Why I don't visit the US, Why I don't leave Korea, & Why I don't fly

1. 한국 비행기타고 왔어요~ 그냥 용기 내서 타고 왔어요 ㅠ 조금 많이 힘들긴했어요.
2. 한국 있는동안 다른 나라 놀러가긴 갔어요...비행기 타고 가긴갔고요! 타기전에 보통 술 먹긴 먹어요. 그래야 조금 덜 무서워요 ..취하면 ㅎㅎ 근데 미국 너무 멀어요...15시간 넘게 걸리니까 좀 많이 힘들어요
*1. I came to Korea on a plane, of course. I just gathered the courage and tried not to think the whole ride here
*2. I've visited other countries on a plane..but I usually drink A LOT, to the point where I'm pretty tipsy. It's a bit easier when you're drunk, haha

그런 사람들은 보통 의사에게 수면제를 처방받고 승무원분께 도착하기전에 깨우지 말아달라고 한 뒤에 수면제를 드시더라고요! 참고 하셨음 좋겠습니다!

Dave, I am a student pilot in Australia and know of specialists out there that can help you with your trauma. Flying can be scary, but with professional help and more information you will be able to realise that flying is one of the safest modes of transportation available to us all. All the best and thank you for the fun videos!

My mom was originally supposed to be on that flight but because of traffic she didn’t make the flight. What a small world. So glad your dad didn’t get on that plane. ❤️

데이브 아버님 십년감수 하셨네요
이런 사연이 있었다니요
미국 가보고 싶으실건데...

너무 충격적인 사건을 무방비 상태에서 접하면 무섭고 트라우마가 생기는 건 당연하다고 생각해요. 인간이니까 어쩔 수 없어요. 괴로워하며 굳이 고칠 필요도 없다고 생각하구요. 안 무서워하는 척 하는 것보다 무서운 걸 무섭다고 말하는 게 용기 있는 거에요.

어른들에게는 너무나도 감사한 일이었기 때문에.
데이브도 가족이니까 너에게도 정말 다행인 일이라는 의미로 알려주신게 아닐까...듣는 어린 데이브는 포커스가 달랐겠죠

the story about your dad missing a deadly flight has me spooked and hes not even my dad
i cant imagine how terrifying that would be for a child to hear

데이브가 10년동안 비자걱정 없이 한국체류가능한것도 나름 대단과신기.

나보다 한국말을 조리있게 더 잘하네..

와우.. 부모님들 어린 아이들에게 함부로 공포스러운 얘기 해주면 안된다는거 정말 공감해요!ㅠㅠㅠ
저도 6살 때 아빠가 우스갯소리로, 예전에 정부에서 시키는 일을 제대로 못하면 그 사람을 갈아서 닭고기 소시지 만들 때 섞어버린다고 했어요.. 근데 그 이야기가 진짠줄 알고 그 당시 며칠동안 악몽을 꿨고 그 이후로 절대 소시지를 못 먹어요. 냄새만 맡아도 구역질이 나서.. 성인된 지금도 소시지는 절대 안먹어요...

와 저 보는동안 눈물흘리면서 봤어요 진짜로.... 이영상보면서 느낀게 많고 데이브님이 어렸을때 진짜큰 충격을먹어서 마음고생을 했을 생각을하니까 더욱 눈물이 나네요. 아마 데이브님은 부모님이 조금 원망스러워하실거같아요.. 절대 쫄보로 안보여요 제가 만약 어릴때 저런일들이 있었다면 하늘에 날아다니는 비행기만 봐도 몸이 떨리고 무서워할거같아요. 그래도 겁먹은거 꾹참고 한국까지 먼길 와주신것만으로도 진짜 대단해요!! 고향이 그립고 가족, 친구들도 엄청 그리울거에요. 한국에 잘도착한것처럼 데이브님이 미국에 가서 부모님을 뵈었으면 좋겠네요😭😭

데브는 편집이 진짜 스타일리쉬함

아 저도 데이브님과 똑같은 상황입니다.
예전에는 그렇지 않았는데 비행기 타면 탈수록 공포심은 더 커져서 지금은 심각한 상황이고요.
실제로 비행기 공포증이 있어서 못타는 사람들이 많아요.
제가 쓰는 방법인데, 술 주사가 없으면 술좀 마셔보세요. 화장실 자주 가고싶은 문제가 있으니 맥주 대신 아주 스트롱한
데킬라나 위스키 마셔요.. 물론 이것이 근본적인 치료는 되지 않겠지만, 비행공포증이 심한 사람은 아주 약간의 난기류만 만나도
정신 발작 일으킬것같은 느낌이 들어요. 그런 정신 상태로 10시간 넘게 앉아있는건 정말 지옥이죠.
수술할때 전신마취 하는것처럼 극약처방이죠 ㅎㅎ
아니면 크루즈 같은배를 타고 미국에 갈수있는지 방법을 알아보세요.
그것도 아니면 인천에서 하와이 경유해서 2,3일 쉬었다가 갈수있는 방법. ㅎㅎ
그리고 한국에 비행기 공포심이 있는사람 치료해주는 센타가 있거든요. 거기서 상담도 해보시고요.
같이 이 문제를 이겨내요 ㅠㅠㅠ
화이팅

