I Cared For Serial Killers And Psychopaths In High Security Hospital | Minutes With |
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- 게시일 2022. 08. 06.
- Psychiatric Nurse, Paul Deacon, reveals what it is like to work in Broadmore Hospital, treating infamous patients such as Ronnie Kray and the Yorkshire Ripper.
Paul talks about life inside Britain's most notorious psychiatric hospital and reveals the violence he experienced and witnessed as a nurse trying to help.
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This guy is the epitome of intelligence and empathy.
Thank you. 👍
@@vanessariley3710 this is nonsense lmao
epitome is a bit strong
@Donnell Okafor Man aproves of his own msg LOL
You should reconsider your relationship with the internet!!! You don’t know this guy at all!!! You watch one interview not even about the guy specifically and that’s enough information???
I’ve been talking to people daily for years on end and I’m not qualified to know their level of empathy or intelligence.
He seems to be intelligent, empathetic, and well integrated. However “seems” is not the same as “is”!!!
When I was a Nurse something we were told to look out for in depressed person was it they were suddenly happy or cheerful. This usually meant they had made a decision that they were going to kill themselves. They experience a great relief in the fact that their torment is almost over. Strange but true.
Wow! I did not know this! Very interesting! 🤔
I can vouch for that I become extremely happy when i planned on ending my life Sadly I'm still here dealing with the demons
@@mikek2951 Sorry 😞 u witnessed that I'm really rock-bottom and constantly having fleeting thoughts I'm trying my hardest to keep my head above water
I thought that was what happened when you are bipolar extreme mood changes.
@@mikek2951 Why are you being rude to that person? I doubt your own story if you can be so callous towards them.
Anyone who has spent any amount of time on a psychiatric ward will agree that this guy is the kind of guy we all wanted looking after us
I think most staff want to help and do the right thing but the government keeps reducing funding and resourcing and staff become stressed and burnt out.
1000%, YES!!! I’d work with this man, anyday!
Absolutely! I had an awful experience while there. I was treated HORRIBLY. There was one nurse who was like this guy and I always looked forward to when he was the sitter, real compassionate guy.
@@jena.alexia absolutely true, especially the staff on the floor who are with you for so many hours everyday. You can tell how hard theyre trying but you can also tell how exhausted they are
Yes, he’s a kind soul. If my child was in a facility, I would hope someone like this gentleman would be there.
This bloke has an aura about him. It clearly takes someone quite extraordinary to work in places like that. I'm glad we have people like him in the world.
Lying through their teeth.
Yes, he does and surely he makes a difference in people’s lives.
He eats mushy peas!
You want someone caring for serial killers & psychopaths?
Ted, is that you?
@@Arthurian. 🤣💀💀💀
What a soft-spoken, kind and intelligent man. Much love.
He does make an awful lot of grammatical errors though.
@@Pe6ek eh, he's mostly on point.
@@Pe6ek No one likes the grammar police.
Cornish accent
@@Pe6ek Who cares, for God's sake? Maybe he has learned most of what he knows by doing his own private study and sometimes you can miss a few things when you don't have PhDs writing your study curriculum. But when you study something that personally interests you and then you go apply that in real life it's amazing how much deeper you're learning is and how long it sticks with you. There's no substitute for it. I'm a stickler for punctuation and Vocabulary 2 but it's more like an OCD thing when we're talking about someone else entirely who is sharing information not someone whose work were proofreading or someone we're counting on the proofread our own work before publishing!
I used to work with him in Bodmin. Great dude; learnt a huge amount from him that I still use in my current job in the NHS now (fourteen years later!)
He looks like a great guy, very empathetic and kind.
Lucky you. I’d have loved to have him as a colleague 💙
Thought he sounded Cornish.
That’s so awesome
He seems like an extraordinary person, it takes a lot to be able to work with clients like this, what a great person to learn from.
This is an example of someone who (in his words) did not have any skills after school, but discovered his purpose. This is a guiding light for those of us who have been to college and have studied self-improvement and leadership at great depth, but are having a difficult time finding careers or even employment. The man in this video is a wonderful role model.
Yes I completely agree ❤
This is why I always ask in these days of high costs, will your college studies lead to a job/career? Gone are the days of studying for the sake of expanding brain cells. So taking a Nursing Degree opens the door to endless opportunities. Or studying a pharmacy degree, or engineering. Things that lead somewhere. Or as population has aged there is a huge need for people to enter the trades again.
@@joywebster2678 I just signed up for nursing classes, and I hope to be able to lead a ministry on the side or maybe use nursing for missions. I add to that--please, please, please say these things to 18-year-olds who think they're going to get somewhere with psychology/comms/philosophy/etc. I am 30, and can tell you that divinity school was the absolute best time of my life. In southern VA however, it took me 3 years of hard searching and off/on odd jobs to even land a full-time gig in security. The M.Div did not even do that. The boss liked my retail experience and maybe the fact I had been turned down by the military (That's a good thing if you're getting a guard job.).
@@johniejoyce8876 A psychology degree from BA to PhD can lead you into sooo many lines of work from research, forensics, counseling, working in a ward, therapy, working with animals, government, law enforcement, children/elderly services, hospice, data analysis/science, studying customer and consumer behaviours, and so on. Good clinical psychology training will help one learn how to speak to others and gauge how to interact with people. Emergency personnel with a psychology background are in need. A background in psychology is not a bad thing if you plan on using your degree within your career.
I will always remember my nurse when I was in the mental hospital (not as a convicted criminal, just a regular suicidal girl) we had such a connection, she was like a maternal figure for the whole ward. I thank people like Paul and my nurse for doing what they do, it is no doubt a difficult, but meaningful career.
And if you refuse a sedative, they hold you down and inject it in your buttocks 🙄
Salt of the earth.
“ regular suicidal girl “
and how are you doing now? x
@@hannnn5048 Yeah that's like the standard for teenage girls nowadays. They're no good at actually doing it but they're alright at saying they will.
