How I survived middle school mean girls
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This “just ignore it” stuff also primes little girls for assault. It’s literally the same arguments. Got assaulted? What were you wearing? Getting bullied? What are you wearing? “Just tell them no!” Same thing there. Surely it’s something YOU’RE doing.
I’m telling ya, we get girls convinced their suffering is their fault REAL early.
@@frankbrowder5543 she meant girls being the victims
Ignore the guys making it about them. That's not what we're all like. Victims should stick together and validate each other instead of making it a contest. We need to have each others backs. And you're right, speaking as a victim myself, this "just ignore it" leaves victims vulnerable to predators and bullies. It's a serious issue we need to correct and pass on the knowledge to the future generations. So eventually it dies out. Be the change we want to see in others.
When I was touched inappropriately by a classmate, the situation was handled SO poorly. The boy got a two day in school suspension for traumatizing me for life. I will never trust the school system again
@@o11ie58 im so sorry that happened to you. i hope you are doing better since then. 😞
@@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans I’m doing much better thank you :) it happened in 6th grade. I’m a freshman in high school now and I’ve avoided him as much as I can.
There is a woman who once told her friend “don’t let your hurt childhood self make your grown up decisions”. And those are words to live by
Is this woman Kylie Sonique Love from Drag Race ?
Childhood is the years when someone’s personality and decisions develop.
@@julesgijs8682 yes ma’am
@@Bananaa_- exactly
Im not discouraging this statement, but would this mean I *shouldn't* get my name legally changed while I'm a minor?
I really hate how much we've stigmatized "snitching". People make it seem like a bad thing to speak out against something that's wrong.
Fr I snitch when someone does something rude to me, and people call me a snitch all the time. Like, you arent going to tell? You've never snitched on anyone before? Yeah. THats what I thought. So stop calling me a SNITCH.
@@mariehayes8834Exactly
So true :C
Snitchpilled mindset, you have
Snitches are lame neeks who get bullied and can’t fight back cuz they seek ash
"Just ignore it" was the worst advice I got as a kid. That didn't result into the bullies getting bored, like the adults claimed, but the bullies getting more creative and also more aggressive. The attacks got worse because when "you don't achieve something in the first try, you try something else", right?
To this day I don't know what I would say to my younger self. I have no advice because I still have no clue what would have stopped this nightmare. But what I learned is: "don't believe them. YOU are NOT the problem. And even when it doesn't feel like it now, but things will change. Keep your kindness, because some day there will be people who appreciate you for this " and at least for me, when school was over, this nightmare was over too.
Thanks. I needed that
I was luckily never bullied too much (except once when I created my YT channel, made the mistake to tell a handful of people at my school with the consequence of getting my KRplus name shouted at me all day long; when that happened I went silent on YT for a year and everyone forgot me again because they had nothing to laugh at).
But school itself was a nightmare for me back in Germany. Now I'm in Sweden and even like school.
I really relate to this, i was in EF that english lesson i use to love going there hanging with friends but after i graduated high flyers i was put into another class with different people at first they seem nice but their to guys. Lets call them L and Small L their brothers and they didnt seem much at first but as time past they started to say names to me. At first i thought its MY fault i dont get it (i thought it was a joke) but it more and more hurtfull i said to my parents that i was bullied and they say ignore it and when that didnt work i laugh at their comments but i cried in the end. the worst part is that the teacher was there didnt stop from hate speech plus my parents talk to EF they didnt do anything . And the class was small and open 10 students(me included). But in the end i graduated and when were taking a photo i gave the middle finger. And move to TBI they students were nice to me and sometimes abit funny.
No the bully’s just hurt you more to realize them again
“Just ignore it” makes my blood boil.
I’ve been told that so many times, even with physical bullying.
Find yourself community is the best advice i can give. And if you are a normal kid, doing nothing is just bad as well.
Your responsible for protecting people around you, stop doing nothing
just join a martial arts club id say thats way better advice
I mean im mean to a girl harper bc she is like "waaaaaa ue not doing what i want" oml it was annoying but truee
@@Beangobbler what?
yes even MY MOM SAID IT🤬u mom
Especially when it comes to teachers, "Just ignore it" actually means, "we don't want to be bothered with your problems."
EXACTLY! by saying "just ignore it!" is basicslly saying that they dont give a shit! and thats a PROBLEM
and then they wonder why the quiet kid whips up a 9mm
To be fair, you've never dealt with crazy parents. It's just easier not to, because you're not paid enough for that crap (the parents)
In my 7yo brothers class kids literally hit eachother and the teacher said "just dont play with them"
@Lord Frog why ?
Bullies: *Exist*
Teacher: *I’m a pretend I didn’t see that*
Victim: *Rightfully defends self*
Teacher: *Now you have officially carried it too far buddy*
💔
some girl gave me a fat shove down the stairs today and then she threw her pencil case at me in class so I threw my metal drinkbottle at her- then I got in trouble for something she started....
How dare you escalate it! Now i have to waste my time and break it up.
@@clxudy_fvsethat’s not fair,what happened to you that is, they should’ve punished her for doing that to you, teachers should deal with bullies send them to detention or to the supervisor or guidance counselor, not just sit and do nothing about it.
As a teaching assistant, I’d never tell a kid “just ignore it”. I always tell bullies to stop what they’re doing and if they chose not to stop, I’d send them to the office.
You are right, mam!
i wish we were friends in 6th grade bc 6th grade me wouldve ABSOLUTELY thrown hands oh my god ??
middle schoolers are the worst im so sorry (and it looks like the teachers arent any better)
I WAS bullied by a teacher
Middle school is just a cesspool of hatred and bigotry.
1st like!
Dude in my middle school everyone just vibes with each other
I was being bullied in 3rd grade and the teacher blamed ME for it
"Just ignore it." That is actually the dumbest thing a teacher could say to a student, ESPECIALLY regarding the circumstances mentioned in this video
I couldn't agree more. I am in high school now, and my teacher grabbed my face so she could force me to nod my head and agree to her ridiculous lecture, which was just her picking on me. This happened last week. You want to know what I was told when I told my mom, who told me if something like that ever happened that she'd fight a b*tch? "Just ignore it." She's done so many things to me that I'm sure arent legal, but this school is a small school and its my family's last option, so I'm forced to be in her class. ALSO NICE PFP DELTARUNE IS AWESOME
@@IceePhoenix thats so messed up. I wouldn't hold back from punching anymore at that point
Telling somebody, Ignore it is the same as a virus entering your computer, so you ask Microsoft what to do and they say, ignore it
Exactly. Maybe it would be decent advice for cowardly and utterly useless remarks, but things got stolen and others got involved. A middle schooler most likely wouldn't be able to ignore the out-of-hand things, let alone the stress of being alone and basically bullied. Dumb advice in most cases honestly.
As a teacher, I try my best to stop name-calling (etc.) that happens in my classroom, but I know some of it flies under my radar because it's impossible to notice to everything. I'm pretty down to earth, and many of my students feel comfortable talking with me about all sorts of things, especially since I'm a young teacher. I hope they're comfortable enough to tell me about what's going on when life isn't going well for them. I would never want to sit by and do nothing when there's a serious issue going on, but knowing the reality of the situation is hard, especially when you're trying to be diplomatic. One thing's for sure though: telling a kid to "just ignore it" when they're being bullied is definitely wrong.