뭔가 모의고사 본문 내용같다
요지: 부모들은 아이에게 본인이 무서워하는것을 알려주지마라
목적: 비행기를 왜무서워하게 되었는가
심경:fear
주제: 아이에게 트라우마를 남기지 않는법
... 수능 파이팅!!

그렇게 용기를 내고 한국에 왔는데 후회하고 있진 않은 것 같아서 다행이에요. 데이브가 한국을 좋아하고 있는 것 같아 다행이구요. 고향에 못 돌아간다는 건 마음이 아프네요 ㅜㅜ 하루 빨리 방법이 생겼으면 좋겠어요

한국은 널 사랑해!! 항상 재밌는 영상 만들어줘서 고마워 덕분에 힘들어도 웃을 수 있어 ㅎㅎ

데이브, 있는 동안 항상 우리가 함께한다 !

As someone who is living in Japan albeit not for nearly as the same amount of time as you in Korea, I recently visited my family back home in Australia after three years. I am so happy I did and I knew it took so long because I had been giving so many excuses. I really hope you can find it somewhere to overcome this fear because seeing your friends and family after so long, you realize what you have missed and what you can fix.
It’s not easy to get over such a fear, but I do hope you can get some kind of help to overcome such and at least visit your family and friends back home in the States. Your life is totally in Korea now, but as you said in the video, you do want to travel so I hope you don’t let that become a regret.
I wish you all of the best

이런 얘기 방송에서 하는거 쉽지 않았을텐데 ㅠㅠ 저두 부모라 이런 말 들으니 조심하게 되네요
아이한테는 하지말아야 하는 얘기네요 ㅠ

헐 데이브 진짜 저랑 너무 똑같아요.. 저도 비행기 공포증이 있는데 어렸을 때 부모님께 뭐 들었다거나 그런 건 아니었는데 비행기 추락사고 때문에 많은 공포가 있었고 재작년에 해외를 가면서 난기류를 매우 심하게 만나면서 비행기가 엄청 흔들렸거든요.. 승무원 붙잡고 이거 괜찮은 거냐 울기도 하고 옆에는 할아버지 한 분이 앉아계셨는데 위로를 하신답시고 하시는 말씀이 “괜찮아, 비행기는 사고 거의 안 나~ 근데 한번 나면 다 뒤져서 문제지.” 이거에 더 멘붕 걸리고ㅠㅠㅠ 이번에는 아버지께서 LA에 사셔서 17년만에 뵈러 가는 거라서 큰맘 먹고 장시간 비행기를 타게 되었는데 조금이라도 안정적으로 가고 싶어서 비즈니스 석으로 가게 됐고 무서워서 와인 겁나 마시고 자야지 했는데 13시간 동안 무서워서 잠을 한숨도 못 잤어요ㅋㅋㅋ LA 가기 전에 병원에서 치료를 받아볼까도 생각했고 주변인들에게 말도 해봤지만 하나같이 제 공포심이 이해가 안 간다는 식으로 말을 하더라구요.. 그게 무서우면 밖에는 어떻게 나오냐고ㅋㅋㅋ 그래서 데이브의 비행기 공포증을 너무 잘 알 것같아요.. 어떻게든 극복 해봐요 우리ㅠㅠ 힘 내세요 데이브!!

Talking about that is actually one brave step forward movement to overcome fear

Thank you for deciding for being open with us, Dave. I can't imagine how hard it must have been or how long you've been thinking about whether or not to tell us.

데이브님의 용기있는 도전이있어서 지금의 데이브를 저희가 만날 수 있었다생각합니다 항상 응원할게요!!

다행이네요 ㅜㅜ 아버지가 다치시지 않아서 ㅜㅜ

데이브님! 이 영상을 찍기까지 다시 과거를 기억하고 생각을 정리해야하는 일이 힘들었을지도 모르는데 이야기를 해주셔서 고마워요!!!

