hi! I love the tips you give, they're all so helpfulโค๏ธ I was wondering if you could make a video where you're the person taking the interview and we have to sort of guess how to reply, and in the end you share what the appropriate reply was. this would make understanding and remembering your tips even easier.
Always take the water. If they ask you a question and you need a few seconds to think, take a sip. This keeps the flow natural and buys you precious seconds!!
RELAX you've got experience in spades, and if you've kept yourself current, take a deep breath. Exuding confidence is a learned skill so practice that. You got this.
The hiring world has shifted fully online since you were last looking for jobs - it was definitely online 15 years ago, but now it's a lot more! If you're in the corporate world, you almost certainly need a linkedin profile. No matter what you see other people doing, do not treat it like facebook - treat it like a digital resume but with 15% more personality. This is also where all the job postings are for professional/white collar work. Speaking of resumes: at large companies, and some small/medium ones too, resumes get fed through a machine. Do not use any fancy formatting, tables, columns, etc. - the software can't read it. Instead, use straightforward titles/headings with bullet points underneath. You can still make it look nice and tidy with proper indenting and a nice font, but keep it simple. I haven't tried it out, but I wouldn't be surprised if using the accessibility checker in MS word helps, some that should point out areas where a screen reader might struggle. Also, work in key words from the job posting wherever you can, as long as it still sounds relatively natural, because that makes it more likely to get to the stage where a human looks at it. And make sure to export the word doc of your resume to a PDF - a PDF looks more polished and ensures that the formatting isn't getting messed up and hard to read if an when a real person looks at it! (Edit: if you aren't aware, it needs to be exported as a PDF. If you print your resume and then scan it, it will treat everything as an image instead of text, and again, the machines don't like that)
i'm in nearly the opposite boat, 23 year old mom who's been on mat leave for 2 years and got (illegally) laid off during that time. best luck to you! the job market's gotten wild and things have changed quite a bit even in 15 years โค
As an almost 60-year-old, i think many of these tips aeem normal and natural to me. Review is always good, though. The commenter who talked about how to format your resume is spot on. That lovely line which seperated my contact info from the body of the resume was probably read by the machine as a page break splitting my contact info away from my experience. Learn the new jargon. It feels a little silly having to use new terminology when we might feel the previous versions were just fine but has to be done. Uaing a head hunter or a temp agency can be helpful to cut through some of the age discrimination .. it is a real thing. Good luck and I hope you land in an excellent place.
Be courteous and donโt assume anything. I had a boss who had a flat tire on the way to work. He arrived 45 minutes late, dirty and sweating. I was the only one to stay. His first question was why I stayed? I told him everyone is late at some time and I wanted to work for the company. I got the job and started a new career.
Had that happen to me when I was interviewing for a job while pregnant. I was miserable but still chose not to glance at my phone. I just stared at the wall clock. I arrived 15 min early and the boss was 45 min late. I was sitting for an hour uncomfortable just twiddling my thumbs. The boss apologized and I got the job. I was very angry and frustrated, but I did not let it show. I was very kind and forgiving. I needed the job now that I was expecting a baby.
Yep! I'm autistic and my boyfriend has AuDHD. I work in academia and he works in healthcare, which both have their fair share of neurodivergent indidividuals, but I digress. We still have to practice and role-play professional interactions so that they begin to feel more "natural." Channels like this have been a big help.
Scandinavian recommendation: definitely take the coffee if you're in Sweden. Well you don't HAVE to but it's very polite and you're considered friendly.
I remember my first job interview after college. We introduced ourselves, she showed me into her office, we sat down, and she said โOk, I have 3-11 or 11-7. Which shift do you want?โ The end.
Two of the hardest shifts to keep adequately staffedโฆ depending on industry of course. But generally if thats what they got/ all applicants are hired. Unless they present badly. Sometimes they make you feel special like you hit all the marks and that they like youโฆ but itโs usually buttering you up before making the choice between two evils. As a young adult I worked many second and third shifts and watched the high turnovers vs their first shift. First shifters were actually reserved for people who worked night shift long enough or someone with kids who cannot work nights. Iโve had hiring managers say that even though I applied to first they have third at this time as they just crossed someone over as she is having a kid. And can no longer work nights as daycare is only open daily. TMI for nome but I understood. It seems doable until itโs not. Working 5 days overnight is extremely hard on your mind and body and family life. If you donโt have much of that then it makes it a tad easier.
Honestly as an employer I can usually tell by how a person is dressed and how they are in the first minute if they will be a good fit or not. I do still talk to them more but I have yet to be wrong.
@@tatiana4050 I do interview everyone well and ask them questions. I give everyone a chance and have hired people before who didn't make a great impression in the first few minutes but who I talked to and liked based off of the conversation but everyone who hasn't made a good impression on me right away ended up being unreliable, as in being hours late some days (not people with kids just overslept, and I don't fire people because they're late once in a while it was just a constant thing), didn't finish their work on time like days or weeks late when given a reasonable schedule. I have done every single job I ask people to do for me and roughly assess how long it takes me and then take that time and multiply it by 1.5 and that's the time frame I ask from people and even if they're a few days late I don't say anything but when it's two weeks late that's too much for producing a 30 second video, then there were people who constantly took super long breaks when we had material to get out. Like a 20 minute break every 30-40 minutes is a lot if you're on set trying to get content out and you're only shooting for 3 hours. Okay go to the bathroom or have a cigarette but then don't be gone that long constantly. And for the record I feed people on the shoots and do allow them breaks but there is a point where it's just too much. When we do longer shoots of course there are more breaks but in a 3 hours time window 30 minutes needs to be enough of a break. Also had people steal small amounts of money etc. The ones who made a good impression were always the ones who were on time, not late very often etc.
Just don't put yourself down. Don't make it worse by saying "I'm often clumsy" - I actually am but they can find that out later ๐ . If you need to say something say that you were nervous because you were looking forward to meeting them/ are excited. Ask for a tissue or waste bin if you have one on you and then move on.
I once spilled a whole water pitcher because it was a bit far across the table (no one was sitting closer than me) and it slipped from my grasp. Miraculously I still got that job.
If you have time before the interview, ask to use the bathroom. It gives you a glimpse to see how things are without the boss adding a chilling effect/ people are themselves without the boss around. I use the bathroom break mostly to calm down and mentally prepare for the interview but also look around. Is it clean, well stocked, and no broken tiles, or holes in the ceiling? Or anything that could be taken as neglect? A broken stall lock gets a benefit of the doubt.
i hate when (its always men) squeeze so hard, like ok you're a guy, you're physically stronger but you don't have to crush my hand to prove that, i instantly go limp and give a bad handshake when that happens because its usually painful and i'm like, gtf off of my hand lol, like it's not a competition it's just a hand shake...
When men death grip my hand, I look them dead in the eye and pretend like I don't feel anything. They always bring it up, so I know it's intentional, I just don't know why they do it!
