I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
@@kamran2035 scripts are not bullshit he says! lmao .....read that again,,,, its a script yet they are being genuine as per you?!!! lmao omg you sir are seriously an ass hat!
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome". A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character? Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk. “ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize. There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups. People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real. Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories. Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war. If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences. With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering. BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books. www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/ The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies. Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks. The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians. rense.com/general81/d3ss.htm This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
Omg! Just coming across your videos and I am so thankful for them and they touch on every emotions, every topics and just such an eye opener for all. I found myself gathering my family together and just listening to them. Sharing them with all my friends of different races. Thank you for the dialogue.
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
I just wanted to mention that my mother brought this video up to me now 2 years after you posted it. I love what you're doing and appreciate the healthy conversation. And by bringing positive awareness to such an important topic. Much love!
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
Great conversation and I truly enjoyed listening to both of you. Thank you Acho for having Matthew on and thank you Matthew for wanting to be a part of this. I feel we are in desperate times in sore need of these conversations. Well done gents
Just found your channel and im so glad it exists. Thank you for these conversations they really shed some light and open a dialog and encourage understanding. We need to listen more to conversations like these and have them with eachother. Again, thank you.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today. And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time) Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: krplus.net/bidio/qrmylKqkp2nXqHY
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations. If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious 2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity 3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all. I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
I cried in the last five minutes with the poem. Not because it was sad. Sad I've had all my life...because it gave me a moment of Hope. Well done! Powerful.
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
We've had these type of dialogs in the military across the board. When I was a young Airman, we looked for ways to find common ground, find our differences, and learn how to respect different cultures. I was blessed to be raised with a heritage of military service. I always stressed to my Airman to expand your horizon and learn as much as you can from eachother. Keep your heart full of love and understanding. ✌💕
I'm a black South African and this episode brought tears to my eyes . This was beautiful. If this could be part of a school subject in all schools in the world . Healing would start from the foundations of our next generation.
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?" Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness. You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect. The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem. You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
This is the kind of talk alot of people have been waiting for and thanks for sharing this, sometimes is better to sit and talk and learn from one another
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too." All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
Love what you’re doing…. I feel it’s very important you started this dialogue in a very passionate and positive way. I think you’d be a good bloke to have a beer with…🍺
I love how beautifully they model a deep, vulnerable, open-hearted dialogue. No defensiveness, no excuses. Just curiosity and understanding. It makes my heart swell ♥️
Beautiful words. Thank you for teaching me something new today. I have a better understanding of our prejudices bc of this conversation. Aspiring for freedom for all. New fan after this being a recommended vid.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it" That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves. And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone. When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity. When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
I too am learning a lot from listening to these conversations and am grateful that so many people of all colours are engaging. I did chuckle at one point in this conversation though, when Emmanuel spoke about backhanded compliments. My dentist recently said that my gums were in good health - for my age! Ouch!! Helped me realise the impact of backhanded compliments. None of us have to add that “for” if we are truly complimenting someone! Love n light to all humans.
I love to see everyone engaging in safe, open and honest communication. Yes it can be uncomfortable but you cannot stay comfortable being comfortable. Lets learn from one another. More importantly be anti racist. Check the person next to you being racist or giving those backhanded compliments. I have a co worker who is white (which only matters due to the context of this conversation) and i talk to her everyday, she asks questions and i ask questions. We are building a really great friendship. Ive never had a chance to do that before.
This drivers me insane, I happen to live in UT and people tell me that a lot. I started responding with , 'can you please tell that to the local police department and to anyone who's following me around the store assuming that I'm about to steal something.' but even after all of that they just laugh and assume that it meant nothing. Sigh.
Your not alone, I grew up in white family in a predominantly white university town so I was never exposed to black culture. People tell me all the time that im the whitest black guy theyve ever met because I show interest in science and technology rather then pop culture, which in itself is a sign of imbeded racism. As a black man I have to fit their narrow caricature of how a black person should act. But fuck them idc at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy.