안쓰러워요... 응원합니다!🙌

Wow, this video turned out to be a lot more personal than I thought it was going to be. Unfortunately, I sometimes find myself in disbelief at the “silly” fears some people have, so this is a good reminder that people can have justified reasons for being afraid and I should try to think more kindly towards them. Thank you for sharing this with us Dave.

와~~~아빠 얘기는 진짜 엄청나게 아찔한 경험이였네요!😱
좋은 조언 고마워요.♥
저도 9살 아이 키우고 있는데
아이에게 극도로 현실적인 얘기는 너무 자세하게 이야기해주지 않아야겠어요.🙊
불쌍한 Dave~~(토닥토닥~)😭
힘내세요! 🔥

영상 내리고 재업로드 죄송해요~ 오타 너무 많아서 수정하고 다시 올림 ㅠ Sorry for taking the video down so much, there were a few spelling mistakes I had to fix first :(

엄청 힘들고 괴로우셨을텐데 비행기 타고 한국에 와주셔서 정말 고마워요ㅠㅠㅠㅠ 💜

ㅜㅜ데이브.. 그래도 극복해서 가족분들과 좋은시간보냈음좋겠어용ㅜㅜ

I think your parents just talked about the issue because of worry, but it left as a trauma to you..😥

Aweee You had a reason for that!!!
I hope you get better little by little

비행기 타고 한국에 와주셔서 정말 감사해요 👏🏻가족분들도 데이브님 많이 보고싶을 것 같은데 연락 자주 드렸으면 좋겠어요 응원해요💗

데이브 힘내요!!! 아프지마요

Now that I know the reason why you are afraid of flying, I'm very proud how you managed it the first time you moved to Korea, despite the huge fear you have of it. I'm sure that you felt pressured for this, but you live your life the way you want. Seriously, i'm still shocked about this storytime, and also prized for heaeing this. Thanks for the great content given everytime.
We love you Dave

I feel like I just watched a poetry recital
I hope your parents can come to Korea instead so you can see them. I'm scared of flying too but even more scared of not spending enough time with my parents before they leave me.

ㅜㅠ 와.. 그정도 트라우마가 있는데 한국올 때엔 얼마나 힘들었을까... 힘내요 데이브!!

힘내세요! 데이브님

Dang that’s so crazy! Glad he missed the flight.
It reminds me of a story my dad told me recently about my great grandfather. He was in the army in WW2, he was supposed to be deployed with a group of people but he got injured and didn’t go with them. Turns out everyone from his unit died. So crazy to think that his injury saved his life.

Ohh I understand this so well, actually... I'm terrified of flying too.
I live in Chile, my husband is Korean... That means we HAVE to fly but it's a torture.
From Chile to Korea there are 24+ hours of pure flights. Which means I'm at least 2 days having troubles to eat, sleep and control myself.
It' sreally hard for people to understand WHY. I even had pilots explaining to me how safe it is. Some friends are flight attendants. But my brain doesn't seem to catch their effort.
It sucks, it limitates you.
So even if it's bad to say, I feel a little less weird and alone after watching your video.
I hope someday we will be able to overcome this fear.

보통 이런 힘든얘기는 하기도 힘들텐데 알려주시느라 너무 고생하셨어요형님ㅠㅠ

와아~ 조리있게, 본인의 경험에 대해서 말씀을 잘하시네요! 엄지 척!

형 한국은 어떻게 온거야... 배타고 왔다기엔 너무 멀었을텐데 설마 한국 하나만 바라보고 목숨걸고 비행기 탄거야?? ㄷㄷㄷ;;;;

The whole video I can’t help but thinking what your experience would be flying from US to Korea in the first place

Thanks for being open and sharing this. It's hard to tell other people about your fears

데이브 티비 맨날 바요 그리고 다른나라 사람 들과 같이 유튜브 찍는게 너무 좋아요 항상 찍어주세요

La bamba scared me as kid too! I took my first flight last year and I was low key terrified!!

I had a fear of flying 3 years ago, it happened when I was on my holiday, a flight from jeju to seoul to be exact. There was a severe turbulence which caused all the passengers screamed, and I was traumatized. But then, I needed to fly back to my country and take several flight. I ended up losing all my money because I kept cancelling my flight a moment before check in. Then I went to see a psychiatrist to get a therapy, and now I'm slowly getting better. I can take a flight now, even though sometimes I still feel scared, but it's really getting better. Hope you can fight your fear!

괜찮아요 데이브!!

충격~~!!!! 데이브가 비행기 공포증이
있다니... ㅠㅠ 힘내세요~!!!