@@captainkenzie6873 I knew a few that were pretty successful at it, one complete organ failure lots of pills the second used a large caliber weapon everyone that I knew who decided to end things had multiple attempts before
I’ve worked in mental health for over 14 years now and I can honestly say I would have absolutely have loved this man as a colleague/ward manager!!!
It’s certainly not hard to imagine how respected he must have been by both staff and patients. Seems like such a genuine, gentle soul.
I worked acute for 5 years and agree he would have been the best ward manager to work under. I can totally understand what you mean about him. Very eloquent, calm and knowledgeable.
What a wonderful kind spoken person .. absolutely the sort of staff member / manager that needs to be in this hospital , if we could clone him and spread him about that would be amazing and really inspirational too..
@@loveislove8891 why copy wat the last comment just said lol
@@davechristian7543... 🤦🏻♀️🤔
Love is love didn't copy anyone.
Why do you feel the need to be unkind? 🤷🏻♀️
@Cee hg
The moment he started talking, I noticed how his opening statement didn't sit well with me at all. "I left school with no qualifications." He then proceeded to tell me how, when someone collapsed and died, it played on his mind for such a long time, that his colleague told him to look into nursing. Right there and then, it became apparent that he had the most critical qualification that is required - empathy. We need to review and reassess, what we mean by qualifications. What could would it have done him to have O'levels (back then!) in Maths, Geography, Latin, Chemistry and French..if he had no empathy to deal with his patients. A thoroughly impressive chap.
Very well put thanks
Ok Patrick 🙄
Shut up Patrick your best friend is a sponge
Perfectly said.my son didn’t do well with school. He left with no qualifications. He started helping his dad (who is a builder ) on a Saturday. He then wanted to look at college so we enquired and he started his bricklaying course.
2 years later, he’s a qualified bricky ! Loving life. Confident and now out on sites. What a prim example of showing that these young adults have a future even if they leave school with no qualifications.
This is true. Empathy is the most important skill for mental health nurses, along with having boundaries I would say. However, as someone that is studying psychiatric nursing myself, it is essential nowadays to have a certain amount of qualifications as the course itself would be quite difficult for someone with a low level of schooling.
I’ve stayed in psychiatric hospitals for months at a time after several suicide attempts. This was over 6 years ago and I still remember the staff members and the ones who left their mark on me with the way they spoke with me, interacted with me and the words they spoke. It makes a huge difference. I’ll also never forget two incidences:
1. A man jumped out of a tree in the yard to try and end his life. His skull cracked open right in front of all of us.
2. Another man stabbed his neck with a pen and casually walked down the hallway as if nothing had happened.
I didn’t speak with anyone at the hospital who was seemingly “psychotic” I just felt like I was with a bunch of people who were struggling to cope with life’s challenges and felt sad. That is all.
Hope you are doing well x
Hope you’re continuing to do well, my friend. Please try to remember *you matter* too, not only to show up for you but to show up for us, the people who genuinely care about you as well. Best wishes, Ms. Autumn.
How are you now Autumn? 6 yrs is a huge achievement! I was amazed that you shared this? Look how strong you've become! That's a fact! Be you! Short term, mid term & long term goals! Never dream! Just goals!
Have an imaginary basket. Each day put in something that feeds your spirit, soul & body!
Spirit, could be religious, or just enjoying hearing the bird song in the morning.
Soul - have a laugh, meet up with friends, hobby, watch a comedy.
Body - eat a nutritious meal, go for a walk, exercise.
It works and keeps you positive & valuable!
So, wish I could be your friend, cause I can see your strength! Good for you! Huge hug!
@@mumo9413 u have beautiful soul
Had a guy walk into my bar, start stripping naked, grab my wine key and start repeatedly stab himself with it before I could get around the bar and take him down and hold him till the cops got there. I could tell from the second I saw him walking in the door a normal person wasn't at home and in control in his head, he had totally checked out mentally. Hope he was able to get some help, didn't press any charges or anything for me or the bar, but I never for get the checked out look of his eyes.
What a lovely chap. The service requires many more just like him.
I find his tone and way of speaking so calming - I can see why he is so gifted in his career - his demeanor is made for this sort of work. He'd be someone you'd definitely want on your team.
I agree, some people have natural abilities in this regard. Of course today, people like him wouldn't even get an interview without a university degree.
@@martinheath5947 part of the issue of staff shortages is that piece of paper is too important, rather than experience and character traits that'd be suitable for the positions.
@@Bear-lb4qj And very often the wrong people being placed in charge
@@martinheath5947 man be sounding like ASMR Captain Barbossa
@@martinheath5947 Really sad about that, isn't it?
As someone who has had to spend time in low security short term psych inpatient, this man is exactly the kind of nurse perfect for this job.
Safety and security is first, but he’s empathetic and caring, he still sees his patients as humans.
It struck me when he said the most disturbing things he saw was the self harm, I’m sure he has many sensational stories but the thing that disturbed him the most was someone ending their own life. It’s nice knowing there’s nurses out there who can care for even the most mentally unwell people.
Noticeable British accent.. Doesn't DNA prove Charles was sired by his uncle and first cousin? What's that all about Diana?
@@jamesdouglas7345I really hope that whatever hurt you heals..the
Hard headed and big hearted 💕
ya this dude is solid
He didn't mean arm slicing, he meant suicide by self harm, sliced throats he said, and hanging.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Sometimes I think only people like Paul understand that those patients don't mean to harm others, they are trapped in their own mind and need love and care, not hatred
❤
As someone who has been in a secured psychiatric hospital, I appreciate how you treat your patients. Those connections mean the world to me, if I’m non-verbal at the moment or sui***al. Thank you for being a wonderful human being.
@@darthtrolleus1947 that’s a bit personal mate
@@greyfivenine7005 not really, Mel started the thread by saying "As someone who has been secured in a psychiatri hospital" so anyone would ask
They are about
Asking someone their diagnosis is rude. Very rude. Unless they offer to tell you, no matter what else they have said or hinted at, it's rude to ask. It's absolutely no one else's business what their diagnosis is. That's between them and their doctor. They don't owe you an answer.