I'm assuming this was meant if it was like a one on one situation. If there see 5 people at the table, definitely not. If you say down at a coffee shop or something with one person, maybe
i think it's like... you're supposed to offer to be polite, even if it would actually not make sense? like she said, they will say "no, we got it" because it isn't a _real_ offer, it's a script. idk allistic people can be weird
Thank you for doing this service honestly. Everyone could use it but especially those from families who didn't have professional opportunities or those who find delicate social interactions challenging โฅ๏ธ
Yeah, this sort of thing get overlooked/not talked about when it comes to talking about class divide and how middle to high classes have an advantage over those from lower middle and lower classes. So many private schools, drill these sort of manners into the kids. Where I grew up, everyone that went to private school (and a very small few people from public) actually had to go to what's basically manners school where we were taught how to behave in pretty much every single social situation and were tested on it. These skills carry over into adulthood and give a huge leg up compared to those that never got those opportunities and have to learn as an adult.
The not looking at your phone is huge! I was also told this from my teaching program! I was told to either sit in the chair and look around (they may ask you about the school and hit you noticed and you can point out something you saw in the lobby).
No way Iโm offering to pay. Thatโs insane. Do you expect me to offer to pay for my flight and hotel too? Theyโre interviewing me, the relationship is clear. They pay for my time. If they want me to even make a mock attempt to pay then they donโt respect the relationship and I donโt want to work with them.
I have a virtual interview with an organization I've been with for 6 years. Supervisor is retiring and she's been training me for the position. I have all the skills but I've been made aware our boss isn't sure about me as a supervisor. It's a dream library role. I'll be devastated if I don't get it.
Your boss might not want to lose you. Don't take it personally, but if asked, you could drop a "my boss will certainly miss me, but I'm sure she'll be supportive if moved into my dream role" if you plant the seed that the boss has their own agenda, that might help negate any negative messaging from your boss who has her own agenda.
If it's a supervisory role, hopefully you've had some experience supervising people, even if just temporarily. If not you might want to ask your current boss who's training you up how much supervisory experience they had before being moved into their current position.
Thank you so much for doing all this! Iโve been in business 30 years. This is the most categorically comprehensive career advice Iโve seen so far. Basic business etiquette is learned, so TY for those posts. Could you pls discuss a few things that Iโve heard hiring managers complain about? Lack of eye contact, vocal fry, verbal fillers (esp. โlikeโ), & speaking like still in college. Studying how national news broadcasters present is a good start. This is all so helpful! TYVM!
I mean, what are you supposed to do if you naturally talk with vocal fry or making eye contact is painful for you? Why do people get upset over those things? What?
Oh, yes! Really nice edition to add in "in America" too! I find that some of these tips (despite being very helpful overall) wouldn't give a great impression about me if I used them in the country where I grew up. ๐ Edit: Adding on a more specific example. I'm not sure if this tip came from your channel or from someone else, but it was regarding what to say to give a good impression during a phone interview. The (American) creator gave the tip to not open with a simple "hello, how are you?", and that that would just make you seem boring. But to instead open with how good you are doing because of your amazing breakfast or energizing morning workout, and to then continue to ask the interviewer what their favourite breakfast food is. Idk about how it is in other countries, but interviewers would absolutely hate you if you did that where I'm from.
Nah, as an American, that would be a weird intro. It might work for some people, but that would throw a lot of people off, especially older people who are likely to be doing interviews. Not all advice is good lol
This would also be weird in America, haha. Everyone likes to pretend that we should do away with our routine greetings that seem to follow a script so that you can get to the "real stuff" but these bits do serve a social function. There's even a term for them in linguistics - phatic expressions. Also, asking a stranger about their breakfast habits is kinda weird and slightly too personal for an interview, except maybe if you were interviewing for a position at a company in the business of making breakfast food
โ@@impostor6982The reason to choose water over coffee is simply because if you spill a drop the water will evaporate while coffee might show on your clothes.
Oh my goodness, you nailed this. As a hiring manager, I can say that I have more than half decided whether or not Iโm going to hire based on how this first interaction goes.
Re: the handshake. I don't know about USA but in my country and generally I know in many others too the big VERY IMPORTANT rule that will make people form an opinion on you is: the person in higher position, in terms of power, older etc has to offer. So in a job interview NEVER extend your hand, wait for a handshake to be offered and then return it.
I knew an older gentleman and every single time without a doubt. If you went shake his hand while sitting down, he would stand up first. Every. single. Time.
Yeah itโs etiquette I think. Like how in Japan if someone above you in authority walks in you have to stand up. I think it shows respect by saying they are worth the effort to stand up for. Or itโs an โat attentionโ thing.
Yeah, it generally polite. If you visit or live in the South, you'll see it all the time. It's very ingrained in a lot of Southern people so we do it without even thinking about it.
You MUST accept the coffee so that you can determine if YOU want to work there. If they have BAD coffee, then walk out right then.๐ if they have one of those fancy coffee machines with 20 flavor choices, then it shows that they care about their employees.
If they force you to drink Coffee โ๏ธ maybe you should pass on them, or bring your own drink. My stomach doesn't care for Coffee (it gets queasy). The last place had a normal coffee maker... then switched out to one of those individual pod types. Sure, the first-floor people now didn't have an inexpensive choice for coffee. (You had to purchase your own coffee pods ๐ ) If you can handle coffee, then it might be ok to test their Cup o' Joe.
This is good advice lol. In Sweden we have a coffee culture as well and you'd definitely benefit from establishing that you're a part of that culture as early as possible
I taught at a French high school before and they had this coffee vending machine in the teacher's lounge that is the sweetest coffee you'll ever taste, and it has 20ish options that taste exactly the same. I don't think any of my colleagues will call that good coffee. Doesn't prevent them from lining up there during break though, and socializing over who needs to lend whom some coins to get their cup of bad coffee with.
I once had an interview where my interviewer and later on boss revealed to me at some point that she asks people whether she can bring them anything to drink to see if somebody is assertive or doesnโt wanna make waves or inconvenience anyone. I asked for a glass of water, but according to her reasoning coffee would have been fine, too. I wonder: what if I hadnโt been thirsty? ๐
It absolutely is! Social events are the bane of my existence. Last winter, I attended a scholarship reception where I was the guest of honor. Of course, I appreciated the donors' accolades and I am thankful for their support, but I had to sit in a quiet room with my sensory-safe clothing for hours afterwards. I'm just so out of my element!
@@Lumosnight It's never all-encompassing. A lot of things people expect you to just figure out, or there are things that vary according to the situation and neurodivergent people have trouble understanding why a certain behavior or topic is okay for a certain setting but not for others, and what exactly makes the difference. And we're not wired to pick these things up naturally. We need to be told very explicitly which behaviors and topics are appropriate for x, y, and z situations, and then we commit it to memory and hope that nothing changes on the fly.
I can sit and do nothing when I'm dead. Until then, my ADHD will scream loudly in pain is I try any such thing. If you are like me, try bringing a professional-looking task. I'm usually reviewing the notebook where I write the questions I have for the interviewer, and write any last-minute additions I might have. I might also bring a book to read or some crochet, both of which show personality and can help break the ice and connect with the interviewer, although it probably doesn't make that big of a difference.
erin: "ALWAYS shake hands standing up" my ass in a wheelchair: ๐ edit: this is 100% a joke, advice in the replies is not needed although appreciated
@@nottheone582Same! After 15 minutes maximum I will ask if they know what the hold up is, but itโs already a red flag if they do not themselves mention anything after 7ish minutes. I once had someone tell me in an interview that he, as the boss, is allowed to make people wait but he expects all employees to always be on time for meetings and appointments. I didnโt say it out loud but was thinking no way do I want to work for him (there were other red flags too) if he thinks his time is more important than anyone elseโs.