Adults at school : *tell me if you get bullied*
Also Adults : *TATTLETALE , STITCH*
I was bullied a lot in school but it eventually got too far. This one kid had found out about my home life and sexuality so he used it to make rude jokes about me. He would say things like “You’re gay, you’re going to hell!” Or “she doesn’t know what a mom is!”. I was really upset because it was a constant thing and I was scared that no one would believe me about it. Thankfully, the nice administrators heard me and actually did something about it. But I had always been upset about the jokes because I felt like my mother’s absence was my fault and his joking about it didn’t help, which made me dread school. It’s much better now though :). Thank you for speaking up about bullying, illy! It’s important to know and bring attention to!
“Stop bullying your friends and apologise.”
*And that was when she yoinked the final straw.*
That part really triggered something in me
@@tsulait same-
7:00 you tell the teacher she say just ignore it the reason why she tell you that is because the school district give them money if they're doing everything good meaning no bullies no fight nothing like that if that happened to you go to somebody higher your school's area District
Remember everybody if you getting bully or harass and the teacher just said ignore it or let's just say they did something trying to make you guys talk it out but it keeps happening
You go to the people that are higher than your teachers and principal meaning you go to the person that paid your teacher and principal your the school districts the school district is where your area is and let's just say the school district does nothing then take it to the court but if your Court don't take it serious then you go to the Supreme Court and they want to take a serious go to the NEWS people will start caring about it and then the Supreme Court will take it serious
Don't feel sad that you're going to make them lose her job and not let them live or feed herself there's so many jobs for teachers and principles out there so if they get fired at one place they could go somewhere else
@@GoGo-cr4mo 👏
This is something everyone needs to learn, especially adults: ignoring doesn’t do shit. It makes it worse because it gives the false impression that bullying is okay, because no one does anything about it. I was bullied my entire life in public school, not an exaggeration, and it only stopped when I stood up for myself and told them to stop, and when I gained confidence out of spite. Then when I graduated high school I was free. I just wish I had the strength to do it sooner than the very end of school.
The thing is, if she's just saying mean words, you can't do too much. Also, the main point is.... the teachers just didn't care... in this case, they were underpaid understaffed people who just wanted to go home. They didn't actually care about the kid.
@@TheDeathmail if that’s the case, why are we told to go to the teacher if getting teased and bullied.
Ugh yes! All I ever heard was "just ignore them"! Like why so I put up with it when THEY WERE IN THE WRONG
@@TheDeathmail The teachers have a very specific thing they can do if students are talking during class for any reason: tell them to get out. They can't police the child's entire life, but they CAN make their classroom a safe space. They do it when you're on your phone or eating a snack, they can do it when you're getting bullied. Being underpaid does not justify letting children get bullied.
in Middle school I was bullied and the ONLY thing I heard was "We'll deal with it" I remind them so many times and they got annoyed with me, the only person who got in trouble was this, was me bc I punched them when they punched me lol
Back in school I was bullied relentlessly for my red hair. Nobody will read this or care because I've said this on several places without an audience, as though they know and feel guilty or hear these things and think it was fine. The anti ginger thing became an international issue so I wasn't an odd stick in the pile for this one. There was a red haired solidarity happening, so these shared experiences led to lasting friendships. Some of the stuff that happened would get people in prison. I was thrown in to a fire, lit on fire, beaten at the back of the school and had my stuff taken, had my clothes torn off me to see if the curtains matched the carpet, secsually assaulted, pushed down stairs, smashed in to poles for no reason other than people thought I was subhuman and my existence was an offence to them. Each year there was this Kick a Ginger Day and EVERYONE GOT IN ON IT. The news asked if it was okay to violently target a group of people for their physical differences **as though that hasn't been a topic of contention in the world for the last two centuries**. The teachers told me it was my fault for having red hair and the internet told me it was fine because I was a white dude so it wasn't the same thing and it was funny and - oh look, this isolated red haired kid also thinks it's funny so that must be the universal truth among all red haired people. Why should the world act like it matters when the less than 1% of the population that has red hair has a grievance against the vast majority of people that don't and ensure that all red haired people are violently reminded of that because of a solid episode of South Park where the CREATORS DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGISE FOR WHAT THEY DID even knowing what it did to the world? The advice was to just let it happen because it's funny to everyone else, and the way I felt about it didn't matter at all because I didn't fit the demographic of an affected target. Oh, and people say that red haired girls are hot and that means my experiences don't matter because all that talk about anti ginger rhetoric wasn't actually about red haired people because the red haired girls being objectified for their physical differences was somehow meaningful to invalidating the topic.
Some of those teachers laughed at me while they watched these things happen. There were some teachers I was on good terms with, but others took that unnecessary cruelty all the way to their position as individuals who are meant to be the responsible party among children in a societal microcosm. The times I fought back meant I was the one to get in to trouble but in my case, the bullying never stopped, as the other kids were bigger and stronger so my little munchkin fists never made a lasting impact. Muscle development was a rich kid thing, so I never had that opportunity to defend myself properly and make a lasting impact on the people that hurt me.
Do you want to know why it all stopped? Some kid in the States was hospitalised by his bullies and took them to court for hate crimes and won. Which means the ONLY reason it stopped wasn't because people wanted to be compassionate. It was because nobody wanted to be known to have commenced or conducted a hate crime. It was more important to look accepting than it was to be accepting and that still annoys me to this day, and nobody wants to remember that part of recent history because it was a grim reminder that the only thing keeping us from tearing each other to piecesis the threat of liability or social acceptance.
That sucks, i hope youre in a better situation now, i was bullied a lot through elementary and high school
I saw this and I care. I'm sorry you had to go through any of that let alone all of it. I hope you see this and it gives you some comfort. You do matter and people do care
Red hair is hot affffff... But can u add a tldr please?
@@The_Choco_Latee tl;dr: society decided gingers were subhuman and existing with them made people sick. Harassed a lot in and out of school for long time. Was global issue. "Kick a Ginger Day" was an international holiday celebrating the kicking of gingers. There was even an appreciation Facebook page and footage demonstrating what to do if a ginger is spotted. I tried to self-delete from it all. Kid in US sued their bullies for a hate crime and won. Made everyone mad, but bullying stopped very soon after. Facebook page was deleted, and the talk that gingers were sickening subhumans, and making them scared was great, had stopped and become largely forgotten. People didn't become aware - they just didn't want to be called out.
Wow I hope that you're doing a lot better now
“Just ignore it” makes the bullies try harder, because “if you want to achieve something, you won’t give up first try.”
I can relate to this. I honestly think that telling a kid to “just ignore it” when it comes to bullying is not just bad advice, it’s PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING advice. I got told for 3 years straight through primary (I’m British) school to “just ignore it” and thanks to the teachers’ incompetence, I stopped going to adults for help and I still struggle to ask for help even as a young adult for things that aren’t related to bullying.
Edit: I also suffer with severe social anxiety and can’t walk in a room full of people without thinking I’m going to get mentally hurt.
nah bcs they be hurting you and then the ta is like just ignore it
I relate as well
Primary school ( I’m British as well) was like hell for me
I got ganged up on by my “friends” and my parents told me to “just ignore it”
Been there mate. The British school system isn’t designed to deal with a persons mental health, as long as you get the grades who cares if they lit your blazer on fire (sry, venting)
I want to be a psychologist because not only I can at least help stop someone going through bulling or depression but so they can live out their lives happier and heathier *NO ONE* deservers such things put on them and parents need to tell their kids "Don't take shat from no body, don't let others push you around anymore then they already have its hard but you need to go to the teacher I will as well so we can put a end to this bullying." I mean I would do that because its better than nothing
Are you by any chance telling my story as well?
Yea, if more people took responsibility for their actions everything would be so much better haha
@@WhitneyDahlin I agree! If you're the kind of parent who "can hardly wait for school to start again" then you're dreading spending time with ur own dang kids and you suck.