@@billybobmonroe3166 You are either too black or not black enough--according to which black person you talk to, right? That's the worst kind of racism and I hate that i see it happen to black people by other black people. You're correct, you do you and what anyone else thinks of you is not your business or your problem. And yes, we owe a tremendous amount of pop culture to black people. Blues, rock, and jazz were created by black people in America. Conditioning black women to get their hair straightened "to pass" is so wrong. Having skin that is too dark is seen as a bad thing, and having lighter black skin is preferred is something that both black people and white people have twisted up. Not being into gangsta rap or anything like that gets you called an "Uncle Tom" by some black people and this is black on black racism. Racism is a MUCH larger issue than blacks vs. whites and it will take a long time to work it out.
I love these... i would like to see you take a real risk and have conversations with people who don't already associate themselves with your ideology and read your narrative. I think those videos could be even more informative and powerful, seeing people from possibly different sides coming together to have a truly civil discourse where both side might come away having learned something. All conversations should be approached with the belief that the other person might know something you dont and an openness to listening and potentially learning... if not then we can never grow as people or as a species and we'll just keep perpetuating these cycles
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
I must say, I believe the best way to move forward is to recognize the issues of the past and their current impacts change what we can, But look forward to what unifies us as fellow Human beings with the goal of creating practices that promote equality without too much focus on our separate labels but the labels we actually do share and the merits of our actions. Thankyou Emmanuel, for creating such a space to open up these Conversations, promoting better understanding and finding solutions
This is only the second video I seen of this content I have to go back to the first of every. But I really enjoy the video and conversations I have seen amazing 🙌🏽
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history. History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid. Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
Tansi? ( Hello, how are you? ) Mahihkan Awêna Oyôwin Pîsim nisihkason ( My name is Wolf Who Howls To Sun ). I am a traditional Nihiyaw Kihcihtwâwi Nâpêw - ( Cree Holy Man ). It is with deep sincerity and the utmost respect that I recognize and acknowledge Mr. Emmanuel Acho and Mr. Mathew McConaughy for coming together and having such an important conversation in a manner that is Kwayaskwâw ( Honest ), Mosis ( Open ), Tepakeyimowin ( Willing ), Akisow ( Accountable ) Kîkway Ka Nâkateyihtamihk ( Responsible ), and Kîkway Ka Sâpwâstek ( Transparent ). Incredible bravery, cooperation, collaboration, conversation, and understanding. My genuine hope is that one day Indigenous peoples' will be added to this important platform and conversation. Much needed!! Tapwe’ ( Truth ), A’ho ( Affirmative ), and Hiy, Hiy ( Deepest Gratitude ).
This is so great. I pray that people that need to hear this, somehow watch this. I hope this simply isn’t preaching to choir. Thank you for educating us how to be better. To listen, to learn, to be part of the solution and to do everything we can to learn from others to make the world a better place.
Me too bud! Especially when I have so many friends who obviously trying not be racist with all good intentions saying : all lives matter! Yeah of course all lives matter especially those lives who’ve been hurting since a long time ago! Definitely that o e gets me!
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
I love that Matt says "heard". That acknowledgement is powerful. If you don't have a good response or need time, say this. It says more than platitudes when you truly don't understand
Hatten: He's been one of my favorite actors for a while now, so it's cool to see him having a discussion with this brother in which is clearly trying to learn something, and that's cool. Sounds like he definitely came prepared and did his homework, too. I like that, lol. I enjoyed this whole discussion, too.
"The land that never has been yet". Beautiful sentiment, which there is, strangely, a term for in Welsh; Hiraeth. A longing or nostalgia for a time that hasn't happened yet or a place that hasn't come into being.
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
Thank you for keeping these “clean” in that we can watch with the kids. So powerful and put into words they will hear more fully than from our mouths, giving us the opportunity to then discuss and reinforce the message.
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
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I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
That is absolutely amazing. Love it!
Nice! So much more rewarding than affirmative action.
Which college is this?
I love this, congrats to you!