No way you sat there for 5 hours, thatโs next level patience, Iโm sitting for 1 hour, asking the receptionist or anybody if Iโll be attended to and if I wait another hour then im leaving
THANK YOU!! iโm currently in a future career class and one of the assignments was a mock interview. these videos definitely helped me get a good grade and theyโre so helpful!!
No. When hospitality is offered, it includes a refreshment of some kind offered without condition. Offering to clean up will make you look servile and unaccustomed to accepting basic hospitality. Just say โthank you very much for the coffee, that was kind of you.โ
@@calarch78 My boss didn't see it that way, and I'd find it quite disrespectful is someone just left their dirty cup around the office, but thanks for giving your input too! Im sure there are bosses who may see it that way, so I guess it's just best to judge it in the moment
We love you sharing the make or breaking dos or don't of having a successful interview experience of a job interview!! You are a God send of secret job interview protocol!! I'm your biggest fan!! Thank you, thank you going forward for the New Yearโคโคโค
As a boomer (yes, I'm old, LOL) I'm always a little taken aback by people's casual use of first names in a business setting, especially when they're first meeting. If I'm going into an interview with Katie Smith, I'll stand up, shake hands, and say, "Hi, Ms Smith, it's nice to meet you." It's respectful, and also shows that I know her full name -- I paid attention to the name in the letter or phone call inviting me in for the interview. Almost invariably, she will smile and say, "Oh, call me Katie, please!" and of course from that point on, I will. I might also say with a chuckle, "And I'm Lori. Had to get the formalities out of the way!" It almost always breaks the tension a bit, makes me a little more comfortable, and hopefully helps the interviewer see me as someone with a bit of a sense of humor as well as respect for their position in the company.
Sure, do that if you want, it wonโt come off as weird at all at your age but no one else actually uses that level of formality and if younger people did in an interview it might rub people the wrong way, they want to see your โrealโ personality, youโre not gonna show them your real personality but you need to show them one that looks real and if youโre not a boomer or a child talking to a teacher Mrs. Smith doesnโt even look real
@@blackroserevolution3989 Yeah, I know. My daughter calls her college professors by their first names, which blows my mind -- I can't imagine referring to, much less addressing, one of my profs by their first name!
Sometimes colleges have like a single lecture or 2 about how to apply and some stuff about your CV. At least mine did. You know a prepare for internships class. It wasn't fully fully mandatory I believe, but was advised. You could even once send in your cv and mock motivation letter and get feedback from a specific company
Thanks for saying โin Americaโ with the handshake thing. I know so many channels that just talk to their American viewers like they are the only people that matter when things actually differ in many countries.
Fantastic advice Erin! This is the kind of stuff that having interviewed over 100 candidates does make a difference in their perception even if it's just to get started and ended on the right foot.
Interviews are really easy with your tips. I hope more people will take your advice. Unfortunately some young people are not aware of how to be respectful and confident. Calling the WOMAN interviewing you โbroโ guarantees you wonโt be getting a call back.
Just fyi, after the whole COVID thing, some places donโt like to shake hands. Found out the hard way. Itโs better to ask if you can shake their hand.
There is so much to remember! I'm almost done with my education degree and will be interviewing soon. I am terrible at interviews, so I have been practicing a lot.
You should also arrive 30 minutes before the interview and sit in the lobby. This allows your brain to calm down that you are in an unfamiliar place. It helps you project more confidence than someone who is late.
I dunno, I feel most confident as Iโm walking into a new place. If I sit on a couch in the lobby for half an hour, Iโll get very in my head and start getting anxiety. Especially if itโs very quiet and no people around me.
Too early. Do not arrive more than 10 mins. Walk around the block or wait in a cafe nearby. Esp in smaller firms the person you're interviewing with may feel pressured to attend to you early if they don't have a receptionist . This could immediately create a bad impression
@@nottheone582 I was thinking about a large company like AT&T where they have a main lobby that you can wait in until you go up to the office that you need to be at. 10 minutes is good but just don't be late because that gives a negative impression.
Hey Erin, been loving the content! I'm a final year university student and have been applying for graduate programs. I'm about to have my fourth final interview (four different programs) but still haven't heard back from any of the companies yet, what should I do?
My last interview I didn't initiate the handshake, (neither did they) and I was questioning the whole time, come to find out both people doing my interview (as well as myself) had been getting over being sick! They looked at it as being courteous
Erin, I love your videos! It would be nice, when you have multi-part videos, if you would either link them in the description or pinned post, or at least keep the description consistent so people can find them easily. Yes, I saw several other interesting videos of yours in the process of digging for this one, but I didn't appreciate having to dig.
If a person asks you out & says, "My Treat" Then you still offer to pay at end of it, RUDE! Otherwise, offering to pay is standard of respect, independence & equality. This is about a job interview: so, offering to pay shows self-management skills; (do not offer to pay if you cannot cover it) A trained HR manager that suggests a restaurant meeting pays: or, it shows the company is in trouble & not good about respecting your time, IMO. (Foreshadowing of expecting you to do more for less.) Whether you are offered a job, or not, a good company respects your time is valuable.
Thank you so much for your reply! But with the thing about not offering if it's a treat - I've always been told it's the expectation the company will say so it's rude to offer to pay them? Especially if there's more than just you and the interviewer. And there's so many rules about what to eat! I'd love a whole video on lunch interviews actually!
It depends on the exact situation. If they havenโt told you that theyโll be covering it, itโs nice to offer to at least pay for yourself. If they told you that it would be on the company, you probably shouldnโt offer or itโll look like you werenโt listening. Might also be culture dependent
companies usually have some awards, achievements or historical highlights on display in the lobby. When waiting before the interview, itโs no harm to have a look at these. might come in handy when they ask if you have any questions at the end and shows enthusiasm.
None of that applies for technical positions, from my experience. I've interviewed engineers, and while we do want to hire a person who is nice to work with, their technical experience and knowledge are the decisive factor in selecting a candidate. (not any of the stuff mentioned in this video)
What would you do if at #3 the interviewer did let you pay? It obviously shows that the company isn't a good environment, but it'd be hard to get out of paying once you've already offered
If you are attending a job interview over lunch, offering to pay is unnecessary. And therefore, no need to open yourself to potential awkwardness. In business, when a company rep takes their client to lunch, the client never offers to pay. And a company rep interviewing a potential employee is a very similar situation. Edit: But expressing sincere appreciation to the interviewer at the end for paying for the meal is 100% important.
Pro tip: Wheelchair user should not stay stationary when greating, that is our "greeting whilst sitting" Insted you should turn do a small adjustment in you seat and then move 1/2 -1/4 of a wheel forward. It gives the same fealing of being alert and looking forward to this meeting as standing up dose. ๐
I always leave a thank you note after a day or two just like thanks for taking the time to interview me, Iโm really excited to hear back, etc. My current boss has mine on the desk in his office still ๐ said nobody ever did that for him before
Always better to look around. If they are making you wait 20 minutes, the book might be okay. After they say, "it will be 20 more minutes". However the chance to observe is invaluable.