@@GiraffeLoverJen It isn't rude, they're just curious + woman moment
12:38 “if they’re going to do it, they’ll do it.” He’s not just saying if someone wants to do this they’ll find a way, he’s also saying you can’t take on the burden of guilt and blame yourself at all if you’re ever put in a situation like this. It goes back to what he said about leaving it all at work when you clock out to go home. Really like this man💖
100%. They also really do find a way no matter how safe the environment around them is. A woman in the room next to me at a mental ward suffocated herself with a plastic bag, the staff never found out how she got it because we weren't allowed things like that
Worked as a medical social worker and experienced patients committing suicide while receiving treatment.Fully understands that nobody can be supervised 24/7 -- they will even pretend to feel better just to create an opportunity to commit suicide.When this happens you just have to make peace with yourself and the decisions of your patients.
If you reach out to a doctor about a lump on your arm and the doctors does nothing… well, guess it was your fault
Well said. It can be very difficult to compartmentalize work life vs. the rest of one's life, yet it's imperative to find that balance for one's own mental health. I think this gentleman would be a perfect person to help teach others who enter caring professions those types of skill sets. Most courses of study focus on theory. And while being important, those courses are no substitute for practical application or strong mentors with experience.
Hes so right.. I've had 3 close friends hang themselves.. struck a chord with me when he said that..
Mental health, as a whole, is a challenge. Thank you, Sir, for your service.
Wow can’t get over how sweet this guy is. Mad respect
The whole system might be massively f'ed and under-funded, but it takes these dedicated people on the front line to keep it running. Unsung heroes.
My Dad is 62 and works in a psychiatric half way house, as a support worker. Before this he'd had very manual jobs his whole life (from a british soldier to roofer). He started last year and says its the best job he's ever had in his working life. The stories he tells are haunting at times, so knowing that is his experience, this gentleman's experience must be at times, harrowing! Hats off to anyone who works to help others!
Yeah my dad does works at a half way house for men coming out of prison, last week he had a 21 year old man overdose twice go to hospital get the all clear and came back and then die , he came home with blood all over his shirt from where he was giving him mouth to mouth, the only time I seen him cry, he was crying for days
My dad would love that! How did yours get into it?
@@sabrinapyneeandy1 through security work, had to get his SIA badge
@@skinlesswalnut6259 I'm sorry your Dad had to experience that. Hope he's okay!
@@sabrinapyneeandy1 just browsing on indeed and a support worker position come up. There's a lot of agency work, or the homes are crying out for directly employed staff
I’m an RN and learned in school I wasn’t cut out for mental health. I was scared every hour of every day we were at the psych hospital. Thank goodness there are people like this man who have a true passion for mental health. It truly takes a certain type of person and they are few and far between.
Most psych nurses need a Master's Degree in many countries. Because the PSYCH WARD is so much more complex than all other health specializations. So advanced knowledge is super necessary. Not just academic knowledge but also how to respond to unexpected situations in an actual work placement.
@Rachel Jardin What about the nursing assistants that are around the patients all day long and they don't have all training like someone with a Masters degree. How do they do it? I visited a family member there many ti es and it was the CNA's doing everythi g with the patients.
i worked as a Behavioral Health Technician (similar to CNA, but solely for psych) while completing my undergraduate degree. from my experience, we had a two week training period where we went over basics about how to talk to patients with certain diagnosis, like those who are suicidal, experiencing hallucinations (visual, auditory), currently in psychosis, etc. as well as deescalation techniques and a physical restraint training class. we had to do a bunch of online modules with quizzes and had several lectures. and the rest was really learning on the job. i def gained confidence in myself over time about how to work with patients and it is a learning process. especially bc mental health disorders present so differently in different individuals. i really loved the job and working with (most of) the patients. i worked at a short term psych ward so nothing like a high security hospital but hopes this helps to answer your question :) @@realhousewifeoftransylvania1.0
this was in the USA by the way.
@@cosmicrae
You definitely don’t needs a masters to work as a nurse in a mental health unit..
“ When you leave your shift, it’s about leaving it all behind and not taking it home” As a support worker who deals with behaviours of concern I relate to this.
A public school teacher too.
It’s the only way to truly break free of the chaos you endure inside security. If you take any of your day home with you, you’ll lose your own sanity.
Been a nurse in mental health since 04, I've seen all sorts in my career. The stigma attached to mental health is still terrible. Most of the time the staff are worse than the patients!!!
@TurnedLeftAtTheRockyMountains no the way staff treat the patients
yay finally somebody speaking the truth in the comments. Every psych hospital I've been in the staff were barking mad and even scarier than the patients.
@@bushmanphotos I am a nurse also but the way staff treat patients is disgusting
@TurnedLeftAtTheRockyMountains i observed you always get colored or get influenced by your environment. and when you dont allocate personal time to reflect and differentiate, youd get suck in by what you always see
Very few people in the medical profession , who mistreat patients , are ever held accountable ....
I used to live near Broadmoor and every Monday morning at 10am they would test the siren (used to alert the local area if there was an escape so you could go inside and lock your doors; I often wondered what would happen if someone escaped at 10am on a Monday as we'd all ignore it) I believe the siren was introduced after an escaped patient murdered a young girl in the village close by the hospital. They stopped the sirens a few years back and use SMS messaging and the likes to alert local schools etc. This guy and others like him who show such empathy to their charges are probably the reason I never heard the siren at any time other than 10am Monday in the years I lived near by.
His appearance is non-threatening for a man who could rip your lungs out if he needed to.
As he wouldn't have been able to stay in his position for 35 years if he couldn't, as he would have ended up on disability from an assault by a patient...
So while he seems kind and empathetic, I would expect him to hospitalize a violent criminal on the street, if he couldn't talk his way out of it, or simply hand over his wallet & phone to avoid a fight...
Isn’t that where saville did all his crimes?
I used to hear the alarm every Monday during school...