That is awesome and how it should be. Congradulations.
Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Unfortunately my kids school doesn't even celebrate black history month PERIOD!! THEY DON'T EVEN MENTION A NAME OR ACKNOWLEDGE IT!
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge." Best advice ever.
I love how Matthew made notes showing he was thoughtful about the meeting and wanting to genuinely learn
As far as any of us know, anyway.
you mean following a bullshit script!
@@kamran2035 scripts are not bullshit he says! lmao .....read that again,,,, its a script yet they are being genuine as per you?!!! lmao omg you sir are seriously an ass hat!
Matthew is a big thinker and he taught himself to always write
he didn't listen to a word Acho said. Just posturing like he did.
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
I noted that too, he's taking it seriously and so he should.
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
@@ampollard7041 they werent notes they were questions. the whole point of an interview.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
I NEED TO SEE THIS WITH A BLACK WOMAN HAVING AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION WITH A WHITE WOMAN. IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN. ITS NOT EASY FOR US AT ALL!!!
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
Girl we also need an uncomfortable conversation with black man and woman
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
" Don't feel guilty just acknowledge it". Powerful statement!
I have always love Mathew. This just made me love him more.
More or less.
Ew
@@outofmind9222 Is that what you garnered. OK.
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
i was just about to comment on that! glad to see that the intention to learn was truly there
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome".
A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
@@user-wn5eb7br9m There it is buddy!!! Thanks for sharing the mentality of the psychotic tribalism left
Love Matthew! He seems to be just genuinely living his life trying to grow and improve. He's never set in his ways and is always open.
Even two years later, idiots look at this as a sincere conversation rather than just a virtue signalling spew.
I wish we could have more of this everywhere.❣️👑❤️ God knows we need it.especially here in 🇿🇦🇿🇦 South Africa🌍
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
judge a man not by the color of his skin, but by the character of the man
Yesssss
And respect the people wish if they want to segregate ,do not forced them to mix.
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character?
Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
I like when Acho says "Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge"... beautifully articulated
"Heard" - is that enough? Simple, direct, non-defensive...
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
@@tamarakennedy4976 That was for the OP
Man I just love this channel. Much love to ALL my people/ humans in the world! This is truly inspiring!
The Langston Hughes poem is so powerful and on point. Loved it.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
Thanks. It sounded a bit patronizing, but now it makes a bit more sense.
Thank you for the explanation, I’m going to start using “heard”
Restaurant workers say it too, to acknowledge they heard the chef's orders.
Thanks because I was so confused on the first comment mentioning this term lol
Theater says "Thank You 5" before the show to actors.
Anyone else feel like this is actually a very comfortable conversation?
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk.
“ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize.
There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups.
People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real.
Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories.
Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war.
If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences.
With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering.
BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books.
www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/
The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies.
Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks.
The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians.
rense.com/general81/d3ss.htm
This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
Omg! Just coming across your videos and I am so thankful for them and they touch on every emotions, every topics and just such an eye opener for all. I found myself gathering my family together and just listening to them. Sharing them with all my friends of different races. Thank you for the dialogue.
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
Pathetic nonsense….poor, poor victims, blah, blah. Pay attention to your own situations and improve your own situations.
I love it when Matthew says, "Heard" sweet, taken in... absorbed sweet!
He probably worked in a restaurant. My friends or family ask me to do something and I immediately say “heard”
If I’m being honest the “you sound/act white” comments I got always came from other black people
I know black people who say this but never met a white person who has (not saying they exist as I'm sure they do)
@zzz it means something different in that situation and doesn’t effect me in anyway. When someone who looks like says this it’s a form of ostracism
That's honest. I hope I've never said that but hearing it made me frightened that I may have said something similar.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
@@tommymc7535 nobody is blaming white ppl for everything 😀
I just wanted to mention that my mother brought this video up to me now 2 years after you posted it. I love what you're doing and appreciate the healthy conversation. And by bringing positive awareness to such an important topic. Much love!