@Whitney Dahlin the problem with this idea is that it punishes the bullied child instead of addressing the bullies behavior. You're homeschooling the kid who needs friends and a support system, thus cutting them off from all of those things, to what? Protect them? If you want to protect your kid from being bullied and the school isn't doing anything, then march your happy butt down to the school/district offices/school board meetings and make a fuss. Demand changes, don't just yank the victim out of school and expect the bullies will stop. They'll just find a new target, and nothing will get better until karma slaps them into next week.
Not only that, but most of us these days can't lose one half of our household income so one of us can stay home to homeschool our kids. We have to work to cover the rising costs of living. You act like homeschooling is a "simple" answer, but it isn't, and it is definitely not solving anything.
@@WhitneyDahlin alot of parents can't teach their own kids and can't afford someone to do it for them
Yeah one time I was packing my suitcase for a trip and my mom bumped into a box and I said sorry to her
@@MrsMBash22 actually, I'm homeschooled and I have plenty of friends and my mom is always on my side when someone is being a bully.
This hit me hard. This was exactly my experience in middle school in the 80s, but with added physical violence. I'm angry about it to this day -- not nearly as much towards the bullies, but to the adults that let it happen. Not only would they ignore it, and tell you to, but they would penalize both the victim and perpetrator. They sent the message that authority figures were useless. The lesson I learned was that if someone hits you, forget the adults and hit back harder -- admittedly not a great takeaway, but occasionally it worked.
Public school teachers have failed students time and time again. When I was in 2nd grade I was heavily bullied as well. One time, my only friend turned against me on the playground and everyone else decided to tag along. All 15 or so kids ended up chasing me around, and when I stopped to ask a teacher to stop them, she just said “they’re just playing tag” and completely disregarded how I felt. Long story short: I ended up falling and having my first panic attack because of the way everyone stood above me in a circle. Thank goodness my mom is scary and talked some sense into the staff afterwards.
this whole video got my blood BOILING 😤😤 LEMME GRAB MY GAT
You mean cat lol also KELSEY HIIIII! DIDN'T EXPECT YOU HERE
kelsey has a gator?
QUEEN U MEAN CAT RIGHT????
@@gabriella5446 B AND C ARE BOTH AN EQUAL DISTANCE FROM G
IT COULD BE EITHER OR
Lol
"Your just sensitive"
"Snowflake"
"Jesus I was just joking"
These are some of the most hurtful words I heard as person who was told to bottle their emotions and be happy. I'm messed up as heck
I am glad I was never really bullied, however I never had friends either, my class had one big group of people that would be together in the breaks. It was actually just some and the rest listened, not even being included, so sitting with them was yust like listening to a potcast you're not interested in. I don't know what else there was that messed me up, but I definitely bottled up emotions too, up to that point I either wouldn't feel anything or anger.
I'm a lot better now and what I want to say is, you have to actually want to get better. It's very easy to stay the way you are and not make the effort to change your thinking and sometimes I unintetionally go back to the old way I used to think and ripping up the scars that already take a very long time to heal.
I don't want to say I managed this on my own, when I got into a new class and found friends, I got so much better, but I managed to get a bit better some time before that. What I did was go into the woods, I guess it's a safe space for me, and just let out my emotions and thoughts. After some time I would feel better the second I got there, so yeah understand and help yourself, you wont magically be well 24/7 and it doesn't mean friends can't help you too, but it helps a lot.
Mine is prob “Die in a fire for all i care! Stupid furry!” Somthing like that but it hurt
all of those words fit what my cousin calls me… it’s the worst because I have to go through with it all year every year, not just the school year on top of what already happens there
Joking based on its context is just that: Joking. It's the downside of comedy when folks don't understand the joke or its execution because comedy/humor is supposed to provoke. That is why the term "Snowflake" even exists. When you're sensitive enough that you cannot laugh at yourself is what gives the masses the power to bully you--and that's sad.
This is disgusting and anyone who tells you to ignore bullies has no idea how bad it can be. I feel so bad that you experienced this for a year and nobody, not your parents, not your teachers, did anything!
i was bullied in the same age group. i ignored it, untill my buillies got physical. fortunately for me, my parents always told me that if i stood up for myself, that i wouldnt get in trouble. when my bullies got physical, i got physical back, he shoved me in PE, on a cross country run. i did the same to him. i finished the run is at full speed. when he tried to come at me again, and i used his own momentum to throw him into a wall, by basically side stepping him, and guiding him past me. school gave me saturday school, but my parents were true to their word, i didnt get in trouble from them.
The adults who say “just ignore it” are really saying “I don’t care, I can’t be bothered to deal with it.” And leave a poor child wondering why they’re being targeted. I was never bullied, but my old friend was, and he was the kindest person you could ever know. Luckily, he still embraces himself to this day, and I know not every bullied kid can be like that. My mom always taught me to fight fire with fire, stand up for yourself. And I have to say, I agree. Never let anybody hurt you for absolutely no reason. Let them know that they can’t bother you.
Yea the ignoring thing never works trust me, you either need to tell a teacher or take matters into your own hands
@@CorvusCorax06 yup it was always faster just to deal with it yourself and risk the suspension
sadly, this is what worked for me. After years being bullied and told to just ignore it, the one thing that worked was fighting back.
We shouldn't have to put ourselves to their level, but sometimes it is necesary. Some of them only understand when you speack their languaje
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@@ricoparadiso don't care.
I got second hand rage just from watching this video, especially after the “just forget it”.
Also, friggin councillor deserves to be ✨fired✨ because I’m pretty sure they just hired a kindergarten teacher for the job.
Didn't expect to find you here-
@@cookiemoon7441Oh my gosh...How?
I gotta admit, I was confused for a second...until I read your user name...
Hello again, Cookiemoon! Now, time to act like I totally didn't "leave" the fandom for several months :D
Students :*gets r@pe
Them : just ingore it
Students :*get push off a stairs and got send to hospital
Them : just ingore it
Students:*run in hallway to aviod getting send to hospital again
Them :UN-INGOREABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The counselor is the word we do not speak.
@@gigikju9934 idek lol. How have you been? xD
Yk as someone who was not great to people in Middle School I can say that people often get why kids act that way wrong. The reason I did it was because it was how I got other people to like me and I have to admit I didn’t know any other way to act. I’m proud to say that I met people that were worth reevaluating myself for and I definitely feel like I am better now.
I was bullied too through primary school (6-10 years old) and something that really annoyed me as I got older was adults trying to make me feel pity for the bullies. While it was true that the "head bully's" mother was a quite crappy person who put her through pressure I didn't think it justified her actions or make me resent any less. In my 13 year old mind, she was still a terrible person and I still wanted her to be locked in the school bathroom forever. What I'm trying to say is, no matter how crappy situation the bully has at home, I think we still deserve to be angry at them!
my sister was being bullied on kindergarten and my dad went to the teacher personally to complain about this and the teacher just shrugged it off saying thing like “oh, this kind of things happens in life, she has to learn how to deal with it”. So my dad taught my sister how to punch, and the next day she nocked out the bully with a punch. And ppl still says violence isn’t the answer
Your dad is a legend
@@m_7943 BATMAN agrees 👍
One time in preschool I punched this boy who was being a bully( keep in mind that I was the smallest kid there lol)
Ok full on respect for the dad-
Violence isn't the answer in 80% of cases
Referring to a bully as a “baby Karen” is my new favorite thing.
so... boomers but karens
nice.