Paul is such a good person, we need more people like him in the world
I am a pediatric oncology nurse (for 28 years now) a few years ago i have tried to get away from oncology because i needed a break... So i went into a children & teenager psychiatric hospital to try it out... It broke me after only a year... My respect to the nurses who can work in this kind of hospital setting. I went back into pediatric oncology after that year.
This one year at the psychiatry hospital was the most difficult working experience in my whole career
Thank you for dealing with what must be an incredible strain on your heart and mind to care for children and their families in such a critical situation
What he says about being in a supermarket after a shift is spot on. I worked in a high security prison in Buckinghamshire as a nurse and once got sent to the VP unit where there was a very well know double child murderer. I popped into Sainsbury’s after work and kept thinking “if only you knew who I’d just been doing a crossword with”.
why was you doing a crossword with them?
@@georginacook1850 That’s how prisoners pass their time. Amongst other things!
@@gripplehound well I was just curious. As you said you was a nurse. No need to be defensive.
@@georginacook1850 they didn’t sound defensive 🤷♀️
Well, were they any good at the crossword? ^^
I worked at a group home, it taught me a lot. I had clients break my glasses, pull my hair, kick me etc. it was really mentally draining, I had my good days but really bad days. It takes a person to be really passionate about what they do.
I don't think I could stand that. Makes me respect you and those that work at the sharp end all the more
I lived in a group home-much respect to the men and women who do that job
Setting good&strong boundaries is so important for you and for them...
I work in a nursing home , that takes cognitive impairment, dementia and some psychiatric conditions in old age , I had one man choke hold me and slam me onto the ground, I was so shaken and the staff were so busy nobody could comfort me or talk to me about it , and I had to drive myself home in a complete state , it really is expected of you to take it as part of the job .
@@katieb2098 Wow that's so corrupted, so many things wrong with this...
This man's patients were INCREDIBLY fortunate to have such an AMAZING nurse.
He have this very calm voice and a sort of special aura.
I've recently retired as an RMN, 35 yrs in the job.
Paul is right, the most important tool a psych nurse has is his communication skills, its not about pumping people full of drugs or punishment its a therapeutic bond between the patient and staff.
I worked as a psychiatric nurse for 30 yrs here in the US, and I would have loved to have had worked with this man. So many psych nurses do not have the gift of caring for this type of patient , and so many of the nurses were verbally confrontational instead of finding a better way to communicate with an especially difficult patient. So many takedowns and trips to the seclusion room with a syringe full of Ativan could have been avoided had the nurse learned better skills in dealing with the patients. I'm proud to say I was never physically attacked or abused by any patient but I also learned to never get myself cornered in a room by always keeping my back to an open door. Just like this wonderful guy, I find myself missing being a psych nurse on a unit of full of patients. We had so many laughs and days where it was a pleasure to be there helping in any of the small ways where we could. But again, you have to be cut out for this specialty; you either have it or you don't.
@@sheilaharrison8547 Wow, Ms. Harrison, you deserve Combat Pay! Brava to you, well done!
in my considerable experience in high security psych wards the staff are worse than the patients and cause most of the issues and suicides
@@bushmanphotos As a psych tech working in an adult inpatient ward for 15 years I have to agree completely
@@sheilaharrison8547 Your comment was made 6mo ago - and I while I don't know the extent of your TBI, there may still be options for you to pursue your dream. Perhaps you could become a nursing assistant or even a Peer Support Worker. We have peer workers where I live. They either work in the community, or in high-needs Urgent Care Centres where members of the public go when they're suicidal. There are nurses, peer workers, counselors, and paramedics to either triage patients and send them to hospital, or simply sit with them in "lounges" to talk through their issues. The peer workers' qualifications are simply having lived experiences with mental illness with only a little training required.
Again, I don't know the extent of your injury, but make some enquiries if you still have a passion for working in mental health!
@@sheilaharrison8547 I'm so sorry to hear that ❤🩹 Retirment sounds great though! I hope you enjoy it to the fullest
This is what real nursing is all about - not many around these days. He was born to be a great nurse.
No doctor can ever compare to a loving nurse, they saved my life with their kindness from cancer and through many hospital stints. What they endure, and they get up the next day and do it again the next day. This gentleman is a precious human being
They cured your cancer with kindness
What a sweet man. If every person in the field of mental health was as kind natured as this man, it would make a world of difference.
I've been in a mental health hospital and it was the worst experience of my life. I was suicidal, crying, screaming in my sleep, barricading the doors, couldn't leave my room because I was shaking with fear. I was a paranoid mess and not one nurse asked if I was ok. The only time any of the patients would get attention was if they started to become violent and throwing things around or punching doors etc. This man would have made my experience a whole lot better and I no doubt would have recovered a lot quicker with the empathy he shows and the kind hearted soul he bring along with him.
Sorry to hear you didn’t have caring nurses. We aren’t all like that. Well my colleagues are… but I make an effort to spend time with patients all the time, not just bc they are “tipping up”.
The whole system is a mess, at least here in the US. So often the caregivers are running and not able to keep up and only can put out fires. It’s so discouraging for them, the patients and the families begging for help for their loved ones. Ahhhhhhhhhhh😢😢😢
What a wonderful world it would be if there were more fathers like Paul Deacon. A beautiful human.
A person like that could restore your faith in humanity.
What a lovely man. So dedicated to his career that he continues to help even after retirement. The world needs more compassionate, caring people like him.
what a truly remarkable gentleman, such a credit to his profession. I wish there was more people like him in mental health.
The world needs more people like him.
Wow, this man exudes true compassion. We need all of them like him.
Really hits home about his suicide comments. My uncle killed himself when I was 11. I was so close to him. And I'll never forget his amazing smile, but also driving by him and he never waved back at us. My last ever memory of him. If they want to, they really will find a way and it can knock the wind out of your lungs.
So sorry for your loss. I too have lost friends through suicide, and have felt suicidal myself x
Im so sorry. 💖
I am so sorry for your loss. It's a truly terrible way to lose someone.
