave, then he should have just left. Holding their relationship hostage if she doesn't do what he wants was wrong. And all it did was make her feel like she was worthless. It's not like it stopped her.
βKnow your valueβ¦ and add tax.β Thatβs maybe the most useful advice on relationships ever, it just feels right
I have friends who have broken noses, chipped teeth, and gotten stitches on their brow because of door related incidents.
Never a black eye.
That being said, a black eye can occur with a hard enough hit to the forehead.
Do u think the door hit her temple maybe? Would that cause it? The whole scene is strange
I can imagine it happening. If the bathroom is large enough to put your upper body in front of the door with your feet out of the way and someone pushes upen the door hard, it could happen. This also said, anyone tells you that they were hit by a door in the same sentence as informing they've been fighting with their partner...I'd take that info with a massive grain of salt and let the person know you're there for them if in truth they're being abused.
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley Right, because despite the fact that it _could_ technically happen, the βBlack Eye Because a Door Hit me in the Faceβ is one of the oldest and beaten dead routines in the history of DV.
I don't know why that girl thought she didn't deserve better, but that feeling that you can't leave once you get started is very common.
βKnow your valueβ¦and add taxβ
Yep thatβs the one. Might get it tattooed.
Iβm Aroace and this has actually really helped me with friendships (itβs similar signs) and I honestly think this is one of the best videos on toxic people that Iβve seen in a while
haven't watched sWooZie in years, I missed how positive and motivating he his.
same
"I'll get out of your hair in 30 days"
Hair? Swoozie's bald
Lol
Armpit hair
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He's not. He shaves his head.
That is why he red flagged it
Your story telling abilities are superb!
I was going through something similar a few years ago. I wish I had this video then. People were kinda telling me what you were, but they framed it in a horrible way. Making it seem like I was the one that didnt deserve that person. However, they all told me since then that they were trying to get me help away from them. They just framed it wrong and that made me feel like I had to cling onto that relationship for as long as i could because that was the best it would ever get for me. I'm in a much healthier place now though years later.
Toxic relationships suck.
And I am in one.
βGetting outβ is easier said than done.
You can do it. It took me a year and a half because I had to make a plan that didn't end with me killed. It's scary and hard, but you can do it.
Hope you get out of it
Go stay with friends or family, get support and get a happier mood...
believe!!!!
I hope all goes well for you!
this is why im weary of people who brag about having such a βbig heartβ, who do overly nice things when you barely know each other, & who try to get super close to you the first time yall meetπits nice & flattering in the beginning but from personal experienceβ¦.it never ends well
14:06 That....okay that advice hit me hard and made me realize some shit. I think I really needed that. Thanks sWooZie
βThe more the baddy the more the bratty.β
-BlackBear
This isnβt her first toxic relationship. Sheβs so submissive and ok with everything that happened and she is totally getting abused in the marriage
Most likelyβ¦ thatβs legit an extraordinarily stupid progression to marriage
i feel really bad for her i hope shes safe its obv she isnt in control in the relationship and i just wanna know if shes safe :(((
Who is she?
@@woobeewooo True
Ever been with a girl so toxic you couldn't take her swimming for fear of being issued a court order for dumping toxic waste in the lake? Yea
Lmao nice one π
@@skylersanimations7887 lol thanks. Its an unfortunate event
Am I the only one that realizes the girl is the toxic one?
@@daylight3325 not really. I used to date some dude who was toxic as fuck and would always threaten to break up with me if we didnt have sex not matter how much I didnt want to for example or because "I couldn't satisfy him" when we did it. He also threatened to kill himself on multiple occasions like if I mentioned the stuff he did that hurt me and that we needed to work on. He just generally said a lot of shit he knew hurt me and that still sticks with me to this day
reminds me of slime girls.
Sounds like a girl i had a crush on, i get crushes easily , but she was not clingy. But she would basically have dramatic stories regularly about a few guys she was interested in. The wake up call to me was when she told her ex or current boyfriend at the time she was having a potentially lethal sickness (a lie). Later the boyfriend told her parents and they were genuinely worried and want to help her. She would tell me and few friends she will not admit it was a lie.