We should call bullies baby Karens and baby boomers
Yeah same
Weah
She deserves to be called a baby karen
Thank you for making this video. It makes me feel less alone and weird. I have been through a very similar experience throughout elementary school. I very much recognize the issue of teachers brushing off anything you tell them about other children bullying you. I have heard the phrase 'just ignore it' too many times. It made me loose trust in teachers completely, it made me feel worthless. Worthless like I was an object that could be used by anybody else to take out any rage or frustration. It makes me really mad that I was not allowed to be a human with feelings, because I was told constantly by adults to act like nothing happened, like I was not sad or mad about anything.
Telling someone to "ignore it" is the worst advice and most likely means they don't know what to do and they don't want to deal with it!
Trigger warning: sexual harassment story (not explicit)
I got sexually harassed by three boys in full view of cameras, several witnesses, and my boyfriend at-the-time (who they were also harassing, albeit not sexually). When I tried to tell the teachers, they said things like “we can’t do anything if you don’t know their names” and “you’ll need to fill out a student complaint form (which requires the full name of the person you’re complaining about and never gets read anyway) at the office” and “maybe if you stopped making yourself a target by being autistic/having a boyfriend, they’d stop” and “I’m sure they’re just doing it because they like you! You should talk to them!”
Meanwhile, when one of them tried to forcefully kiss me, my boyfriend got in trouble for kicking him in the face.
Apparently defending your girlfriend from unwanted advances is against the law, but attempting sexual assault is perfecty fine! /s 😑
So sorry for what happened to you
“making yourself a target by being autistic” Huh?!?! According to them, you’re making yourself a target….by being yourself? Like it’s not some switch people can just turn off and on at will. That victim blaming is seriously disgusting of them. Good on your boyfriend for actually sticking up for you.
WOW. The staff in your school sucked. Your boyfriend is awesome and I’m sorry you had to face that.
I wanna kill that school staff it’s so awful that you had to go through that :( I hope things get better
Isnt that.. illegal?
Lesson of the day: stick up for yourself because ain't nobody else who's gonna do it.
Edit: guys, sticking up for yourself doesn't always have to mean physically fighting someone xD
Cut their hair off!
Second lesson; learn how to build reliable support groups, then teach your kid how to do the same.
Half these issues come from being "alone" and target-able.
This whole topic just breaks my heart.
I won't get into my whole background, but suffice it to say, the things I've seen as I've gotten older... I truly believe that this is a big chunk of why so many kids snap and 'suddenly, one day, hurt other people'. We're only human. Victims can only take being bullied for so long before they eventually react. Instead of, ya know, adults doing the adult thing, seeking cousiling and therapy for the kids (for ALL parties involved), and not throwing out the garbage of 'just shake hands and be friends'.
(slow, heavy, disappointed sigh)
No I'm true imbecile. Let me introduce myself.
Sometimes that doesn't work either. When I was bullied I decided to stand up to the bully. Ended up getting tossed around by 3 of his friends. I was a tiny girl that just didn't stand a chance.
This reflects alot of my experience with being bullied. Poeple would mock, ignore me, pretend to be my friend for a day just to have fuel to make fun of me. I was hopeful and gullible. Because of that I'd be scolded by the teachers for being dumb enough to fall for it. I ended up not trusting people. Then when highschool came around, and people actually cared, and tried to be my friend, I pushed them away because I didn't believe they were genuine. I've gotten better since then but I still have extreme trust issues because I feel like if I make one mistake that will give them a reason to leave or hurt me.
Thank you for this video Liliy
This reminds me of when I ended up getting bullied so bad in middle school to the point of wanting to end my life. I've had people stick stuff to my back, call me multi. names, and people even went as far as to bully me online while i was posting things that I enjoyed. I honestly didn't have the guts to tell anyone off but if I could I would, I'm so happy to see that someone had done it or at least tried to. it genuinely makes me feel better in a way.
I think in middle school especially the staff just have the mindset that "they're kids, they'll get over it" and "it's not that bad, they'll live", so they don't feel like they have to actually handle the situation until someone's parents show up and demand they adress it.
Then they're saying they've been doing their best and the bullies are suddenly suspended.
(This is what I've heard from so many people about middle school and even went through this myself... it's sad that this is so common.)
Those types of people SHOULD NOT be in those positions. Unless people ACTUALLY CARE about children and their wellbeing, they should not become teachers or counselors. Kids are so impressionable especially during middle school years. So when people don't give their problems the attention or advice that it needs, they grow up thinking that their problems don't matter and even sometimes bottle them up to an unhealthy degree.
Yeah, I was sexually assaulted and harassed in grade school every day for a year and the matter went all the way to the principal and he didn't do anything and the kid never faced any consequences for it.
@@nikashae575 I am so sorry that happened to you.
I hope the person that did that to you gets heavy karma for it, and I hope that you can get any help and healing you need.
You deserve better, and that principal should be fired.
the thing is, sometimes it just stops at "we´re doing our best" and nothing actually changes... had that experience too sadly... also that "lets just all be friends" crap really pisses me off, like why must everybody be friends with each other... it really messed with me, seeing others be friends together, thought i was doing something wrong, but i just landed a class full of bullies and teachers that are good for nothing
People need to learn to tell the difference between "just being a kid" and a kid being a little asshole. People base their behavior on everything they see. If an adult treats a situation as "not a big deal", it just enables bad behavior and encorages potentially worse behavior. I think this might be a case of overcorrecting the harsher punishments of past. As a result, this generation is overrun with giant entitled children.
Remember, kids, violence is never the answer. Violence is a question, and the answer is always "yes"
Aww who’s an edgy boy? Who’s a very edgy boy? You are, you’re an edgy boy!
@@LunaTheStars you'd rather ignore bullying? The result is shown pretty clearly in the video above our comments
@@n_coder two wrongs don't make a right
@@LunaTheStars but it makes your bully to settle the fuck down. What's your other plan? Telling an adult? If so, you clearly haven't watched the video
@@LunaTheStars but fighting back always stops the bullies even for a little while, vs the teacher talking to the student
I understand the part when the teachers and your parents said that you just “ignore them”. When I was bully they said me exactly that and all go worst, until the inspector catch them bullying me. I’ll never understand why they think that is normal all that situations and make that nothing happen and never help you
As a girl who was bullied non stop in elementary school to the points where I would ask to go to the bathroom just so I could cry. I know how it feels having no friends. I know how it feels to be made fun of. I know how it feels to think your worthless just because someone else said I was. Now I'm the girl who sits by the ones who are being bullied. I'm also the girl who now stands up to bullies because no one should hurt so much just because of someone else. Please, the next time you see someone sitting alone. Sit with them. It could make a huge difference. Thank you.
My therapist was so surprised when i told her that if my bullies apologized to me today, i wouldn't forgive them. I'd be thankful for the apology of course, but i would not forgive them. Same with the adults that let it happen.
I suffer from heavy self-hatred and trust issues because of them, and i just can't shrug it off.
So yeah, i relate to this...
fr bc my bullies took my entire childhood from me i didn't get to have one, no apology could ever fix that.
I know just what you mean. When I was in grade school, I ended up being too forgiving around the guys that bullied me, and I think it ended up making them think it was ok for them to treat me so harshly knowing that I would just forgive them in the end. And it created a bullying cycle that I was the soul victim of for 9+ years!
I relate to this, I had mild PTSD to middle school band class for years because of mine, I have terrible trust issues, hate myself, have social anxiety and I used to get nightmares about it.
They KICKED ME OUT OF THE CLASS FOR HAVING A PANIC ATTACK, WHEN I WAS CLEARLY INFRONT OF HIM GETTING ABUSED BY SEVERAL PEOPLE AT THE SAME TIME FOR JUST BEING ME...