As someone who has worked 10+ years directly serving adults living with mental illness, many of whom are periodically suicidal,
I think there is something the whole world needs to know. Some people covertly plan out and calculate a suicide attempt and choose a date,etc,
But for many, many people, though they may have ongoing suicidal ideation,
The impulse to actually make an attempt comes on suddenly and very large.
Something shifts in their brain chemistry, and
An active suicidal impulse just rises up suddenly like a rogue wave and smacks them.
First, I think people who have lost someone to suicide should know that, quite often, they were not thinking clearly, they were suddenly overwhelmed.
Second, knowing this presents a HUGE opportunity to be prepared.
The people I worked with have INVALUABLE knowledge to share with the world, because they themselves are battle-hardened veterans in the trenches who have survived many crises.
It was amazing to watch individuals act as peer-advocates, encouraging each other to remember "You have felt like this before, like nothing could ever be good again. But when you look back, those feelings didn't last, they weren't true. Part of your brain was lying to you."
It's also worth mentioning that most survivors of suicide, particularly those who jumped from bridges, report thinking "oh no! I've made a terrible mistake" while they were falling.
The people I have served taught me that the public needs to know about these rogue waves so they can recognize them and jump to an emergency protocol to save themselves if during depression, etc, a little part of their brain suddenly tries to grab the wheel and steer the whole person into a brick wall.
Everyone who has experienced depression or suicidal ideation needs to know the suicide hotline number for their country,
and have a list of a couple friends or family or teachers/coworkers/healthcare providers in their life whom they can call or run to immediately if this happens to them.
@@melissasaint3283 I’ve actually felt like this before. Normally I’m ok and then one day I feel completely worthless to myself and others and think it’s best if I just ended it. Thankfully I’m able to to pull myself out of it. I sometimes call the suicide hotline which definitely helps… I’ve never planned my own suicide but I’ve definitely had the thoughts pop up during a very depressive episode
@@melissasaint3283 - This is the most articulate KRplus comment I’ve ever read. Thank you for your input, it’s excellent information. Regarding the point you mention about people jumping off bridges and thinking they’ve made a mistake; I work in pathology and live in Eastbourne where we have the famous, or perhaps I should say infamous, Beachy Head. There are volunteers up there who talk to people wanting to jump off and a lot of times they’re successful. However, we’d get so many of them coming into the mortuary. One man even came all the way from Sweden, his sole purpose to coming all that way was to do what he did. Some of the saddest ones, if not THE saddest, were people who had gravel under their torn up nails and their fingers and hands were all cut up because they’d immediately changed their mind and tried to stop themselves falling by trying to cling onto the cliff face. We’d of course take toxicology samples from them and I’d say around 80% were stone cold sober. Yourself and this gentleman are an absolute asset to mental health and I salute you, sincerely ❤️
I spent nearly two years in various psychiatric hospitals, some of that under section on a secure unit. I've met amazing staff members who were born to do the role, and staff members who you really wonder why they went into a caring profession when they don't have a caring bone in their body and gave patients absolute hell. I get the sense that Paul was one of the decent ones! And art therapy is HUGELY important and sadly its not one of the therapies that is considered that important by the NHS/hospital trusts. Same with music therapy and movement/dance therapy. I've only ever been in one unit that offered it, and it was such a good way of exploring emotions and issues in a safe way, especially if you aren't good with words. I've also been attacked by a fellow patient who was very psychotic, she tried to stub a cigarette out on my face, all the while the agency staff member looked on frozen in fear and did nothing.
I'm sorry you had this experience love. Good luck in the future.
Perhaps it’s my severe trauma now of psychiatric hospitals,but I truly find it hard to believe anyone working there with genuine empathy for others to want to continue working in a severely broken mental health system and sleep well at night.
I have seen many horrific things involving these nurses, but I have also encountered the rare gems that truly want to help. These same gem nurses that desire to help I have found do not stay in this profession long or transfer to a different department.
I do not mean to offend this man, but I just found this video somewhat odd and slightly unsettling..
I'm sorry you had to experience that. I hope you can find the help you need in a outpatient facility and continue to express yourself through art and maybe help others do the same. I wish you the best. ❤
@@BelovedZero odd and unsettling. Yeah, 💛 would like to hear more about that?
My daughter finds art projects very helpful in her current residential program. I wish you well.
I currently work at a Nursing facility that has many psych patients. You’d be surprised how many nurses are terrible with handling your loved ones. It’s actually kind of disgusting how they interact knowing these people are not all together in the head
He has such a peaceful and reassuring demeanor. Very kind and compassionate. I would feel very safe if I was his patient
As someone who spent too many years as an I atient with many illnesses like PTSD ADHD bipolar bpd, I feel like I would be able to trust this man and let him work with me, the patients most of the time can sense who cares and who doesn't, even if they aren't aware, similar to people with dementia etc
There are far too many people in this line of work that should Not be. Thats a fact.
I had the exact same reaction. This gentleman gives such a instant impression of being empathetic and competent. He has a very calm and self assured vibe, I instantly think he both cares and knows his business
Actually true. The last people with mental health conditions are people who care for them. It's the hope.
Please do a longer interview with him. I can't help but be curious if he ever met Robert Maudsley, and how he felt about him as a person/patient, his intelligence but most importantly about his response to his traumatic early life.
All of that aside, I would listen to this man read the ancient Encyclopedia Britannica set in my Great Aunt's garage. He is so full of compassion for the human plight, and so respectful that it weights his voice and textures it like the finest fleece or silk. Someone already spoke of his emotional intellect and vast capacity toward empathy & I could not agree more.
I wish he'd start his own channel. I'd be his first subscriber.
I am curious if he ever saw Jimmy Saville. Wasn't that the same hospital where he abused all those girls?
He legally wouldn’t be able to speak about it if he had met Robert maudsley sadly but I agree re the rest, I’d subscribe to him if he had a channel
Thank you for this video and sharing your experiences. As a psychiatric RN in an acute locked hospital I care for patients with a myriad of diagnoses, some who have served prison time for violence - even murder, with essentially no protection. We have to walk the tightrope between therapeutic communication, watching our surroundings every second, and keeping other patients and staff safe. It’s definitely not for the faint of heart.