부모님의 공포를 물려받는다는거 너무 공감해요. 저는 고소공포증을 물려받았어요.

데이브님 그렇게까지 용기를 내서 한국에 오신 이유가 있나요? 궁금하네요~~ 그거에 대한 영상이 혹시 있다면 보고싶네요^^

헉..ㅜㅜ트라우마 극복하길 바래요😭

데이브 힘내요!

폴란드에서 라이언에어 타고 스페인으로 가는데 엄청난 난기류때문에 1시간을 죽음의 공포에서 보냈음.. 이제 절대 비행기 못탐

미국은 이상하게 고속철이 발달되어있지않음. 적어도 intercity express 개념으로 뉴욕이랑 가까운 보스턴부터해서 300km/h로 달리는 고속철을 만들면 끝까지 연결이 될텐데 연결을 안함. 분명히 기차는 인류가 발명한 이동수단중 가장 안전한 이동수단인데..

Thanks for sharing Dave - give yourself a treat! It takes courage to do what you did

데이브 좋은 조언 해줘서 고마워요!❤️🧡 커서 부모가 되면 무서운거 아이앞에서 티내지 않아야겠어요!!

I think adults sometimes just say stuff without really dimensioning how can impact a child. I actually was in a plane when this one lost its landing wheels it was something weird don’t know how to exactly explain in English that situation, but the thing is as I loved and still do love sitting by the window I notice an erratic movement from a part of the wing and ask my mother if this movement was normal and then she realized we were flying quite low, I could see the signs of the city quite close ( those big ad signs that are usually in top of buildings) probably this happen around 1996 or 97, I was 8 or 9 , the plane had to go around the city to burn some fuel before being able to land, we had turbulence and a rough landing we waited hrs and my family decided to just go to a hotel and take another plane on the following day I think the only thing the worried me was our dog, she was in the cargo section and they didn’t want to release it and after a lot of fighting from my mother’s side they let our dog out, I guess I was too small and ignorant to dimension the gravity of the situation and I found it “interesting “ amd I do still remember it quite clear but it never gave me fear I still love taking a plane which I don’t know of makes sense but for example I have a fear of cars, I can’t drive because of it and it’s all because my sister almost crashes with a big truck when I even younger but we had another similar situation years later and I used to have these horribles nightmares regarding my family and car accidents and even though I tried to be rational and get over with it it’s just something that overwhelms me and sorry wrote way too much!

와..가족이 그런 일 겪으면 .. 누구도 편하게 비행기 못타죠..;;ㄷ ㄷ ㄷ ㄷ ㄷ

Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable and hard to think about! I hope this helps others and that one day you can feel a positive shift in this area.

I understand how you feel, Dave. It's alright, you're not a coward.

Hey Dave.
Ive been enjoying your videos, especially the international family series
Thank you for being honest with us with your fears and I think that is a very brave feat to perform.
Not many people can come honest with their fears you see.
You know, I have been visiting psychological clinic located in Sinsa-dong which also happens to have a specialized program on flight phobia.
They also have a literally a replicated set of the flight cabin dedicated to therapheutic purposes.
If you are interested in overcoming your fear by clinical means, I recommend Yonsei-feel neuropsychology clinic located in Shinsa-dong Gangnam.
I hope you are well.

Thanks for sharing. It is never easy to face your fears but if you can you’ll get braver.
I once was on a flight in America landing into Dallas I believe and the weather was awful. The flight suffered from terrible turbulence and we dropped 500 feet in a few seconds. I looked at the attendants face and she was as white as a sheet but still trying to grin. I knew it was bad but we got through it.
Another time I was landing at London City Airport and it was really windy. The plane was about to touch down and then immediately it took off again. I was almost sick. The plane was a tiny two winged propelled one so much like being in a small car when it’s windy.
Anyhow, I look at my life now and think, if I’m going to die in a plane crash, then at least I haven’t been stopped by my fears. I hope you manage to visit the US and visit more of the world when you’re ready.
Again, thanks for sharing and being so honest.

어떻게 그런 일이....
데이브님 힘내세요
사랑해요♡

언젠가, 좋은 계기로 극복되길 바래요 데이브!

I’m scared of flying too, but I have to fly back alone once a year 😭

I never realized how scared some people actually are of flying

힘내라 데이브

데이브 힘내요 너무 불안해 하지 말구요..
놀이공원에가서 놀이기구 같은거 타보면 서서히 좋아지지 않을까요 ~~~^♡^

I totally agree with what you say about parents not showing their kids theirs fears or worries. My parents did that to me about our financial issues and now I'm constantly worrying about my own finances even when am in a total different situation. So yes, you can cause a trauma to your kids.
I'm also afraid of roaches but that's another story.