That experience was the first time I had a panic attack and I literally cried for hours when I got home.
I happy I go to a christian school with teachers that care
@@jex_zv8049 I don't believe it has anything to do with religion. Been to nothing but christian schools my whole childhood and still got bullied...
I'm glad your teachers care though! That's pretty rare.
"Oh. They threw your clothes in the urinal?" "Just ignore it." Yes. Let humanity ignore our literal DECENCY to be in public and cover ourselves to hold a standard in society be thrown in a space where people PEE. That is not only disrespectful to the victim but also disrespectful for the one saying to ignore it to be saying that because if you had YOUR clothes thrown in the urinal, how would you feel? Smh. Try to ignore it then.
Let your pent up aggressions out my friend
My god, as if fucking turning my nose up at it will make the piss molecules magically evaporate from the fucking thing
@@sand_eater101 I bought a buzzer I destroyed my hands
LMAO
i can barly right 1 line and my hansd wood be die
You have been through it.
I really admire your ability to be a kind and generous person despite how much people have hurt you.
I love the detail you add to your videos! All the little easter eggs across the video that represent other fandoms... I'm obsessed! Thank you for sharing your story and helping so many people, including me!
Telling kids to “just ignore it” is like telling a little girl “he’s just flirting with you” when a boy hits her or pulls her hair. It just teaches kids that being bullied is fine and they should just live with it. Words can’t describe how much I hate people who say shit like that. Like they’re grown adults, they should know better.
Edit: I feel I should clarify that the “boy hits girl, adult says boy likes girl” thing actually happens. No, those boys and girls aren’t adults or anything, they’re usually young kids on the playground or something.
Adults (except my mom) around me never did anything when I got bullied first grade and the grade before that. And they kept doing nothing until I graduated 9th grade, so whenever I got bullied I’d tell the counselor, who proceeded to always tell me “Just ignore it” or “He has a crush on you UwU He Just Likes You OwO UwU”.
These things happen all over the world and it’s harmful.
Edit 2: it’s not just boy fight girl, it can also be the other way around.
there was this one girl who pull my hair and saw my clothes with a plastic knife and people said she was just flirting with.
@@EMULATED1624 its an example so people have an easier time understanding also when your young some parents say oh he like you just doesn’t know how to express it
If someone did that to me I would want to yell at them, but I’m sure that would just make me the bad guy. Teachers are the ones who have power to help, so when they don’t, there’s no way out.
@@EMULATED1624 Metaphors dude... Do you even know them?
Sometimes I really want to say to that "Okay," and start hitting myself in front of the teacher. If they tell me to stop, I just say "Why? Just ignore me bullying myself. It's no harm, right? Everyone bullies me?" To let how basically hurting someone is damaging, and basically saying being hurt means there's no self worth for those who gets hurt.
Even tho the world is cruel and people are people and will hurt you, that's why people are PAID to address inapproximate behaviours instead of saying "Eh, people are people."
If people are people, and it's okay to hurt and bully people, then basically say it's hurt yourself is okay people should just let it pass.
I got the “just ignore it” SO many times that I started to believe the words that were being thrown at me. None of the teachers ever stepped in. I was a new kid from the east coast living on the west coast, talking with an accent, and having no friends. I found a group of girls and later on I realized that they were toxic and just plain cold.
I’m in high school now and the teachers here actually care and call out anyone that’s rude.
Hello, Senior in high school now. Holy cow my junior year was really bad in terms of being bullied. We got a new principal and I guess some new admin and they didn't do anything no matter how much my parents and I told them. I got picked on so much that I began to have dreams and low self-esteem. Thanks, school. I hope my senior year will be better.
Glad to hear that your high school teachers are more responsible!
I got physically tripped up and pushed every day in the first year of high school. It sucked but you know what I just outsmarted them.
Just ignore it, is THE WORST THING A TEACHER CAN SAY
I mean on some cases you do have to ignore stuff in life. But if it gets physical like in my case go to the principal or even the police because that is harassment and assualt
I bet you're mentally so strong, not everyone may be lucky but the ones that went through the worst are the strongest after all. Look at you, you survived all those days by yourself! I truly hope your days are going well
This is the realest thing I’ve ever heard and I could rant for hours, I’m surprised you could fit so much in in such a short amount of time and don’t feel so alone anymore. You really are a saint and deserve much better thank you got
Amazing, this sums up everything I think about bulling I mean it really just is a horrible thing and it shouldn't happen to anyone, I'm really sorry you had to go through this and everyone who does. Expecially when you cant get your parents, teachers, or any trusted adults, once that happens, you feel like no one cares about you or what your going through.
"Just ignore it." That sounds like something someone that's never been bullied would say. And it's not even just in bullying, it's in many others like harassment and EVEN WORSE. Like what is wrong with people. Either they do it for fun, or they're doing it because they're hurting. The thing that truly hurts is that you don't know which it is, so you get told to "just ignore it."
Their is a girl in my work who is extremely rude and disrespectful. Even went as far is to mock a mentally challenged worker. Finally I had enough and told my boss and my boss said the same thing "Just ignore her honey, at the end of the day she doesn't sign your pay check"......... SO?! Clearly, ignoring it doesn't work, it never does because it will still get under your skin and whoever signs my paycheck doesn't matter in this situation. She also told me "Don't worry, she will get her karma"...... when she could have clearly been her karma! Seriously, the lack of spine from people higher then you that could have made much of of a change is why some people don't even bother to speak up.
@@Brony459 Wow..well I hope they both does get karma in one way or another.
I feel like ignoring the bullies is still a form of a reaction because you ignoring them shows them that you are annoyed by their actions
@@thedorkarts4481 Yeah, but since it shows that you’re annoyed, they do it more since now they know you actually get annoyed. Well at least that’s my point of view on it.
@@thedorkarts4481 I used to get bullied and it stopped when i started acting like I was into it
As a teacher myself, I can tell you that ignoring never works. I would even say that fighting them and punching them in the mouth would have worked better... even if it gets you into trouble. I got bullied too and once I had seriously beaten up one of the bullies, word got around that I was not to be messed with. And the bullying stopped.
Even laughing, doesn’t work anytime anyone would say anything mean to me I would just laugh it off and joke it off Nothing really works except to just wait it out.
HII what grade did you teach??
That’s awesome
@@Prastuti._. I teach what is sort of equivalent to undergrad college now. I used to teach the 12 to 14 year olds.
@@GothCookie that is so cool! You must have been a great teacher:D
"WE CAN'T JUST HOLD HANDS AND SING A BARNEY SONG WHEN FOUR OR FIVE OF US HAVE STINKY HANDS"
Had me crackleing🤣
Thanks for this, I was nervous about advancing to middle school but now I have that little bit more confidence I needed!
I am so sorry. I am a middle school teacher and cannot imagine telling someone who has come to confide in me about bullying (and that I have witnessed!) to just ignore it! Such bullshit - I'm angry. So sorry this happened to you.
It's sad how common this behavior is in modern day. As someone who was bullied to the point where I wanted to end my life, I had to move three different schools, and eventually even dropped out because of how bad it was. However, seeing teachers like you react the way you did gives me hope.
Thank you.
No not sorry
@@BussTyrone Literally go home what is this comment lmao
@@bashattack2414 Don't end your life for anyone or anything. If people dislike you am sure their people as well who loves you. People who bully most of the time , do those stuff to feel better about themselves and its trash.....
Look teachers don’t get paid enough to care
“Just ignoring it” just lets the bullies get away with it. Thank you for this video. Makes me hope that anyone currently facing bullies learns that you have to be confrontational, even if it’s scary.