No it isn’t! I salute you.
I also salute you! Tremendous respect.
I recently entered one of those places through like 3 air locks to talk to one of my customers who is currently locked up. It was scary - all these random people eying me off.
Was good to see my customers human again as the last time I saw him he was completely unaware of my presence in front of him and made random serious death threats vs my staff.
Im a medicine student and I have experienced some really sad and hideous situations doing voluntary work at a nearby hospital. Sometimes you feel alone when you return to your house and realize how much violence and suffering there is in the world. Also keeping into account that nobody on the health-related careers talks about the difficulty in first experiencing death and extreme situations. This man is amazing, and how he kept helping these people in spite of all the challenges you must face is inspiring. I felt less alone hearing his words. Thank you for this interview
Just listening to him you can tell he had the right temperament and nature for this job. Really good.
My mom was a psychiatric nurse and been through a lot of the same things as him. Like he said you have to be a special kind of person to work there. My mom seen some shizz.
I'm a mental health nurse and experienced some difficult situations... Its hard at times but omg, it's the best thing in the world and I'm so thankful to be able to meet people in their darkest moments and help them towards some light
That's so kind.. ❤
It takes a special type of person to deal with what he did. His soft voice alone is calming. He seems to really care about people and actually enjoyed working.
What a lovely guy. He's the kind of person that makes a real positive difference to the world and to the lives of people who need help. He's worth more than every billionaire combined.
He’s a genuinely lovely human being, my sister has schizophrenia and my son has nonverbal autism he can be aggressive and these are the kind of people I wish for them to have working with them.. if they all were as kind and lovely to my sis or my son
I work with mostly non-verbal autistic children, it's the only job that ever made me feel like I make a difference. Some kids can be aggressive, but they are also the most pure-of-heart, gentle, loving humans on this planet. I'm sure your son is one those kids. ;)
I agree.
@@GarbagePerson578 thank you for making a difference in ther lives and recognizing their potential as humans we all wanna be loved and understood and its nice to know that you and workinandg with them i am sure they feel and appreciateyour work
@@GarbagePerson578 ys my son is a very sweet kid although hes. Nonverbal he has a funny personality haha he communicates with me in his own way and it like his body language and his actions are silly and funny an he laughs and is overall a happy go lucky kinda person.
Im a nursing student and last week was punched in the face while riding the bus. The mom told me he was non verbal autism. That was the moment I got a glimpse into how to deal with being hit and not reacting because that is what I’ll deal with when I start my nursing career
This man, he deserves a Nobel prize.... Thank you for sharing a kind and humane story in an unrelwnting and challenging field .... and the person telling it 💛
My psychologist back in the days was a soft spoken young man with so much compassion. It would get on my nerves , myself being an agressive miserably depressed woman at the time. With time and therapy I got to appreciate his demenor and felt calm around him. It helped me alot.
He's a beautiful soul & did a beautiful job helping these people.
As a mental health nurse who worked in forensic secure units, this is spot on. This guy could be speaking for me! I did a placement as a student at broadmoor, and it was the most amazing place. You really do feel you make a difference there.
I’ve been admitted to psych wards 29 times in my life all combining to around 2 years (I’m 32) and I’m ashamed to say I have gotten aggressive at times. Never at the female nurses but I’ve broken things and they had to call security (Who honestly couldn’t handle me I almost always got away) And the next day crying apologizing to them for hurting them. God bless psychiatric nurses. They have to deal with so much. Once there was a nurse I had gotten close to who was attacked by another patient and almost had her finger bitten off. I flew across the room and knocked the mrs out so she’s let the nurse go. Didn’t get in trouble that time tho I should’ve.
proud of you
For what exactly
As an art psychotherapist, It is excellent to hear art therapy be discussed in this interview. As a professional who works in the services that Paul has discussed here, I have no doubts that he is and was an outstanding nurse. Thank you for sharing your insight with such compassion
He sounds like an absolutely amazing nurse!
If only all people like him worked in mental health! I worked in it for some years, and sadly too many workers and managers were awful at the job and actually caused a lot more harm than good. Big respect to him!
As someone who has spent time as a patient, this man is the type of nurse that we could only dream of having. Such a beautiful soul
My grandmother was a psych nurse here in the US and later taught psych nursing as well. She’s almost 90 now. This was a fantastic interview. Thank you for sharing your story!
He seems so lovely! 🥰❤️ It’s a shame there’s not more people like him in this certain field, this sort of empathy and kindness could be so helpful in saving someone in the midst of a mental crisis ❤️❤️❤️❤️xxxx
Amen to that!!!!
I worked at Broadmoor for 25 years , and have seen a lot of patients arrive very disturbed and ill through to being at ease with themselves and the World ; the staff are very dedicated and caring. It is a very demanding job-oddly one of the biggest stresses is the tabloid mythology that surrounds the hospital-total dross-one minute staff are serving breakfast in (water)beds to "evil monsters"-political correctness gone mad-or we're evil villains torturing the patients , another being the frustration that so often in mental health nothing gets done until there is a catastrophic crisis which has seen an horrific incident and a patient placed in Broadmoor. You never forget where you are and why the patients are there-security is necessarily high-but you treat the patient's always as human beings-sounds daft, but for many of them it's the first time that's ever happened to them and it brings on the slow changing of their perceptions of the world/people/themselves. The worst thing -for me and I know for others-was a patient committing suicide. It really does affect staff, it crushes you and makes you feel you have failed. I have often wondered why the control and restraint and break away techniques we learned (now PMVA ) which were constantly refined were never practiced or taught to the Police. When I look at them arresting someone on TV I sit there thinking "What the hell are they trying to do?" I've faced a lot worse than a drunk lashing about at Broadmoor and it never would end up such a pigs ear as the Police's effort. I would credit the influx of the South African nurses in 2000 for a greatly changing the culture of Broadmoor in a hugely positive way ; there were still bad practices/staff around when they came but they were all patient orientated and it made it easier to change things. The new build hospital which I worked at for the last two years of my time at Broadmoor is fantastic (unlike some, I couldn't get romantic about the old hospital getting knocked down-there's memories of course, but it wasn't fit for purpose) The wards are set out with clear sight lines-making the wards safe for staff and patients , the facilities give patients dignity and -I would never have thought this about a building-the stress levels were greatly reduced by the layout/new building.