So much guidance so much wisdom you bring chills down my spine 🥶
No background music was edited in, it just follows McConaughey
There was music the entire video Dude!
@@karenlindsey5988 It's a joke Karen
😂
lmfao this music took me straight to the Lincoln commercial XD
Heard
Finally, as a black woman i can listen to a conversation that encourages excellent thought and not fear and hatred.
Thank you...
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: krplus.net/bidio/caeMnmOWnImpZaQ
It's christmas don't listen to this fake crybaby s***. They are lying to you white people could give a f*** about your problems.
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
@@jameylane9196 to tell the truth, i have not known any black person who cares either....
Great conversation and I truly enjoyed listening to both of you. Thank you Acho for having Matthew on and thank you Matthew for wanting to be a part of this. I feel we are in desperate times in sore need of these conversations. Well done gents
Just found your channel and im so glad it exists. Thank you for these conversations they really shed some light and open a dialog and encourage understanding. We need to listen more to conversations like these and have them with eachother. Again, thank you.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
please
this music made me feel like I am watching a 12 weeks body transformation video
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
And the forced subtitles as well. I can hear and understand them, I can turn sub's on if I want them.
Yes, the music is way too sad and tearful. This should be a positive thing. Just don't use anything
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today.
And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time)
Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo
I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining
Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
I am so glad these conversations are happening and i am going to become more of an active part of this conversation and the actions needed for change
We need more of these conversations. Thank you.
Can we have an Asian convo here I think that there are a lot of misunderstanding between blacks and Asians
My thoughts exactly!!!!
Model minority stereotype MUST be exposed for the myth it is.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
This means two different things in UK Vs USA
@@TheFaro2011 Elaborate please.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
The ending with the Langston Hughes poem excerpt was the most hopeful thing I've seen in a while.
Antonina Roberts gtfo
I completely agree..
Growth mindset, the power I yet.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: krplus.net/bidio/qrmylKqkp2nXqHY
Prayerfully this provokes more of these conversations! Hats off to both men.
"The land that never has been yet", damn straight. Proud of you guys, especially you Acho! Keep talking and keep educating. Hook 'em Horns!
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
but it is all one sided...
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@brieb402 Your "whataboutism" is showing.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations.
If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious
2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity
3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally
Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey
Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all.
I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
You are easily impressed.....What McConaughey did in this video was old shtick that started 60 yrs ago. I never heard the word "reparations."
I cried in the last five minutes with the poem. Not because it was sad. Sad I've had all my life...because it gave me a moment of Hope. Well done! Powerful.
Goddamn. This was a whole lot better than I was expecting. Some powerful and thoughtful words shared on both sides, you definitely have a new viewer!
As a Nigerian I’m sending blessings to all my black and white brothers in America. We love you all. Long live the USA 🇺🇸 🇳🇬❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿
From America ❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿✊🏻✊🏿
Yes much love from america!
and long live nigeria...
@Moyin Adegbie - THANK YOU! Much Love to my brothers/sisters in Nigeria!
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
Love the transparency
@@numinousnihil3804 Hopefully blacks will also learn to not vilify all whites. It works both ways.
We've had these type of dialogs in the military across the board. When I was a young Airman, we looked for ways to find common ground, find our differences, and learn how to respect different cultures. I was blessed to be raised with a heritage of military service. I always stressed to my Airman to expand your horizon and learn as much as you can from eachother. Keep your heart full of love and understanding. ✌💕
I'm a black South African and this episode brought tears to my eyes . This was beautiful. If this could be part of a school subject in all schools in the world . Healing would start from the foundations of our next generation.
We are actually watching this in school, I hope it makes you happy ☺️
@@hailee4682 you have a great teacher !
@@hailee4682 you have a great teacher !
Absolutely!!! Just a conversation.
Ugh stay out of this it aint shit
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
Thank you for being willing to learn
Your taking big steps man in the right direction 🇺🇸🤙🏽
Man that's so much more than most people are willing to give, good on you, we must continue to learn and spread and promote equality! :)
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
Yes, we constantly have to unlearn what we were taught and relearn
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?"
Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness.
You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect.
The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem.
You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
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This is the kind of talk alot of people have been waiting for and thanks for sharing this, sometimes is better to sit and talk and learn from one another
I love this. We need more of this. Every day. Discussion like this is where change begins.
Matthew McConaughey: Reading Langston Hughes
Me: Well alright, alright, alright...!
😂🤣😂🤣
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Love his poetry, even read his bio as a young girl and been a fan since.
All white dudes who read Langston Hughes are allies. Case in point: www.bitchute.com/video/O8Onuw5X96fp/
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
@@AudraT yep. Fully agree
Greatest content I’ve seen. Great conversation. Great topics. And great respectable responses from both parties.
Oh wow. That last quote about America brought a tear to my eye. Well said. Thanks for sharing.
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too."
All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
@@KeyboardsJR I'm glad he helped you understand. I'm glad you are willing to learn and admit your change in thinking.
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But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
Thank you for all that you are doing. I am a white female who is almost 60. I live in the south and was raised as such.
Thank you!! I need this.
Love this. we as humans need to have those conversations with one another. We have to stop pointing fingers and work togethar to do better.
"You're so intelligent for a woman"
"You're so pretty for a lesbian"
"You're so educated for a black guy"
Not complements at all!
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
"you're so fly for a white guy"
Did Joe Biden say that? It sounds like him.
"You dance well for a White guy."
"She's smart for a blonde."
"He sings like a Black guy."
Not compliments at all!!
Ive always loved Matthew as an actor, now I love him as a person.
Me too. I actually like him.
Thank you Emmanuel for sharing these insights. Very important to "start a conversation".
Love what you’re doing…. I feel it’s very important you started this dialogue in a very passionate and positive way. I think you’d be a good bloke to have a beer with…🍺
I like how he wrote down his questions to remember them.
Me too.
Better to remember & less chance of misspeaking. Good plan.
Let's you know he took it serious. I love him.
Last thing MM wants is to experience cancel culture, being smart
Ever go shopping without a shopping list? If so you probably forgot something?
I love how beautifully they model a deep, vulnerable, open-hearted dialogue. No defensiveness, no excuses. Just curiosity and understanding. It makes my heart swell ♥️
That's not what happened here
they did not say anything that is consistent with reality
What your talking about NEVER happens!
Beautiful words. Thank you for teaching me something new today. I have a better understanding of our prejudices bc of this conversation. Aspiring for freedom for all. New fan after this being a recommended vid.
Great conversation!!! More should be had like this 😍
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it"
That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
exactly. white guilt is useless. we don't need nor want it.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves.
And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone.
When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity.
When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
@@memyself898 actually that's not all you can do. You can also be anti- racist.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
Aye! Thank you for shouting us black Cubans out because some people don't even know we exist. Great conversation
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
Equating racism to Covid-19 is genius💯‼️ As a black woman and mother, thank you so much for this dialogue ‼️‼️‼️
I stumbled upon your channel on Wayne's story, Man I found a gem of enlightenment 💎
You earned my sub Emmanuel 👊🏿
damn, the comparison to covid vs other diseases was pretty smart.
especially since it's the same people denying covid is a real problem that needs to be addressed, are arguing against the realities of racism
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
i thought it was too! Very insightful!!
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Yea nothing we need more is a false education, to make people believe whites are racist,and blacks are not. This channel is a lie
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
This was awesome!!! Thank you, you both and Shalom to you'll and to everything you'll do.
Every time I watch your videos I learn something new.
As a white woman, this is well received. I will be following and listening. Please keep bringing them! Sending love!
Acho is very good on Speak for yourself on FS1 with Wiley
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I too am learning a lot from listening to these conversations and am grateful that so many people of all colours are engaging. I did chuckle at one point in this conversation though, when Emmanuel spoke about backhanded compliments. My dentist recently said that my gums were in good health - for my age! Ouch!!