An interview tip I got from a video long back about the handshake was to only shake hands if the table between you and the interviewer is short. Don't go around the table to greet them unless they stand up and step to the side. If the table is so long that you'll need to bend to shake their hands then don't do it as that doesn't look good. And it also could mean that the interviewer prefers space and less physical contact so it's best to just greet verbally. Basically, don't shake hands if you have to bend or stretch more than necessary. I'm yet to have my first interview so I don't know how relevant this is but they do sound like very good points to me
Since the pandemic, a lot of companies have moved away from handshakes, especially in something as common as an interview. I myself will not shake hands with someone I am interviewing, even if it may seem awkward for a split second. I do multiple interviews every week and often am meeting this person for the first time. It's just an unnecessary risk for an outdated practice imo.
I literally just had an interview today and already watching some of the previous videos about an interview i actually aced it! I did exactly what she said in this video ! Thank you for giving me the confidence to know I got this!
(My sister told me about this story )One time, her interviewer offered her some water and it overflowed a bit, the interviewer said, โoh! Looks like your water overflowed a bit!โ And my sister said โNo, I just always give 110%โ๐
Iโm not coming at Erin at all, but coming at the bs people that expect these mind games. All of this for a job is ridiculous. All these hidden meanings of things to do. All of this is too much to be aware of and not have anxiety about.
This is all basic stuff. None of this is โmind gamesโ. Sheโs doing people a great service by making them aware if they havenโt been exposed to them before.
โ@@kimthomson132what do you call basic about having to take water (likely lukewarm and non carbonated = instant gag for quite a large portion of people) than coffee?
Itโs more difficult to un-breath airborne virus (such as covid) than to wash your hands so if youโre already in the room with them without respirators acting as if covid is over you might as well shake their hand. (And with a respirator you wonโt accidentally put your newly shaken hand into your mouth so itโs easier to remember to wash it so go ahead and shake their hand) ๐๐๐
@@johnp139 Thank you, yes exactly. I just don't want to touch people anymore. I'm out of the habit and don't want to do it. I don't care about when I'm going to sanitize, that's not the worry. I just no longer think that I should HAVE to shake hands. I don't want to touch these people. So how do I gracefully navigate that?
Even outside of this scenario (great advice BTW!) saying someone's name when meeting them for the first time really helps you remember it for the future.
Not going on the phone might be difficult for people with anxiety/attention disorders. And a lot of people would prefer not to shake hands for personal/religious reasons, if a company is funny about that, you donโt wanna work there
Why canโt you shake someoneโs hand while you are sitting down? Itโs so awkward, and not your fault, when they extend their hand to you while you are sitting down. At point, it almost seems rude to keep them waiting, while you gather your purse and everything to stand up.
โ@@mokshitaagrawal7050 unfortunately, some folks need a purse or bag wherever they may go. It could be carrying critical items such as medication that could be needed at a moments notice.
Another tip is to be prepared and have notes to take and print at least 2 copies of your resume even if you emailed it to them just in case they want a physical copy and so if they do,you at least have your own copy for you
I didn't realize that the video was inverted until you explained the American custom of shaking with the right hand. Indeed, it looked very strange at first, and I wondered if you were left-handed! Crazy how these little bits of culture and etiquette become "normal" without us even realizing.
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hi! I love the tips you give, they're all so helpfulโค๏ธ I was wondering if you could make a video where you're the person taking the interview and we have to sort of guess how to reply, and in the end you share what the appropriate reply was. this would make understanding and remembering your tips even easier.
What advice can you suggest for those of us who need something in our hands to fidget with?
what if you cant handshake due to religious reasons could you explain how to tell them that
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Always take the water. If they ask you a question and you need a few seconds to think, take a sip. This keeps the flow natural and buys you precious seconds!!
This def works but only if your hand isnโt shaking lol. Iโm someone who shakes from nerves
โ@@Rae777 this can work in your favour! oftentimes the water is cold or cool, which helps stimulate your nerves to calm them down ๐
why not the coffee tho, it's as sipable as water if not more
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Part three please. As a 60 year old who was just laid off from a company I have worked at for 15+ years I need all the tips I can get. ๐
RELAX you've got experience in spades, and if you've kept yourself current, take a deep breath. Exuding confidence is a learned skill so practice that. You got this.
The hiring world has shifted fully online since you were last looking for jobs - it was definitely online 15 years ago, but now it's a lot more! If you're in the corporate world, you almost certainly need a linkedin profile. No matter what you see other people doing, do not treat it like facebook - treat it like a digital resume but with 15% more personality. This is also where all the job postings are for professional/white collar work.
Speaking of resumes: at large companies, and some small/medium ones too, resumes get fed through a machine. Do not use any fancy formatting, tables, columns, etc. - the software can't read it. Instead, use straightforward titles/headings with bullet points underneath. You can still make it look nice and tidy with proper indenting and a nice font, but keep it simple. I haven't tried it out, but I wouldn't be surprised if using the accessibility checker in MS word helps, some that should point out areas where a screen reader might struggle. Also, work in key words from the job posting wherever you can, as long as it still sounds relatively natural, because that makes it more likely to get to the stage where a human looks at it. And make sure to export the word doc of your resume to a PDF - a PDF looks more polished and ensures that the formatting isn't getting messed up and hard to read if an when a real person looks at it! (Edit: if you aren't aware, it needs to be exported as a PDF. If you print your resume and then scan it, it will treat everything as an image instead of text, and again, the machines don't like that)
i'm in nearly the opposite boat, 23 year old mom who's been on mat leave for 2 years and got (illegally) laid off during that time. best luck to you! the job market's gotten wild and things have changed quite a bit even in 15 years โค
@@haldouglas4773 best of luck to you too!
As an almost 60-year-old, i think many of these tips aeem normal and natural to me. Review is always good, though.
The commenter who talked about how to format your resume is spot on. That lovely line which seperated my contact info from the body of the resume was probably read by the machine as a page break splitting my contact info away from my experience.
Learn the new jargon. It feels a little silly having to use new terminology when we might feel the previous versions were just fine but has to be done.
Uaing a head hunter or a temp agency can be helpful to cut through some of the age discrimination .. it is a real thing.
Good luck and I hope you land in an excellent place.
The no phone rule is really great... until your interviewer is 40 minutes late ๐ call that a neutral choice
Then you go home
Unless you really want the job, leave after 30 min. They are disrespecting your time and will continue to do so.
Thats a red flag for the company tho. You're interviewing the company as much as they're interviewing you!
Be courteous and donโt assume anything. I had a boss who had a flat tire on the way to work. He arrived 45 minutes late, dirty and sweating. I was the only one to stay. His first question was why I stayed? I told him everyone is late at some time and I wanted to work for the company. I got the job and started a new career.
Had that happen to me when I was interviewing for a job while pregnant. I was miserable but still chose not to glance at my phone. I just stared at the wall clock. I arrived 15 min early and the boss was 45 min late. I was sitting for an hour uncomfortable just twiddling my thumbs. The boss apologized and I got the job. I was very angry and frustrated, but I did not let it show. I was very kind and forgiving. I needed the job now that I was expecting a baby.
I'm autistic and this channel is so helpful for more than just job interviews! Thank you!
Yes!
Iโm with you!
Yep! I'm autistic and my boyfriend has AuDHD. I work in academia and he works in healthcare, which both have their fair share of neurodivergent indidividuals, but I digress. We still have to practice and role-play professional interactions so that they begin to feel more "natural." Channels like this have been a big help.
Me too!!
oh thank goodness I'm not the only one here for social understandings lol
Scandinavian recommendation: definitely take the coffee if you're in Sweden. Well you don't HAVE to but it's very polite and you're considered friendly.