I have the same fear. I have bad panic attacks everytime....

공포라는 감정은 학습으로 갖게 된다는 말이 있죠... 힘내세요!

아니 머리카락이 그 💖자존감 높아지는 영상😄💕??분이랑 반대잔아,,,

When you mentioned how la bamba sealed the deal About you flying...
I’m the same way.😭

Dave: *+1 Fear*
We must protecc Dave from planes

정말 다행입니다요ㅠㅠ
hey jude

It may be out of topik but ... I LOVE YOU DAVE !!

저도 없던 공포증 생겼는데... 수술하고 나니까 폐소공포증이 생기더군요 저도 왜 생긴지 알아요 호스로 타고들어오는 차가운 용액이 심장으로 따라들어오는데 산소호흡기로 막혀있는 제한된 호흡 그리고 제 자신의 내부에만 쏠린 신경 마치 세상에서 제 신체에만 갖힌듯한 그 느낌... 그 이후로 좁은곳에 못가겠더군요...

Yes Sometimes Flying is Super Creepy, I Feel Anxious when Something Happen with the Plane!!! Maybe Turbulence System or Emergency State or Just Meet Tornado/Typhoon!!! I Just Want to Take Train or Another Vehicles 😨😨😨

구구절절 옳은 이야기네요
데이브님 같은 분들을 위해서 더 빠른 운송수단이 개발되면 좋겠네요
공포를 느끼는 시간이라도 줄일 수 있도록이요 화이팅

Thank you for sharing with us. ♡ You didn't have to and it must have taken a lot of courage to talk about it especially to such a wide audience. I wish things will get easier but I also know it's easier said than done. All I can do is provide you with comfort and warmth and hope you will be surrounded by them as you continue living. I hope one day, you'll get to visit your parents again. Sending over some warmth. ❤

thank u for answering it, it must be difficult when sometimes you miss your family and can't go there, because of your phobia/fear

I’m the same ): it is so hard for me to fly, even if it’s a short flight. I’ve personally just had bad experiences flying; flying through thunderstorms, plane malfunctions etc.
I took an hour flight back home from a vacation and I cried the entire time. It was awful. Unfortunately, I have to get on a plane again in a few months. I’m not looking forward to it 😞

so excited to watch your vid!

데이브 ㅠㅠ 많이힘들었겠어요 어렸을때부터 그런 트라우마가 있으면 어른이되서도 극복하기 힘들죠 ㅠㅠ

아근데 진짜 공감해요 ㅎ 저도 엄마가 개를 엄청 싫어하시고 무서워하셔서 저도 아무리 작은 개라도 무섭더라고요 진짜 공황장애온거처럼 ...

But to get to Korea, you had to fly right?
And what about your visa?

데이브님 위해서 기도할게요. ㅜㅜ맘이 아프네요.

데이브! 이렇게 무서운 경험을 했었는지 몰랐어요! 정말 용기내서 한국왔었군요 😭

Question, how did you overcome your fear when you flew to Korea for the first time?

So how’d you pluck up the courage to come to korea? What was your motivation back then? I’m just really curious 😅

Thanks for the explanation, Dave, that totally makes sense. I, too, remember La Bamba. I'm Japanese-American, but I distinctly recall how Ritchie Valens' and Roberto Clemente's deaths deeply affected the Hispanic community, who comprised the majority of my neighbors growing up in L.A. Great insight into your life. As always, 고마워!

Thank you for sharing 😊 and as long as you’re happy Dave!! 😁

I can relate I have an anxiety of going on buses and trains and it’s literally affecting my life. Firstly my mum always asked me why I don’t go out a lot and secondly I have to find a job near my house because I don’t want to be a burden to them.
I also agree about parents transferring their fear to their children. I don’t necessary call this a fear but my mum doesn’t like going to sandy beach specially with children as they can get really messy and it is really hard to clean them off. Therefore I like going to beach but I hate having sand stick on my skin so after I come out of the water I have to dry myself completely before touching the sand (except for my feet because they are fine they are really easy to get off)

Seeing how many planes have crashed in recent years, I'm not only afraid of flying..but of planes flying overhead..cuz I'm afraid they will fall and I'll get killed too ..

You can face your fears, Dave! I'm a first timer and I instantly fell in love in your channel, all love from 🇵🇭 :3

두살된 아기 키우고 있는데 하나 배우고 갑니다 ㅎㅎ 무서워도 안무서운척 해야겠어요 ;; 데이브님도 힘내세요!!