It will always be a hard job there, but seeing a patient leave feeling they can make a go of things makes you feel proud. It was tough, but I enjoyed my time there-if enjoy is the right word. There are always good people in mental health care. The real problems are what causes the mental breakdowns outside of the hospitals walls.
Working with the mentally ill requires a great deal of sensitivity, but on the other hand you can't be too sensitive or it will destroy you and pull you under. It takes an incredibly special person to do this work. God bless him and keep him safe!
Even just a few weeks or months working with inpatients - murderers, psychotics, and those with various disturbances, one gets a lot of experience as is described in this video. Three moments stand out in my therapist, counselor, medical career with these patients: 1. A man came into inpatient. I did his intake. He had killed his child. He described it to me in detail as a way for him to get to grief. It was the first time we met and I was of the opinion that reading someone’s chart in advance was not the best start to connecting with a patient who had psychological and mental health issues, PTSD, addiction, and so on, because I didn’t want any bias to creep in as is stated in this video. While he was describing his life, I was very intentionally staying with him human to human, moment to moment. He began to spontaneously cry which he had never done before and it wasn’t to manipulate me. I became known as the crying therapist after this, even though it was not me who was doing the crying, I was simply actively and compassionately listening. This happened many times both before and after this patient. 2. A 22 year old returned from day work and there were zero signs he had taken anything. I asked him to sit down and wait while I checked everyone in. I sat with him privately afterwords and asked him what he took. He told me he had taken 2 bottles of aspirin. I immediately called the paramedics. A physician called me afterwords to say he would not have lived through the night. He asked me how in the world I could have known he had taken anything since aspirin would not have shown any noticeable signs. I told him it was a hunch. 3. I spoke briefly to a new patient for a few minutes in passing and was very concerned that he was suicidal. I told all of those working his case and their superiors. No one did anything apparently. He was found hanging from a tree on his grandparent’s property a couple of weeks later. It made the local news for several weeks. I quit the job at that location after submitting a formal complaint.
My greatest concern was that we were not actually seeing patients turn around in significant ways. Since my time with inpatient and other programs, I ventured into body centered psychotherapy, deep detoxification, nutrition, and supplementation, among many modalities and methods that do work for many. I’m happy to say that I’ve been very fortunate to actually do something that has indeed supported those struggling to significantly change their lives for the better.
The case you describe sounds very familiar to me. Or a very similar tragedy happened where I worked and this was a crisis center.
@@annierichards8027 the suicide? I was working a halfway house at that time. I don’t think he got fully admitted. It was a failure by the facility not to admit him into a psychiatric hold at a co-facility.
A fine man, confident, intelligent, understanding, his patients are very fortunate to have him caring for them. Bless him.
Wow, what a lovely, kind and caring man.
I think this sort of Nursing is a true Vocation for some people.
I've lived with Depression for over 35 years and spent some time in a Psychiatric Hospital 32 years ago.
The Mental Health Nurses there were brilliant. They had time to talk to you and get to know you.
We are all human beings at the end of the day, and there but for the grace of God go all of us.
Thank you for your service Paul, and what you continue to do xx
Hope you're doing alright now. Take care 🙏
Same.
I suffer from depression too
I am looking for a parther
I wish my experience in the ward had been like that. I might have actually turned out ok
so much respect and admiration for this man, truly takes someone of extreme patience and understanding to do this job. We are kucky to have people like this they deserve the world and more.
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You also need someone who has a nice calm ambivalence to the mentally ill. Someone who sees a bowl of cereal but no milk and decides to eat it anyway
Paul I am a nurse myself... I have to say, you are an truly amazing nurse and person!!!! You are inspiration for compassion.
From someone who also works/ has worked for many years in secure mental health services, I believe there should be more nurses like this man.
Thank you for your years of service.
This guy is exactly the type of person you want to look after you! A genuine & well educated/spoken man...big respect for his service to all concerned!!
Wow, he really found his calling in life and he ended up helping the lives of many!! 😩
God bless him in his retirement years. 🤗🤍
Just imagine this world filled with a majority of people like him, he's such a wonderful, pleasant and very enlightened person.
PAUL DEACON,- I have just watched your interview and I have to tl you what a very special human being you are!! I could literally feel ur warm vibes through my screen!! I think every patient you ever helped in your career was very lucky to have such a genuinely caring, considerate, devoted nurse by there side. I suffer with my mental health, bin sectioned, treated for over 40 gears of my life. I am so glad there are still nurses lyk you making a difference to some patients lives. I applaud u Mr.Deacon. x
I interned at a mental hospital in college. It was scary at times, but mostly sad. We were trained in Preventing Managing Aggressive Behavior which included using restraints. I worked with all ages between 4 yrs and 104 yrs. I changed my entire career plan after that because it wasn’t something I wanted to do long term.
Are you saying there are 4 year olds in mental hospitals??
@@amandasnider2644 wouldn't be on an inpatient basis. These would be children with behavioural issues - ADHD etc. Seeing specialists on appointment basis!
WOW ....4-104 years old?
4 years?
Go bury yaself.
This lovely lovely man. I have bipolar disorder and I spent 10 days in a psych ward. I won’t identify the hospital except to say it’s located in new haven ct. I had not been officially diagnosed yet but was admitted with a blood pressure of 220/120 shaking anxiety off the scale crying suicidal. I laid on a cot with a small thin blanket no one saw me. I begged for something for the anxiety they said soon. 48 hours I was finally given relief. I wish I had had a new res like Paul. I am a fully functioning person on meds doing well thank god but experience I had at that hospital scarred me.