Indeed! "Who doesnt drink cooffee?"
bruh coffee gives me constipation
โ@@alexiswhitfield1796then ask for tea. Or water.
@@dutchik5107 nah imma just sit in yt comments and complain abt coffee
โ@@kezzmexx2476 There are religions and diets that avoid caffeine/ drugs of any sort.
I remember my first job interview after college. We introduced ourselves, she showed me into her office, we sat down, and she said โOk, I have 3-11 or 11-7. Which shift do you want?โ The end.
Two of the hardest shifts to keep adequately staffedโฆ depending on industry of course. But generally if thats what they got/ all applicants are hired. Unless they present badly. Sometimes they make you feel special like you hit all the marks and that they like youโฆ but itโs usually buttering you up before making the choice between two evils. As a young adult I worked many second and third shifts and watched the high turnovers vs their first shift. First shifters were actually reserved for people who worked night shift long enough or someone with kids who cannot work nights. Iโve had hiring managers say that even though I applied to first they have third at this time as they just crossed someone over as she is having a kid. And can no longer work nights as daycare is only open daily. TMI for nome but I understood. It seems doable until itโs not. Working 5 days overnight is extremely hard on your mind and body and family life. If you donโt have much of that then it makes it a tad easier.
Honestly as an employer I can usually tell by how a person is dressed and how they are in the first minute if they will be a good fit or not. I do still talk to them more but I have yet to be wrong.
โ@@belladaylight2132 but you wouldn't know if you rejected people who would have been a better fit.
This is a horribly horribly bad practice.
@@tatiana4050 I do interview everyone well and ask them questions. I give everyone a chance and have hired people before who didn't make a great impression in the first few minutes but who I talked to and liked based off of the conversation but everyone who hasn't made a good impression on me right away ended up being unreliable, as in being hours late some days (not people with kids just overslept, and I don't fire people because they're late once in a while it was just a constant thing), didn't finish their work on time like days or weeks late when given a reasonable schedule. I have done every single job I ask people to do for me and roughly assess how long it takes me and then take that time and multiply it by 1.5 and that's the time frame I ask from people and even if they're a few days late I don't say anything but when it's two weeks late that's too much for producing a 30 second video, then there were people who constantly took super long breaks when we had material to get out. Like a 20 minute break every 30-40 minutes is a lot if you're on set trying to get content out and you're only shooting for 3 hours. Okay go to the bathroom or have a cigarette but then don't be gone that long constantly. And for the record I feed people on the shoots and do allow them breaks but there is a point where it's just too much. When we do longer shoots of course there are more breaks but in a 3 hours time window 30 minutes needs to be enough of a break. Also had people steal small amounts of money etc. The ones who made a good impression were always the ones who were on time, not late very often etc.
Those are some shit hours
It would be great to have a version for remote interviews on zoom! I'm super awkward initially and don't know what the etiquette is!
I spilled my water standing up to shake hands
Oof
Just laugh about it. Weird things happen and it's not really a big deal in the end
Just don't put yourself down. Don't make it worse by saying "I'm often clumsy" - I actually am but they can find that out later ๐ . If you need to say something say that you were nervous because you were looking forward to meeting them/ are excited. Ask for a tissue or waste bin if you have one on you and then move on.
I once spilled a whole water pitcher because it was a bit far across the table (no one was sitting closer than me) and it slipped from my grasp. Miraculously I still got that job.
Theyโll remember you!
"we're gonna use the right hand"
**uses left hand** ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
that's the right hand, its just flipped cus of the camera.
@@13hauntedswiftielivie no its the left!
If you have time before the interview, ask to use the bathroom. It gives you a glimpse to see how things are without the boss adding a chilling effect/ people are themselves without the boss around.
I use the bathroom break mostly to calm down and mentally prepare for the interview but also look around. Is it clean, well stocked, and no broken tiles, or holes in the ceiling? Or anything that could be taken as neglect? A broken stall lock gets a benefit of the doubt.
I like this one
โShake their hand firmlyโ does NOT mean try to squeeze or break their hand!! Just a good solid handshake
i hate when (its always men) squeeze so hard, like ok you're a guy, you're physically stronger but you don't have to crush my hand to prove that, i instantly go limp and give a bad handshake when that happens because its usually painful and i'm like, gtf off of my hand lol, like it's not a competition it's just a hand shake...
@@WomanRoaringmen are usually taught firm handshake with other men, softer handshake with women. At least thatโs how I was taught.
Or a limp fish
When men death grip my hand, I look them dead in the eye and pretend like I don't feel anything. They always bring it up, so I know it's intentional, I just don't know why they do it!
Very accurate, in particular that point about not using your phone while waiting.
@@notsoinsaneguy I mean, I hear that. It may seem obvious to some. Still, it's better to mention it.
Offering to pay the whole bill for company reps is almost laughable.
I'm assuming this was meant if it was like a one on one situation. If there see 5 people at the table, definitely not. If you say down at a coffee shop or something with one person, maybe
If they don't say they've got it ask to split the bill?
i think it's like... you're supposed to offer to be polite, even if it would actually not make sense? like she said, they will say "no, we got it" because it isn't a _real_ offer, it's a script.
idk allistic people can be weird
@@asterling4whatโs allistic?
@@alycran it's the term for people who aren't autistic
Thank you for doing this service honestly. Everyone could use it but especially those from families who didn't have professional opportunities or those who find delicate social interactions challenging โฅ๏ธ
Yeah, this sort of thing get overlooked/not talked about when it comes to talking about class divide and how middle to high classes have an advantage over those from lower middle and lower classes. So many private schools, drill these sort of manners into the kids. Where I grew up, everyone that went to private school (and a very small few people from public) actually had to go to what's basically manners school where we were taught how to behave in pretty much every single social situation and were tested on it. These skills carry over into adulthood and give a huge leg up compared to those that never got those opportunities and have to learn as an adult.
The not looking at your phone is huge! I was also told this from my teaching program! I was told to either sit in the chair and look around (they may ask you about the school and hit you noticed and you can point out something you saw in the lobby).
Bro if they invite me to an interview over lunch, theyโre paying. This isnโt a date.
She is saying just offer, they won't let you pay though..
No way Iโm offering to pay. Thatโs insane. Do you expect me to offer to pay for my flight and hotel too? Theyโre interviewing me, the relationship is clear. They pay for my time. If they want me to even make a mock attempt to pay then they donโt respect the relationship and I donโt want to work with them.
Do women carry a wallet in their back pocket too?
If I offered while unemployed and broke, I'd be sooo worried that would accept the offer. Lol
Not a thing wrong with that. But if you are looking for an edge in the interview, offer to pay. It gives strong โteam player vibesโ.
I have a virtual interview with an organization I've been with for 6 years. Supervisor is retiring and she's been training me for the position. I have all the skills but I've been made aware our boss isn't sure about me as a supervisor. It's a dream library role. I'll be devastated if I don't get it.
Your boss might not want to lose you. Don't take it personally, but if asked, you could drop a "my boss will certainly miss me, but I'm sure she'll be supportive if moved into my dream role" if you plant the seed that the boss has their own agenda, that might help negate any negative messaging from your boss who has her own agenda.
If it's a supervisory role, hopefully you've had some experience supervising people, even if just temporarily. If not you might want to ask your current boss who's training you up how much supervisory experience they had before being moved into their current position.