Helped me realise the impact of backhanded compliments. None of us have to add that “for” if we are truly complimenting someone!
Love n light to all humans.
I love to see everyone engaging in safe, open and honest communication. Yes it can be uncomfortable but you cannot stay comfortable being comfortable. Lets learn from one another. More importantly be anti racist. Check the person next to you being racist or giving those backhanded compliments. I have a co worker who is white (which only matters due to the context of this conversation) and i talk to her everyday, she asks questions and i ask questions. We are building a really great friendship. Ive never had a chance to do that before.
I’ve heard the “you’re the whitest black guy ever” all the time. Never about me. Always about their own assumptions. Powerful to hear that here.
From your white friends?
Mr UnFausted mostly but even other POC friends as well
This drivers me insane, I happen to live in UT and people tell me that a lot. I started responding with , 'can you please tell that to the local police department and to anyone who's following me around the store assuming that I'm about to steal something.' but even after all of that they just laugh and assume that it meant nothing. Sigh.
Your not alone, I grew up in white family in a predominantly white university town so I was never exposed to black culture. People tell me all the time that im the whitest black guy theyve ever met because I show interest in science and technology rather then pop culture, which in itself is a sign of imbeded racism. As a black man I have to fit their narrow caricature of how a black person should act. But fuck them idc at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy.
@@billybobmonroe3166 You are either too black or not black enough--according to which black person you talk to, right? That's the worst kind of racism and I hate that i see it happen to black people by other black people. You're correct, you do you and what anyone else thinks of you is not your business or your problem. And yes, we owe a tremendous amount of pop culture to black people. Blues, rock, and jazz were created by black people in America. Conditioning black women to get their hair straightened "to pass" is so wrong. Having skin that is too dark is seen as a bad thing, and having lighter black skin is preferred is something that both black people and white people have twisted up. Not being into gangsta rap or anything like that gets you called an "Uncle Tom" by some black people and this is black on black racism. Racism is a MUCH larger issue than blacks vs. whites and it will take a long time to work it out.
I am on a huge learning journey. Thank you.
I love these... i would like to see you take a real risk and have conversations with people who don't already associate themselves with your ideology and read your narrative. I think those videos could be even more informative and powerful, seeing people from possibly different sides coming together to have a truly civil discourse where both side might come away having learned something. All conversations should be approached with the belief that the other person might know something you dont and an openness to listening and potentially learning... if not then we can never grow as people or as a species and we'll just keep perpetuating these cycles
I sat my wife down to have an uncomfortable conversation. I said, “honey you have to acknowledge.” That was the end of the conversation.
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Women don't do accountability, my friend😂
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🤭😆 pray about it
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Two Americans having an intelligent nuanced conversation about race? In America? I could get used to this.
It was a lecture. Only 1 person took blame and looked for ways to improve himself.
@@dlakerguy how could the other person improve themself and how are they at fault?
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
@@dlakerguy yeah... You're either a troll or REALLY ignorant. Have a nice day.
@@dlakerguy True about the lecture.
I must say, I believe the best way to move forward is to recognize the issues of the past and their current impacts change what we can, But look forward to what unifies us as fellow Human beings with the goal of creating practices that promote equality without too much focus on our separate labels but the labels we actually do share and the merits of our actions.
Thankyou Emmanuel, for creating such a space to open up these Conversations, promoting better understanding and finding solutions
This is only the second video I seen of this content I have to go back to the first of every. But I really enjoy the video and conversations I have seen amazing 🙌🏽
"...not just by being not racist, but by being anti-racist"
Solid 👌🏿
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
Tell that to black community 's
Anti-racism is more dangerous than racism.
@@marklvrd Then I'm sure you feel better, knowing that there's so much more racism than there is anti-racism.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history.
History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid.
Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
I kept tearing up every time he said "heard"? Its about damn time my brothers and sisters were just....heard.
Giovanni Mancini you are part of the problem. And ignorant.
black men should be having uncomfortable conversations with white police officers not actors
Aww, honey,💞
@Giovanni Mancini dogwhistle much?