So sorry and yay for being better.
@@bellaangus1213 thank you sweetheart
Been in similar circumstances. Decided never to trust the medical profession again. Decades later I still don't. Not even this lovely soft spoken nurse.
What a wonderful caring nurse. We need more like him.
I worked at a the same type of hospital for 14 years. Then 4 years at a homeless shelter… We have seen things most people can’t ever imagine
This is the kind of nurse I want to be. This man is so kind and empathetic. We need more people like him in this world. I'm on the verge of tears seeing him articulate his experiences and knowing the kind of human being he is.
It says in the very beginning he is a nurse......what was the point of your comment? Do you think you are better than this man because you’ve studied so much? Just because some things are not said, it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.
Thank you for showing us this side of what they have to deal with. I work at a mental health hospital here in Christchurch, New Zealand at the moment and don't often get to hear stories like this as I work in the admin/legal team. The doctors and nurses at our hospital are so super caring, but this guy takes the cake. I applaud all in this occupation. Thank you ❤️
Hallo mam ,,you are so beautiful my name is William can I know you
Like Ashlea I too am from NZ. For the past 15 yrs I've worked in aged care. While the majority of our residents are gentle old souls with a calm disposition however we do also have transfers from dementia units. Although these residents are elderly it in no way means they do not have a lot of strength and aggressive tendencies. Many a time I have been struck in the face and different parts of my body. Those situations are frightening and often occur so randomly. Being part of a supportive team certainly goes a long way minimising assaults
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Brenda, I know you responded to this story 3 months ago but what interested me was your comment on the elderly. I have also worked with the elderly and one think I’ve been noting is that many of the drugs they are given have turned dear little old men and women angry and aggressive when they’ve never been before. Usually it’s anti/depressants. I’ve also seen undiagnosed bladder infections do this. Has this been your experience?
@@lloyannehurd I can't honestly say I've noticed aggressive behaviours result from antidepressant meds but just because I've not observed it in no way does it mean I would dispute what you have observed. Many meds do come with side effects that whilst may be deemed 'rare ' certainly do affect certain people. As for UTI's the most common symptoms seem to be confusion and hallucinations.
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Thank you Brenda.
*I'm writing from Italy, I'm interested in psychiatric matters, and I've viewed a lot of material, but I have never come across a person with such rich humanity. This man is fantastic. His testimony is precious, and it is easy to listen to him with the utmost attention from the first to the last word of this beautiful interview. Thank you, my friend, for the things you have said, for how you have said them, and for still being willingly involved in Psychiatry today.*
This man is an amazing storyteller... he makes such heavy situations and circumstances sound so light 🤣
I worked in a psychiatric hospital This guy is such a Gem of human. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This is such an amazing interview... I worked in a very similar setting for years, and nobody (friends, family) ever understood why I stayed. This man explains it so well, with such compassion and empathy, the joys of the job, not just those awful moments. To work in a place like that, you don't need degrees and formal education, but the basic skills of empathy, care and resilience, of which this man has in abundance. What a credit to the industry this man is, and thank you for shining a more positive light on an environment that is so criticised and poorly-judged by the media and those who don't understand.
Thank you for your care and dedication. What a lovely humble man. 🙏🏼
You can tell he is caring and passionate about helping people
WOW!! As a nurse in a psychiatric nursing home listening to this man is so heart warming!! It is so nice to have someone whose sense of humor is relatable bc its required to be one of the connected nurses! ♥️
I worked for many years at an inner-city hospital in many areas including Inpatient Psych and EPS. What I can tell you about the people who work in those environments is that they are the most special breed of person you'll ever meet in your entire life. The patience and understanding it takes to do that job, day in and day out, is otherworldly and the respect I have for them is as well.
"If you can just change somebody a little ea day,"that is what mental health professionals need to remember. This man has excessive patience, calm. I would've liked him as a therapist, as iv had ptsd and such. And yes, some people use silence as a weapon for unnerving but as a tool by him as empathy, to just sit and ponder. Really he needs to write a book, manual that should be used in all hospitals, prisons and more. Ty for his service.
I’m a nurse and this made me cry. It was a pleasure watching this sir. Not a lot of people understand psychiatric work, and not a lot of people acknowledges the hard work that goes with it. God bless ☺️
i hear that a lot of people who are about to kill themselves usually are in a really good mood & even seem relaxed right before it happens. and it’s bc they know that “relief” is right around the corner. they’re convinced that this is their way out of mental torture :(
True. But the pain it causes the family and loved ones...
i’ve survived every attempt for some reason but i think only few of those attempts i felt relieved the rest it was always still so painful doing it it’s a trapped feeling all around feeling like you have to die to escape it isn’t that relieving most of the time guess it depends how much pain you’re in at the time idk it’s different for each person each attempt
I've had multiple times I wanted to die and felt panicked and trapped inside pain and didn't know any other way out but it scared me. Till one day I felt calm about knowing I'm about to die. That's when I realized all the other times I actually never really wanted to. I'm glad I'm still here and whenever I feel like killing myself I know I deep down i actually don't
This man must be protected at all costs ❤️ what an amazing nurse
I’ve been in prison, and I’ve been in a secure unit, both in my youth, prison as a young man was intimidating but nothing could prepare me for a secure unit, I’m diagnosed with an ASP disorder with psychotic tendencies, the day I turned up at the ward I’ll never forget it, there was a man running down the hall screaming as loud as he could about an air raid from Germany (he was schizophrenic) There was an old guy sat in the commune area looking blankly at a wall dipping his finger in his coffee writing stuff on the table he was sat at, about an hour after being on the ward another guy with paranoid schizophrenia started throwing all the chairs at staff, and 4 nurses had to over power him and sedate him, it really was something else, in prison you kinda feel like your all in it together, sure there’s thieves and bad guys in prison but there’s sorta an understanding between each other, on a psyche ward there is no such understanding, it’s terrifying because you know that each person is just as unhinged as the next, I was glad to be off it
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Such an incredible person. Empathy truly is a superpower 💚