Did you get it?
Thank you so much for doing all this! Iโve been in business 30 years. This is the most categorically comprehensive career advice Iโve seen so far. Basic business etiquette is learned, so TY for those posts. Could you pls discuss a few things that Iโve heard hiring managers complain about? Lack of eye contact, vocal fry, verbal fillers (esp. โlikeโ), & speaking like still in college. Studying how national news broadcasters present is a good start. This is all so helpful! TYVM!
I mean, what are you supposed to do if you naturally talk with vocal fry or making eye contact is painful for you? Why do people get upset over those things? What?
Oh, yes! Really nice edition to add in "in America" too!
I find that some of these tips (despite being very helpful overall) wouldn't give a great impression about me if I used them in the country where I grew up. ๐
Edit: Adding on a more specific example. I'm not sure if this tip came from your channel or from someone else, but it was regarding what to say to give a good impression during a phone interview. The (American) creator gave the tip to not open with a simple "hello, how are you?", and that that would just make you seem boring. But to instead open with how good you are doing because of your amazing breakfast or energizing morning workout, and to then continue to ask the interviewer what their favourite breakfast food is. Idk about how it is in other countries, but interviewers would absolutely hate you if you did that where I'm from.
Nah, as an American, that would be a weird intro. It might work for some people, but that would throw a lot of people off, especially older people who are likely to be doing interviews. Not all advice is good lol
I'm my country anyone offers you either coffee, water or tea, you take either coffee or tea.
Usually coffee
Definitely Shouldn't refuse coffee
This would also be weird in America, haha. Everyone likes to pretend that we should do away with our routine greetings that seem to follow a script so that you can get to the "real stuff" but these bits do serve a social function. There's even a term for them in linguistics - phatic expressions.
Also, asking a stranger about their breakfast habits is kinda weird and slightly too personal for an interview, except maybe if you were interviewing for a position at a company in the business of making breakfast food
โ@@impostor6982The reason to choose water over coffee is simply because if you spill a drop the water will evaporate while coffee might show on your clothes.
Where are you from?
Oh my goodness, you nailed this. As a hiring manager, I can say that I have more than half decided whether or not Iโm going to hire based on how this first interaction goes.
And the award for Best Internet Big Sister issssss Erin! Congrats!
Re: the handshake. I don't know about USA but in my country and generally I know in many others too the big VERY IMPORTANT rule that will make people form an opinion on you is: the person in higher position, in terms of power, older etc has to offer. So in a job interview NEVER extend your hand, wait for a handshake to be offered and then return it.
In Ireland its generally accepted to have a normal/do small talk for the first 5-10 mins. Like ask how they are, family, where they are from etc
I knew an older gentleman and every single time without a doubt. If you went shake his hand while sitting down, he would stand up first. Every. single. Time.
Yeah itโs etiquette I think. Like how in Japan if someone above you in authority walks in you have to stand up. I think it shows respect by saying they are worth the effort to stand up for. Or itโs an โat attentionโ thing.
Yeah, it generally polite. If you visit or live in the South, you'll see it all the time. It's very ingrained in a lot of Southern people so we do it without even thinking about it.
Same here, def try to stand up to shake someone's hand if possible!
i think that's what i'd instinctively do too, shaking hands while sitting down feels weird
You give solid advice.
You give it quickly.
You're like my Internet Little Sister, whom I respect for her fresh view on corporate etiquette.๐
You MUST accept the coffee so that you can determine if YOU want to work there. If they have BAD coffee, then walk out right then.๐ if they have one of those fancy coffee machines with 20 flavor choices, then it shows that they care about their employees.
If they force you to drink Coffee โ๏ธ maybe you should pass on them, or bring your own drink. My stomach doesn't care for Coffee (it gets queasy). The last place had a normal coffee maker... then switched out to one of those individual pod types. Sure, the first-floor people now didn't have an inexpensive choice for coffee. (You had to purchase your own coffee pods ๐ )
If you can handle coffee, then it might be ok to test their Cup o' Joe.
This is good advice lol. In Sweden we have a coffee culture as well and you'd definitely benefit from establishing that you're a part of that culture as early as possible
Haha good point.
I taught at a French high school before and they had this coffee vending machine in the teacher's lounge that is the sweetest coffee you'll ever taste, and it has 20ish options that taste exactly the same. I don't think any of my colleagues will call that good coffee. Doesn't prevent them from lining up there during break though, and socializing over who needs to lend whom some coins to get their cup of bad coffee with.
I once had an interview where my interviewer and later on boss revealed to me at some point that she asks people whether she can bring them anything to drink to see if somebody is assertive or doesnโt wanna make waves or inconvenience anyone. I asked for a glass of water, but according to her reasoning coffee would have been fine, too. I wonder: what if I hadnโt been thirsty? ๐
Thanks for the advice. This all just feels like hell๐ญ, especially as a neurodivergent person.
It absolutely is! Social events are the bane of my existence. Last winter, I attended a scholarship reception where I was the guest of honor. Of course, I appreciated the donors' accolades and I am thankful for their support, but I had to sit in a quiet room with my sensory-safe clothing for hours afterwards. I'm just so out of my element!
Didnโt your parents teach you basic rules of etiquette?
@@Lumosnight What do you mean?
@@Lumosnight It's never all-encompassing. A lot of things people expect you to just figure out, or there are things that vary according to the situation and neurodivergent people have trouble understanding why a certain behavior or topic is okay for a certain setting but not for others, and what exactly makes the difference. And we're not wired to pick these things up naturally. We need to be told very explicitly which behaviors and topics are appropriate for x, y, and z situations, and then we commit it to memory and hope that nothing changes on the fly.
Too many rules. Why does any of this matter? How does any of this show I can perform job responsibilities? Shit is stupid af
I can sit and do nothing when I'm dead. Until then, my ADHD will scream loudly in pain is I try any such thing.
If you are like me, try bringing a professional-looking task. I'm usually reviewing the notebook where I write the questions I have for the interviewer, and write any last-minute additions I might have.
I might also bring a book to read or some crochet, both of which show personality and can help break the ice and connect with the interviewer, although it probably doesn't make that big of a difference.
erin: "ALWAYS shake hands standing up"
my ass in a wheelchair: ๐
edit: this is 100% a joke, advice in the replies is not needed although appreciated
STOP. ๐ญ๐ญ
Maybe sit up real tall?
Stand up for yourself bro
@@noerlol ive never heard that one before thats really creative
lean forward a bit as a sign of appreciation/respect as a normal person does standing up.
"Reach out with their right hand."
Proceeds to shake with left hand
Her phone is on selfie mode and the image is mirrored
I had an interview where they made me wait five hours, i'm damn looking at my phone
THAT COMPANY IS A RED FLAG
Don't take that job, the longest I will wait is 15 mins and then I'm leaving.
@@nottheone582Same! After 15 minutes maximum I will ask if they know what the hold up is, but itโs already a red flag if they do not themselves mention anything after 7ish minutes.
I once had someone tell me in an interview that he, as the boss, is allowed to make people wait but he expects all employees to always be on time for meetings and appointments. I didnโt say it out loud but was thinking no way do I want to work for him (there were other red flags too) if he thinks his time is more important than anyone elseโs.