Amen, Taku. It's time for us to just fucking listen. That's not enough of course, but that's the best place to start.
Tansi? ( Hello, how are you? ) Mahihkan Awêna Oyôwin Pîsim nisihkason ( My name is Wolf Who Howls To Sun ). I am a traditional Nihiyaw Kihcihtwâwi Nâpêw - ( Cree Holy Man ). It is with deep sincerity and the utmost respect that I recognize and acknowledge Mr. Emmanuel Acho and Mr. Mathew McConaughy for coming together and having such an important conversation in a manner that is Kwayaskwâw ( Honest ), Mosis ( Open ), Tepakeyimowin ( Willing ), Akisow ( Accountable ) Kîkway Ka Nâkateyihtamihk ( Responsible ), and Kîkway Ka Sâpwâstek ( Transparent ). Incredible bravery, cooperation, collaboration, conversation, and understanding. My genuine hope is that one day Indigenous peoples' will be added to this important platform and conversation. Much needed!! Tapwe’ ( Truth ), A’ho ( Affirmative ), and Hiy, Hiy ( Deepest Gratitude ).
This is so great. I pray that people that need to hear this, somehow watch this. I hope this simply isn’t preaching to choir. Thank you for educating us how to be better. To listen, to learn, to be part of the solution and to do everything we can to learn from others to make the world a better place.
Keep the conversation going - loud and clear. Everyone needs to listen
White men say: your pretty for a black girl
Black men say: your pretty for a dark girl
These two phrases are actually connected......
White people say BOTH. Never heard a black man say that about black women
funny, Ive always said she fine regardless. Fake news.
We both know that black men make the "dark girl comment" FAR more than white men make the "black girl" comment. 😉
S C I have heard black men say that consistently throughout my life.
They are! Both statements stem from the same disease of prejudice.
Damn corona virus metaphor really gets me. So understandable
Me too bud! Especially when I have so many friends who obviously trying not be racist with all good intentions saying : all lives matter! Yeah of course all lives matter especially those lives who’ve been hurting since a long time ago! Definitely that o e gets me!
Thank you for sharing
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
I’ve been a recipient of the backhanded compliments as well
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
I love that Matt says "heard". That acknowledgement is powerful. If you don't have a good response or need time, say this. It says more than platitudes when you truly don't understand
LOL! It’s so cringe.
Hatten:
He's been one of my favorite actors for a while now, so it's cool to see him having a discussion with this brother in which is clearly trying to learn something, and that's cool. Sounds like he definitely came prepared and did his homework, too. I like that, lol. I enjoyed this whole discussion, too.
Amen!
@@alondathomas293 i agree. It felt so genuine 😌 💛
@Ariel Hatten: I thought the same thing. A very thoughtful response.
"The land that never has been yet". Beautiful sentiment, which there is, strangely, a term for in Welsh; Hiraeth. A longing or nostalgia for a time that hasn't happened yet or a place that hasn't come into being.
Powerful and moving great to see and hear such conversations
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
POWERFUL
Are we free as a people ? That is of any color?
Langston Hughes
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
I would love to hear a conversation between Emmanuel and Thomas Sowell.
Oh my Lord, YES!
Unfortunately, I doubt TS is in well enough health for that. National treasure, that man. Also, they would be talking right past one another.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
Thats rascist
Me too
I love this so much, the algorithm brought me here and I'm not leaving.
I applaud Mr. Emmanuel Acho for the vision and effort to make a difference through this video series.
Thank you for keeping these “clean” in that we can watch with the kids. So powerful and put into words they will hear more fully than from our mouths, giving us the opportunity to then discuss and reinforce the message.
@@Mark-dd4px lol! Mark I was worried a troll would actually comment this way hahah! Glad you're kidding though 😅
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
Those were my comments as well.
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
krplus.net/bidio/osigaqqCpJa-nno if you want something a little deeper
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
Thanks for the upload, Emmanuel.
I would listen to these two together EVERY DAY!