As a former small, glass-wearing, nerdy kid, I had a bullseye for bullies on me.
The proper and ONLY way to handle bullies is to show them that you're not to be fucked with. I'd answer back all the time, dig dirt on them, and laugh at their bad grades, telling them they'll be hobos or shovel garbage for a living as adults. Yes, I got beaten up a couple times, but I also punched and clawed when that happened. Eventually, they just move on to an easier target.
What? No, there is no actual end to bullying. Yes, bullying is unstoppable. You don't have to end it, you just have to prevent it from happening to you, specifically. Someone else in my class got bullied into "35 and still living with parents, no job, no education", but it's not me. It's not me, and that is good enough, for me.
Bullying is taken extremely seriously in Korea. There has been too many reports of suicide because of extreme bullying. You can get suspended, expelled or even go to court over bullying. THOSE PIECES OF SH- ahem deserve it. No one gets to make your life miserable just because they're 'going through something'. I hope everyone out there stays safe and happy ❤
But Don't the rich people or people with many ties still get away with it?
@@mysteriousmochi thats the case with most things not just bullying
@@eremophila that's true
That's a little too extreme depending on how far the bullying goes. Like imagine you pick on a kid and your family gets sued.
I should ask my dad about this he teaches there
Telling someone to “just ignore it” when they’re being bullied is the same as saying “just let them do it” “just take it” “deal with it” “suck it up” “just let it happen” “accept it”. People say to ignore it thinking they’re giving advice, but really they’re telling you to suffer in silence and let them bully you.
EXACTLY
EXACTLYYYYY PREACH. OMLLLL
Yeah but sadly nothing else worked too
I tried telling teachers
Telling my mom telling other people
Nothing works
Then i tried ignoring and
It doesnt work.
Some things work out and they don't this is one of those times
finally someone knows what they're talking about
Thank u for this video and helping out people going through similar situations 😊
Thanks so much for making this!! I'm in middle school as well and I'm going what exactly what little illy went through! Ur the best cartoon maker!
This honestly makes me want to be a teacher just to be one that actually CARES about the students and doesn't tell them to "just ignore it"
Same. I'm glad I go to a school where my teacher actually cares and addresses these issues.
and that adds to my list of reasons to become a teacher
@@mushroomlover479 same
I was bullied and curiously this made me NOT want to become a teacher at all, my priority was to avoid all this crap for good. The pain would have been too much. Selfish as it may sound, I've found other ways to do good to others every single day, not involving schools.
Ditto. But I don't want to be in school for any longer than needed.
"Just ignore it" was a phrase I heard way too often. The closest any adult came to offering decent words of wisdom was "they're just jealous of you". It still didn't help but it was a little better than "just ignore it." And I think the teachers found even less of a reason to help me because my bullies were younger than me and in their eyes "just kids".
What gave me confidence again was my mom going off on the teachers when I finally told her what was going on. I think she might've actually considered going to jail that day.
I hated and hate the they’re just jealous no asshole I’m a loser who failed at life
i'm in middle school rn and currently going through bullying, idk what to do
The jealous one actually caused a lotta problems for me that I still have. On the one hand the bullying made me feel inferior and like shit but the jealous thing they told me stuck with me so much that i developed a superiority complex as well. I still struggle with feeling like I'm the most hated person in the world and being god
I think a lot of times it had to escalate to a point of permanent damage and lawsuits before adults will take action.
At my school in the 90s there was an incident where elementary schoolers would routinely pelt older students they deemed nerds (or other more offensive language because it was the 90s) with rocks as they crossed the playground to get to class. I was 16 and a goth kid so naturally I caught it once or twice and it was common to hold your bag over your face like a shield when you crossed the playground.
Teachers would do nothing about it because "they're just little kids" and if you threatened them you were the one that got in trouble. 'just ignore them and they'll get board of it" was a frequent refrain.
Well they didn't get bored of it and one day they threw rocks at a middle school girl and one of them hit the lens of her glasses and shattered it into her eye. She had permanent eye damage and the school had to settle out of court with her parents.
Nobody threw to rocks on the playground after that or you got instantly expelled. It took litigation to get the staff to do their jobs which is really pathetic.
It’s especially rough when your bully was a teacher.
"buffer than mr.clean" got me rolling of my bed
This video took me straight back to my middle and elementary school days. Shit still hurts as a university student, and the damage and fear will never fully go away.
As a current teacher, who is in school to become a therapist. YIKES. I’m so sorry Your teachers failed you. Ignoring a student who says they’re being bullied is now thankfully grounds for termination. But as someone who was also bullied by my peers and teachers this video is all too real
Also props to you for not dealing with your 6th grade bully the way I dealt with mine. I broke her nose 😬
Edit #2: violence is not a good option folks! Please never beat up your bullies!
Leme guess, they played victim and only you got in trouble
Well that’s one way to handle it
violence is always an option
Well. I didn't broke nothing of my bully.
He used to call me fat and surprise punch/kick in the balls at random.
So one time, I was able to grab him, I used my weight to put him in the floor and choke him, until he stopped moving.
He never bullied me again
@@ThePmso wait he died?!
You should be especially proud of this video
She should!
@@notshelley ah shit the Gacha people found me
@@wabug bro let them be they are just commenting on a video no need to insult then
@@butterzanimations1637 OH SHIT A TRIGGERED ANIMATOR FOUND ME
@@wabug I’m not the one commenting with caps your probably the triggered one also I was never looking for you Because the world doesn’t revolve around you
“Just ignore it”
i had THE SAME think you had.
“Just ignore it” just trigger my blood, and boil.
it been so affect on me my mental health was really bad, berly eating, and i use to use sh... even as a kid.
now i'm 17 years old, in 9 days i supposed to be 18.
and “Just ignore it” just triggering me.. even now
and plus even it wasn't enough when it has even with physical bullying everyone LIKE EVERYONE has told me to “Just ignore it”
you helped me throughout my bullying you helped me so much it feels good to see that i am not alone
"Remember, that is just a baby Karen."
You are spitting absolute facts.
NAHHH CAUSE WHEN SHE SAID THAT EVERYTHING MADE SENSE
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God I hate bullies. Great advice Illy
ac reporter moment
I second sweeto
SWEETOTOONS ILY but i also hate bullying
Everyone hates bullies so what if it was that obvious my friend cuz I can relate to that too
5th
I had a similar experience. I was very emotional and everyone told me and i quote, "get over yourself, other people have emotions" so naturally when your parents tell you that you disvalue your emotion and end up not understanding or knowing how to deal with it. still struggling to this day.
Thank you so much!! I really need this because I’m currently struggling with Middle school Bullies and they said “you take up the whole seat” and keep annoying the crap outta me. Thank you so much!
Let me get this straight.
You got sexually abused online by this dude who didn’t let you have any free will, AND got bullied in middle school all in the same time? That fucking sucks and im so so sorry that it was like that. I hope your still coping with it all and doing okay and just know we’re here for you and you are strong
Hi I love your vids!
Wow, I am disgusted by how these “adults” have treated you growing up. I am sorry you went through that. It goes to show that just because you’re older doesn’t mean you are mature.
Beautiful video by the way! Love your colorful animation-I can tell a lot of effort was put into it. All the best 💕❤️
A boy in my sisters year back in school (15 years old) was bullied horribly by other boys in his year. Of course he was told to "just ignore it" by teachers and the office did nothing. He ended up committing suicide. These same staff had the audacity during assembly to say to come to them if they need help or if they're being bullied.
What bullshit, it's easy for them to say that but they never cared in the beginning.