No way you sat there for 5 hours, thatโs next level patience, Iโm sitting for 1 hour, asking the receptionist or anybody if Iโll be attended to and if I wait another hour then im leaving
@@shermainewsj ๐ฏ
I love how Covid ended handshakes in Medicine. Love, love, love not having to shake hands!!!
same, i have hyperhidrosis in my hands so regardless of what i do to avoid it theres alwags judgment, :/
Just wanted to say thank you! Got my first interview ever today and I definitely need the advice!
I'm seeing this 3 weeks later. I do hope that interview went well.
THANK YOU!! iโm currently in a future career class and one of the assignments was a mock interview. these videos definitely helped me get a good grade and theyโre so helpful!!
These are so helpful ๐ญ My first interview I took a sip of water and it went up my nose and I ended up spitting it out
Also, if you take water/coffee, offer to take it back to their kitchen afterwards!!!
No. When hospitality is offered, it includes a refreshment of some kind offered without condition. Offering to clean up will make you look servile and unaccustomed to accepting basic hospitality. Just say โthank you very much for the coffee, that was kind of you.โ
@@calarch78 My boss didn't see it that way, and I'd find it quite disrespectful is someone just left their dirty cup around the office, but thanks for giving your input too! Im sure there are bosses who may see it that way, so I guess it's just best to judge it in the moment
Ive been to so many interviews where they dont shake me hand, or when they do they dont know how. ๐
SAME and it drives me BOINKERS๐๐
i love the clarification of โin americaโ because some of these things do only work for america and first world countries!
We love you sharing the make or breaking dos or don't of having a successful interview experience of a job interview!! You are a God send of secret job interview protocol!! I'm your biggest fan!! Thank you, thank you going forward for the New Yearโคโคโค
As a boomer (yes, I'm old, LOL) I'm always a little taken aback by people's casual use of first names in a business setting, especially when they're first meeting. If I'm going into an interview with Katie Smith, I'll stand up, shake hands, and say, "Hi, Ms Smith, it's nice to meet you." It's respectful, and also shows that I know her full name -- I paid attention to the name in the letter or phone call inviting me in for the interview. Almost invariably, she will smile and say, "Oh, call me Katie, please!" and of course from that point on, I will. I might also say with a chuckle, "And I'm Lori. Had to get the formalities out of the way!" It almost always breaks the tension a bit, makes me a little more comfortable, and hopefully helps the interviewer see me as someone with a bit of a sense of humor as well as respect for their position in the company.
Sure, do that if you want, it wonโt come off as weird at all at your age but no one else actually uses that level of formality and if younger people did in an interview it might rub people the wrong way, they want to see your โrealโ personality, youโre not gonna show them your real personality but you need to show them one that looks real and if youโre not a boomer or a child talking to a teacher Mrs. Smith doesnโt even look real
@@blackroserevolution3989 Yeah, I know. My daughter calls her college professors by their first names, which blows my mind -- I can't imagine referring to, much less addressing, one of my profs by their first name!
This is the stuff we should be teaching kids in schools so they're prepared for real life.
Thanks for the great content, Erin.
Sometimes colleges have like a single lecture or 2 about how to apply and some stuff about your CV.
At least mine did.
You know a prepare for internships class. It wasn't fully fully mandatory I believe, but was advised.
You could even once send in your cv and mock motivation letter and get feedback from a specific company
Thanks for saying โin Americaโ with the handshake thing. I know so many channels that just talk to their American viewers like they are the only people that matter when things actually differ in many countries.
Great job, these are the little things that we want to tell our children but never think of.
I love you for this! โค
This explains a lot lolll Iโve done these mistakes
Fantastic advice Erin! This is the kind of stuff that having interviewed over 100 candidates does make a difference in their perception even if it's just to get started and ended on the right foot.
'In America we reach out with our right hand'. And she proceeds reaching out with her left lol
Part 3 yes please
Really like how you don't just assume everyone watching is American ๐
As an autistic person, I appreciate these videos so much! Thank you for sharing information like this โค
โReach out with ur right handโ
Proceeds to reach out with her left hand.
Also my interview cher say if they offer you water accept cause if they ask u a tough ques u can sip it which gives u extra time to think๐
"Always stand up to greet".
People who use wheelchairs:...
Interviews are really easy with your tips. I hope more people will take your advice. Unfortunately some young people are not aware of how to be respectful and confident. Calling the WOMAN interviewing you โbroโ guarantees you wonโt be getting a call back.
And remember to interact with the interviewers as an equal, never sell yourself short, even with body language.
The pretend handshake was not with the right hand, it was with the left.
Excellent tips by the way. ๐
It was with her right hand but the camera image is flipped so it looks like the left hand to us.
the front-facing camera is like a mirror, so the image we see is flipped.
These flips can be fixed in editing.
Just fyi, after the whole COVID thing, some places donโt like to shake hands. Found out the hard way. Itโs better to ask if you can shake their hand.
There is so much to remember! I'm almost done with my education degree and will be interviewing soon. I am terrible at interviews, so I have been practicing a lot.
With the OTHER right hand, Erin! ๐
"you want to reach out with your right hand"
reaches out with her left ๐
uh the video is flipped lol
"We reach out with our right hand" _reaches out left hand_
Videoโs mirrored
@@jackb99 Exactly?
Should have been fixed in editing.
Another tip on the handshake: Make sure the webbing between your thumb and index finger hits theirs first and square on. It's weird, but it works.
โWe reach out with our right handโ
Reaches with her left hand
You should also arrive 30 minutes before the interview and sit in the lobby. This allows your brain to calm down that you are in an unfamiliar place. It helps you project more confidence than someone who is late.
She said in part 1 to not get in before 10 min before
I dunno, I feel most confident as Iโm walking into a new place. If I sit on a couch in the lobby for half an hour, Iโll get very in my head and start getting anxiety. Especially if itโs very quiet and no people around me.
Too early. Do not arrive more than 10 mins. Walk around the block or wait in a cafe nearby. Esp in smaller firms the person you're interviewing with may feel pressured to attend to you early if they don't have a receptionist . This could immediately create a bad impression
@@nottheone582 I was thinking about a large company like AT&T where they have a main lobby that you can wait in until you go up to the office that you need to be at. 10 minutes is good but just don't be late because that gives a negative impression.
Lol, if someone showed up at my place of business that early I would suggest they go for a walk.
"In america we reach out with our right hand.." *reaches out with left hand ๐
The best sister I've ever had ๐๐ป
Hey Erin, been loving the content! I'm a final year university student and have been applying for graduate programs. I'm about to have my fourth final interview (four different programs) but still haven't heard back from any of the companies yet, what should I do?
We're still doing handshakes? Feels gross after pandemic! ๐
My last interview I didn't initiate the handshake, (neither did they) and I was questioning the whole time, come to find out both people doing my interview (as well as myself) had been getting over being sick!
They looked at it as being courteous
Erin, I love your videos! It would be nice, when you have multi-part videos, if you would either link them in the description or pinned post, or at least keep the description consistent so people can find them easily. Yes, I saw several other interesting videos of yours in the process of digging for this one, but I didn't appreciate having to dig.
I've always been told not to offer to pay, as it's impolite? Is there a way to tell or specific rules? Thank you so much for your vids :)
If a person asks you out & says, "My Treat"
Then you still offer to pay at end of it, RUDE!
Otherwise, offering to pay is standard of respect, independence & equality.
This is about a job interview: so, offering to pay shows self-management skills;
(do not offer to pay if you cannot cover it)
A trained HR manager that suggests a restaurant meeting pays:
or, it shows the company is in trouble
& not good about respecting your time, IMO.
(Foreshadowing of expecting you to do more for less.)
Whether you are offered a job, or not, a good company respects your time is valuable.
Thank you so much for your reply! But with the thing about not offering if it's a treat - I've always been told it's the expectation the company will say so it's rude to offer to pay them? Especially if there's more than just you and the interviewer. And there's so many rules about what to eat! I'd love a whole video on lunch interviews actually!
I would say the exact opposite is true.
It depends on the exact situation. If they havenโt told you that theyโll be covering it, itโs nice to offer to at least pay for yourself. If they told you that it would be on the company, you probably shouldnโt offer or itโll look like you werenโt listening. Might also be culture dependent
companies usually have some awards, achievements or historical highlights on display in the lobby. When waiting before the interview, itโs no harm to have a look at these.
might come in handy when they ask if you have any questions at the end and
shows enthusiasm.
None of that applies for technical positions, from my experience.
I've interviewed engineers, and while we do want to hire a person who is nice to work with, their technical experience and knowledge are the decisive factor in selecting a candidate. (not any of the stuff mentioned in this video)
Iโm in my 40โs and I have learned so much from you.
What would you do if at #3 the interviewer did let you pay? It obviously shows that the company isn't a good environment, but it'd be hard to get out of paying once you've already offered
Hereโs a thing i never knew, most actual places donโt give a fuck about most things just be yourself and show youโre a good worker
What if they accept your offer to pay but your card declines?
If your card is likely to decline you probably shouldnโt offer to pay for more than your meal
Thereโs a lot to unpack here but any company that accepts your offer to pay is wrong and weird. Thatโs rude on their part
Say โwow looks like I really need this job!โ Hahaha jk
โ@@roarwoofwoof exactly ๐ฏ ๐ข๐
If you are attending a job interview over lunch, offering to pay is unnecessary. And therefore, no need to open yourself to potential awkwardness. In business, when a company rep takes their client to lunch, the client never offers to pay. And a company rep interviewing a potential employee is a very similar situation.
Edit: But expressing sincere appreciation to the interviewer at the end for paying for the meal is 100% important.
Pro tip: Wheelchair user should not stay stationary when greating, that is our "greeting whilst sitting"
Insted you should turn do a small adjustment in you seat and then move
1/2 -1/4 of a wheel forward. It gives the same fealing of being alert and looking forward to this meeting as standing up dose. ๐
I always leave a thank you note after a day or two just like thanks for taking the time to interview me, Iโm really excited to hear back, etc. My current boss has mine on the desk in his office still ๐ said nobody ever did that for him before
I sounds like the purpose of the interview was to find out autistic candidates
Is reading a book ok to do while waiting, or is it better just to look around as stated in the video?
Always better to look around. If they are making you wait 20 minutes, the book might be okay. After they say, "it will be 20 more minutes".
However the chance to observe is invaluable.
I've watched several of these, tonight, and your info is great to say the least.
An interview tip I got from a video long back about the handshake was to only shake hands if the table between you and the interviewer is short. Don't go around the table to greet them unless they stand up and step to the side. If the table is so long that you'll need to bend to shake their hands then don't do it as that doesn't look good. And it also could mean that the interviewer prefers space and less physical contact so it's best to just greet verbally. Basically, don't shake hands if you have to bend or stretch more than necessary.
I'm yet to have my first interview so I don't know how relevant this is but they do sound like very good points to me
Since the pandemic, a lot of companies have moved away from handshakes, especially in something as common as an interview. I myself will not shake hands with someone I am interviewing, even if it may seem awkward for a split second. I do multiple interviews every week and often am meeting this person for the first time. It's just an unnecessary risk for an outdated practice imo.
Yes indeed!
Yessss I do ALL of these! And I live in Germany. Here we only shake hands once, cause we're efficient ๐
I literally just had an interview today and already watching some of the previous videos about an interview i actually aced it! I did exactly what she said in this video ! Thank you for giving me the confidence to know I got this!
(My sister told me about this story )One time, her interviewer offered her some water and it overflowed a bit, the interviewer said, โoh! Looks like your water overflowed a bit!โ And my sister said โNo, I just always give 110%โ๐
Iโm not coming at Erin at all, but coming at the bs people that expect these mind games. All of this for a job is ridiculous. All these hidden meanings of things to do. All of this is too much to be aware of and not have anxiety about.
This is all basic stuff. None of this is โmind gamesโ. Sheโs doing people a great service by making them aware if they havenโt been exposed to them before.
โ@@kimthomson132what do you call basic about having to take water (likely lukewarm and non carbonated = instant gag for quite a large portion of people) than coffee?
Right hand๐ข
The video is just inverted ๐
iโd love it if there was some clarification on why to not take coffee, because i love coffee ๐ญ
We need a part three!!!
What to do if you're really uncomfortable shaking hands in this new post-covid world?
I also have this question
Itโs more difficult to un-breath airborne virus (such as covid) than to wash your hands so if youโre already in the room with them without respirators acting as if covid is over you might as well shake their hand. (And with a respirator you wonโt accidentally put your newly shaken hand into your mouth so itโs easier to remember to wash it so go ahead and shake their hand) ๐๐๐
Key word is โpost-COVIDโ.
@@johnp139 Thank you, yes exactly. I just don't want to touch people anymore. I'm out of the habit and don't want to do it. I don't care about when I'm going to sanitize, that's not the worry. I just no longer think that I should HAVE to shake hands. I don't want to touch these people. So how do I gracefully navigate that?
I'm not shaking anyone's hands lol forget it if they think I should๐
This makes me hate capitalism even more ugh
right, the fact that this behavior is expected at entry level positions as opposed to just being able to do the job wile being yourself is sad.
@@iniratagen9740 Being able to communicate and interact with customers and other employees IS part of the job.
@@johnp139 not necessarily and I can tell you customers usually are more straightforward than playing mind games or rules of power
Even outside of this scenario (great advice BTW!) saying someone's name when meeting them for the first time really helps you remember it for the future.
just by calling yourself my big sister you've gained a follower for life
Not going on the phone might be difficult for people with anxiety/attention disorders. And a lot of people would prefer not to shake hands for personal/religious reasons, if a company is funny about that, you donโt wanna work there
Why canโt you shake someoneโs hand while you are sitting down? Itโs so awkward, and not your fault, when they extend their hand to you while you are sitting down. At point, it almost seems rude to keep them waiting, while you gather your purse and everything to stand up.
Just stand up first and shake their hand and you normally don't carry purse when you are at a job interview
Stand up when they walk in.
You should stand up when someone enters the room. Only takes less than a second to stand up :)
You don't "gather your things 1st"
Just stand up a second to meet them
โ@@mokshitaagrawal7050 unfortunately, some folks need a purse or bag wherever they may go. It could be carrying critical items such as medication that could be needed at a moments notice.
Another tip is to be prepared and have notes to take and print at least 2 copies of your resume even if you emailed it to them just in case they want a physical copy and so if they do,you at least have your own copy for you
I didn't realize that the video was inverted until you explained the American custom of shaking with the right hand. Indeed, it looked very strange at first, and I wondered if you were left-handed! Crazy how these little bits of culture and etiquette become "normal" without us even realizing.