@@sgtmcbrinn i know for a fact multiple 17 year olds beat a 13 year old in front of a camera, and the kid was so injured they went to the police, and the school refused to hand over the footage of the assault. Plus many other things. I managed to give them a sanctuary for a year or two when i could. But my friendgroup couldnt be everywhere and they had to change schools, i hope they are ok
Every time that I watch your videos I find NEW REFERENCES IN THEM it's really cool
This whole video is great, awesome advice.
BUUUT
Telling teachers and parents isnt my preferred strategy.
Usually, i just act like a feral schizo sewer creature.
I'll yell randomly, laugh uncontrollably in the middle of 'roasts' (these absolute single celled organisms use the word "gyat" when they're insulting people) and listen to really weird music in their presence.
My favorite conversation piece is the song; "Twenty-three lubed up schizophrenics with delusions of grandeur" by The Locust, it always gets some kind of reaction out of people
The sentence "Telling a kid to ignore the problem makes them feel like no one cares" cuts me like a knife.
I was like Illy, bullied for everything, little to no friends. And when I tried to stop I was pushed aside because the teachers didn't care. They took the girls side in harassing me. When I told my mom what was going on, I was told to ignore the problem at hand.
Now I don't want help from people that aren't me. If the people who are meant to protect you and help you don't do that, then who will.
Yourself,at that point when i was in middle school after all things failed i just went into fights with bullies and it worked,they let me alone,when all negotiasions fails war is the answer!
You are 1000000000000% right because when had a bullie we just go into battle punch each other and then after we take a little rest then become friend
Couldn't agree more. I was bullied for YEARS (I'm from a small town, so teachers, kids and parents all knew each other) until a transferred teacher (bless her soul) asked me if I was okay because she saw some guys calling me names. Bullying is overlooked as "kid things" when in reality it can break your soul.
bully: punches kid
teacher: "just ignore it"
As a new teacher, this is really insightful. While I'd never give the "just ignore it" advice, I know that this is the go to for many colleagues. This video also reminded me how horrible people can be. I was picked on too, and it sucks. It's opened my eyes up to how malicious people can be and how horrednous school's can be fixing things. I'd never force bullies and victims to be friends. I would want to make the victim feel safe, and give the bullies the consequences they deserve.
Please do! I was bullied on my bullied by someone on my bus. They said "Just ignore it! I'll move him away" they never moved him. I was also denied mental health help from my teacher (The school counselor was who I needed)
please teach your other colleagues that giving that advice is not always helpful
@@crawlspacedweller maybe instead of telling the teacher you're getting bullied, maybe learn to not make confusing words
This is so rare to see a GREAT teacher like you. Thank you for actually helping against bullying
@@kroos7716 is it confusing or can you just not compute vine boom
I love how In I think every video you’ve made little references to a bunch of shows like the owl house and gravity falls and in this video I saw one of Luca. My point is I love it❤
As a person who was told just ignore it and was bullied all throughout grade school to the point of ...well having to go to therepy and be monitored because i was depressed all the time, then having trust issues and ptsd from it now ...bullying can be harmful and traumatizing if left uncheched...
I’m sorry so many educators and and “professionals” failed you. One of the things I love about being an educator is being able to help children the way I wanted to but wasn’t. Thank you for sharing your experience.
The behaviour of not only those children but of the “adults” at your school is disgusting and appalling. I can’t put into words the rage this story has made me feel.
Same like all the adults at her school are nor better then the bullies
and then they wonder why the quiet kid whips up a 9mm
Same 😭
All bullies deserve to end up in a hospital
(This is going to be a crazy rant)
The Crystal type people were what I dealt with in elementary school, And I played on a youth basketball team, which had kids that would tease and bully me. So whenever I vented to my friends, who I thought were my friends, they would always say "well they're nice to me."
So my lord, does it cut deep for me. Because sorry but people can have multiple sides and that person can be mean to others while being nice to you.
Well, also, that entire idea of "Just ignoring it," I tried, I tried for years. I STILL try, but it just doesn't work. They will still continue even if you just ignore it. They want that satisfaction so they won't stop till they get it.
Also, the just be friends with everyone. MY LORD, did it happen, and did I hate myself and life. I couldn't just be friends with everyone else. Sometimes, these school counclers need a reality check.
I currently am in middle school myself, and I have a cat plushie that I take around with me to other classes, usually because of the possibility of a panic attack, and the cat calms me down. I get made fun of for it all the time, and when I tell an adult, they usually are just like "Then don't bring the cat" or, "just ignore it" but I hope they come to realize, that isn't how that works. And no, I will not stop taking the cat around with me because I do not want to be made fun of for having a panic attack in the middle of design class. But I have really awesome friends that help me through this. usually when this happens, we just ignore them. I honestly just wanna say thank you Illy for making me feel better about this and realizing that they're just stupid. ❤❤
I love how people would rather leave things as they are to not “break the status quo” even when there are laws being broken and constant and long harassment and bullying.
"I wrote fanfiction. By myself. In my room. Alone, every night, to cope." Hell yeah, sister! Me TOO! I also wrote mine in school during study hall, best use of time.
Ditto. I also wrote fanfiction during middle school.
You people are strange.
@@AwesomeYenaindeed we are.
@@AwesomeYena I'll have you know I poured my heart and soul into my fanfics and I knew what made a cringy fanfic. Give me crap all ypu want at least I didn't crossover My Little Pony and Voltron.
I made a friend through fanfiction
god imagine telling an adult to "just ignore it" to adults doing these exact things to adults in the workplace. Like... bro that's called workplace harassment. it has consequences, like separating you from the harasser, meetings, even getting fired if it keeps going (sometimes depends on the workplace but there are systems in place). You aren't allowed to just do that to other adults.
I know I had gotten this "advice" and problem solving from the adults around me when it came to bullying. I bit the kid one day and I hadn't been bullied by them from that point on. Another school there was a different one and they stopped when my sibling actually stood up for me and scared the hell out of that kid. Adults didn't do anything and even a therapist at the time had told me to "just ignore them."
It only showed me how children's issues aren't valued. And to ask them to have more emotional maturity and regulation (sometimes enduring physical bullying) than adults would ever accept themselves is just stupid as hell.
I was bullied throughout elementary and part of middle school by students and teachers alike. I’ve noticed that when teachers say “just ignore it” it’s because they don’t want to do anything about the bullying because of either some misguided belief that misery builds character or because they themselves are bullies who would gladly join in if it weren’t for the risk of losing their jobs
As someone who got bullied for 8 years, who wrote countless "argument reports" that the teachers then predended to read and told everyone to just get along, and who suffers from the mental after effects even now, ten years later, I completely agree.
For me, all the bullying just suddenly stopped the day I broke the nose of one of the bullies. The teachers scolded me and took the side of my bully. Still, all the kids from then on were afraid enough to leave me alone.
I also will never forget how my mom shouted down three teachers AND the bully's mother about how years of bullying have no consequences but the second I stand up for myself, I am threatened to be thrown out of school.
Remember everybody if you getting bully or harass and the teacher just said ignore it or let's just say they did something trying to make you guys talk it out but it keeps happening
You go to the people that are higher than your teachers and principal meaning you go to the person that paid your teacher and principal your the school districts the school district is where your area is and let's just say the school district does nothing then take it to the court but if your Court don't take it serious then you go to the Supreme Court and they want to take a serious go to the NEWS people will start caring about it and then the Supreme Court will take it serious
Don't feel sad that you're going to make them lose her job and not let them live or feed herself there's so many jobs for teachers and principles out there so if they get fired at one place they could go somewhere else
Sorry :( you had to go through that unfortunately you are not wrong I still have issues trusting people even my “freinds”
GOAT
Once I got made fun of in elementary school, and my teacher went, "maybe you're the problem," word for word. Thank you Mrs. Nichols for the lovely insight 🥰
Edit: I’d like to mention this happened years ago, so I’m okay now :)
Oh my gosh, people are awful. I’m so sorry
people like that should be unable to teach to kids omfg
@@Becix157 They really shouldn't be able to. I internalized that for years. I had a group of friends who would take me with them and not talk/ make plans in front of me, and I always thought I was problematic and it was my fault. Caused issues later on but now I have great social skills and great friends.
nico woth the reply i QUICKELY came up with: well MRS. NICHOLAS dont you think if i was the problem, they would be tho ones to report me? mrs. nichohalic:....... nico: ANSWER THE QUESTION MS. DUMB F_____________________
They should fire her
I remember when I first joined my local high school (I went to a private school before this) I luckily had my cousin in the same class, so I didn’t really get bullied since he had a lot of connections with students. One time though, this one student had started bothering me and I couldn’t focus as well in class. I brought this up with my mom and she had said to ignore it, so I did at first and of course no change. So, I brought it up to both my mom and the teacher and they actually intervened and it worked. I hope this inspires anyone that might be having trouble with other students.
God i feel this whole video in my soul. I was bullied for making friends with people that were bullied. My big empath heart made me gravitate to the "underdogs" and "outcasts." Made it worse that i was a bigger girl so there was 2 whammys. I also got the misunderstanding advice to ignore all the bullies. One day, i got so mad and with a wild hair of willpower, i stood up to everyone all day, in front of teachers as well, NOONE knew what to say and just stared at me bewildered. The power i felt was absolutely unmatched, and in the next few days i noticed people backed off and were actually being cordial! I still didnt like them, but was also cordial after that. It taught me that if you have a friendship that is honest and caring, you stand up for it no matter who likes who. I am still friends with my weirdos and have new amazing friendships with an amazing group. Thank you for this videoo i hardly comment but this is something i also felt like speaking on 💜 thank you for your hard work!
School bullying was handled so horribly in the 90s and early 2000s. Hopefully it’s better for kids nowadays.
Nope, I have a friend in middle school, the students are homophobic and transphobic towards them, and the teachers enable the behavior. It sucks because we live in Toronto Canada, which is supposed to be really progressive. I can't speak for all middle schools, or all teachers, but it seems as though it depends. When I was in middle school I was fortunate enough to have supportive teachers.
i used to be a bully in 4th grade and I would see the kids who I used to bully tell the teachers and they would never care or just tell me to stop bulling them which did not help the bullying situation so tbh nothing really changed (my point of view) i feel like if the teacher could have actually did something about it i should have stopped bullying the person and maybe had become good friends but sadly the teachers didn't care
Now they're all snowflakes only very recently.
I’m still getting bullied and harassed , because “he just likes you”
Nope my teachers don’t care and none of the students do
As a teacher, the way your concerns were treated fills me with rage. You were absolutely failed on every level by every adult in your life over this.
Also -- stuff like this sticks. Sometimes it gets resolved years later, sometimes not. A couple of years ago one of my bullies looked me up on FB and gave me a frank apology, which I did not expect. She'd turned out to be a stellar person, and it turns out what she'd done had bothered her for years. I sometimes wonder what she was going through at the time that made her choose cruelty when that's clearly not her nature.
I wish all teachers had the same mindset as you
I'm trans, and I just recently had this discovery. When I was in 5th grade I kissed a girl (not knowing what gay even meant). I was no longer a human to my classmates. They hurt me with words and hurt my physically. One boy tried to break my arm I'm front of my whole class and my teacher. The effects of this has never left me. I am 20 years old now. I am a perfectionist to try and please others so they'll approve of me. I have suffered from depression and anxiety ever since. I hope my old classmates are happy, because what they did to me still lingers to this day.
I got bullied to but then one day they said something to me and I had the perfect comeback and everyone laughed at them and then she stopped bullying me
Also me and my friends find you relaxing to watch keep up the good work!!
This video made me cry because of how similar the bullying’s not changed neither the grown ups responses.
This reminded me of a time in elementary school where someone wouldn’t let me sit at their table because I was ‘too annoying’. The worst part is was that I didn’t see it as them being mean to me since they didn’t look mad at me or angry. I agreed with them, thinking ‘yeah, that’s fair,’ or ‘I am pretty annoying’. I’ve learned a lot since then, but I wish I could have stood up for myself at that point.
u know i was called the same. like they used to tell me that my brain doesnt function well and i talk too much. i am annoying. dont wanna be with me because i may have some kind of mental disorder. the worst part is that i didn't know it came under bullying. so i changed myself and now i dont know how to talk to ppl. i dont how to communicate. ppl asked me to stop talking and i did but now i am asked to communicate but HOW.
@@aeshikajyotshna852 buddy, how tf do you forget how to talk to people lmao
@@BussTyrone well lets say whenever ppl say something it takes time process and say something without offensing the person. and then apologise if i think i say too much
Same! Once in like kinder, I sat down at the lunch table and a girl had the urge to say " Aww no... not ( insert real name )
7:00 you tell the teacher she say just ignore it the reason why she tell you that is because the school district give them money if they're doing everything good meaning no bullies no fight nothing like that if that happened to you go to somebody higher your school's area District
My bullying got so bad that the police got involved. I was so happy to finally have someone on my side, and the officer told me that one of them just started crying and confessed to the bullying, both in person and online. They were given restraining orders, and my mom (whose had problems with them before), threatened to sue the school since my counselor told me "all people get bullied, we just need to get over it". They looked like they were about to shit themselves.
Bruh WTF happened to you??
I'm so glad that if finally got a happy ending and hope your life is better than ever
W MOM
Happened to me, sued a kid for assault.
Wth happened to u that they were in jail💀
i am in middle school and get bullied all the time for how i look. this video really helped me think about thea reason behind the bullying and i feel better now thank you so much
I can relate to this so much like it’s ridiculous. How much I relate to this. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.❤
I've been bullied since 8th grade, until now in college, I keep seeing them. I am planning to complain them to authorities since its too much for me to handle.
This video really shows the sides of how people handle the stress of bullying and ignorance of the teachers and prinicipals of these situations. Sometimes getting physical can solve it, but I dunno if it really does "solve" it.
did you do it?
Just a healthy check in. Did you speak with the authorities yet? Or someone you know has your back? I'm not talking about a flake/flimsy friend. I'm talking a ride or die.
You could also talk to a therapist on Better Help if you need someone to talk you through any mental health problems you may be having. I use it myself. It's great.
Either way I genuinely hope you're doing okay. They're just losers. If you can I would document it. Record them without them knowing if it's a one party consent state. Take screenshots of nasty messages. Just anything to get it on paper with evidence. Have witnesses write down accounts of the bullying and sign it with their name and a date. I would also go to subreddits like r/advice or r/legaladvice if you want to really pursue this legally. Even if it's as small as a restraining/no contact order. It's good to have.
Also edit to add: If any of it is cyber bullying I would talk with the Cyber Bullying division of the police. No one else. Check your local listings online. Regular officers don't take it seriously.
it solves it cause they know not mess with you without you going physical , but only go physical if they go physical
Seeing this makes me feel awkward. I was never bullied. I never saw anyone get bullied. I can’t empathize with people about bullying because I’ve never experienced bullying except when people I’ve never met talk about it. Maybe it was my school? I don’t know.
Good on you for going to the authorities. They are adults now and deserve to see consequences for their actions. I hope it goes well and your situation gets better!