HOW TO BE A LONER (Animation)

don't take my potato advice to heart pls!
also if you're wondering, I wouldn't consider myself a loner anymore but I do have loner tendencies from time to time.
I took what I learned from observing and applied it in action during College, but also made sure to keep on 'being myself'.
I think that's very important! Hope this helps anyone out there somehow :) if not all gud we chillin'

Im pretty sure 99% of your audiences are already a loner.
No need to make a tutorial about it

Daidus has blessed us with a yearly video

big rant warning btw:
i was a "loner" for about 4 years of my life, 6th-9th grade. I can relate to pretty much everything u said except for the part about wanting to blend in. I rlly didn't want to be a loner. When I observed conversations, I got really jealous of people who could easily make friends. I wanted to stand out, but I didn't really know how, bc my aura wasn't invisible nor friendly, it was just straight up a mess. After being bullied a lot, I eventually just got really quiet and didn't bother socializing, scared every time I opened my mouth that people wouldn't like what was coming out of my mouth. I was always just trying to conform to the personality people wanted from me, which tbh seemed to just be for me to shut up, looking back on it. I have autism, which makes it really hard for me to blend in or fit in, but somewhere along the line I got caught up in this fake persona I made for myself. In this persona, I was friendly, confident, extroverted, and knew social ques. Except, I wasn't myself. I pretty much lost myself trying to mask my autism.
There were so many times where my life just felt like a play I was putting on. I figured the other person was way above me, always knowing what to say and just waiting for me to mess up my lines. Never once did I think they were just a regular normal person as well, with their own flaws and worries, perhaps even the same as mine."What should I say here to sound normal?" and "What would a normal person say to this?" was all that ever went on in my head. Sometimes my guesses worked, and sometimes they didn't. But I learned and I grew, and my little persona started to become me. I felt empty. There were even times when I sat and decided, "If my friends knew what really went on in my head, they definitely wouldn't be friends with me."
This past year I've been trying to really rediscover myself. Even though my communication and social skills were really weak, I was such a bright kid. I was actually a maladaptive daydreamer, and I wrote a lot of my stories down on paper and planned to publish them. I loved art, anime, writing, and all things science. I'm focusing on trying to regain those traits, because, they're literally my own traits. They've just been buried.
Whether or not my existence is socially acceptable, I'm trying to put aside my people pleaser mentality in the hopes that the people who will like me for who I actually am will come into view. I just wanna be the best version of myself and not have to see my autism as a handicap, but rather a trait that actually enhances me as a person. I definitely wouldn't go back to being a loner, but I still want to accept myself for who I am. thanks for listening to my ted talk

Theres something about your videos that just make me feel... Safe. Like im talking to a friend i genuinely enjoy hanging out with, your experiences and style of humour are so relatable that they honestly keep me going man. You probably dont realise it but your videos make a lot of people feel like they have a true friend and you should be proud of yourself for that :)

We don't want lovers, we want daidus to upload a video

"How to be a Loner" Haha, you fool, I've already mastered this.

Man, listening to this just brings memories of my schooling years.
I'm actually glad to find out that I'm not the only one who's had this exact experience to this degree.
Every part of it was basically every grade after 6th in a nutshell.
I don't feel as bad as living a life of a true loner anymore since I know there's others like me who had gone through it beside me.

As someone who didn’t have healthy friendships til pretty much highschool because of bullying, I definitely think there’s a difference between being a loner and being lonely. Now that I’ve graduated I adore being alone and by myself, but I like being alone with *my* people if that makes sense. It’s quite the vibe, highschool was hell but it is guaranteed to end at some point, which is the bright side

Damn dude, this hits hard. I was a loner, and a couple of years back, I got my first girlfriend. We both are loners together, and we both are happy together.

Man really nailed the observation part. Never did I think someone would perfectly understand what it was like to be the loner/ outcast.

The loner romanticized thing seems pretty accurate, ngl. I was asked out a lot when I was a loner and was even told by one of my friends that he used to like me because I seemed really mysterious and cool. In reality, I was just too fucking awkward to approach people at the time.

Man the avoiding conflict thing is so true. I don't consider myself really to be a loner anymore either, but I still try and avoid conflicts at all costs 0_0

I’ve always thought that being a loner is no good, seeing other people socializing normally and having fun, but growing up has made me realize that it’s how I find my own peace. So yeah, being a loner does have its perks sometimes lol

1:54 "sometimes for some people like me being alone feels good" one of the most accurate sentences said in history, the artstyle is majestic

sapporo spicy miso go hard tho

I used to watch you back in my high school days and here I am today a few months from being 21 and still having everything you say resonate with me.

I can really relate with his experience, but I would also say that if you are in a similar situation: it is not always in your control and you shouldn't blame yourself for it either.
Being naturally quiet, shy or introverted can make it hard to find people you enjoy spending time with, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. Theres plenty of people who would love your presence and have similar interests to talk to with, but a fact of life is that sometimes you are just unlucky.
I've moved to many places and therefore went to multiple different schools in my childhood. Being naturally quiet and not the strongest at social situations, sometimes I had no friends at all, yet other times I had lovely people at my side that I still talk to til this day. If you are reading this, and are going through an experience like that yourself, might suck to hear but you might've just gotten unlucky. But that doesn't mean that it will always stay that way!

I love this video so much. The art is simply immaculate and the topic relatable. And the Daidus the Rock persona is goofy and fitting.

Weirdly enough, my group in high school would, probably in any other school, have been the loners. We kinda all came from that. The big difference in the school culture though, was that the school was going through a rapid growth in population for the area so we had a LOT of new students. This meant a lot of kids without a circle of immediate friends to welcome and include them. Well my group ended up the unofficial welcome party to these people until they were on their feet enough to move onto their preferred social groups. Now this might be where one assumes the person turns their back on their loner friends right? Maybe in a story, probably, but I find people rarely forget such a type of kindness and so my circle of friends in particular basically had an ear to the ground in almost all of the social group within our school. While we did fade to the background for the most part, and kept up some loner or introverted habits, we were considered not good people to bully, to harass, or in general mess with. This is because one, people in other social groups didn’t like that their friends who helped them out when they were vulnerable were targeted, and two, we had a known social network and such a good reputation that it was social suicide to even attempt beyond the most harmless of stuff. So we had a weird power dynamic at the school because of all this. We were loners with power but kinda the quiet ones behind the throne type. It probably didn’t help that are group had diverse enough hobbies to be in a lot of different extracurriculars, sometimes even being the point of contact when these groups wanted to collaborate together too (mostly we utilized this for theater shows, particularly the musicals that brought in the most money). Anyway, yeah, we were loners mostly who hung out together, usually quietly or sharing our hobbies nonjudgmentally. We would sometimes collaborate together since most of us were considered “that art kid” in terms of additional social standing. We also tended to collaborate with writing project too as we worked very well together on such things.
I’m probably still something of a loner, despite the fact that when I work, I enjoy working in a team whenever possible. I just enjoy the support of one and the opportunity to share and collaborate and get to know and help people. But I do need what I call “hermit time” which is when I recharge from all of that.
I’m social and considered friendly but I’m still an introvert basically.

One time in middle school the guidance counselor called me into her office during recess. Apparently they were concerned that I was basically alone reading all the time. I was so oblivious to my own existence I didn't realize they thought there might be cause for concern, it was just that none of my friends were in the same lunch period so I didn't seek out company. Makes me wonder how I made any friends to begin with.

your artstyle improved so much omg i love all the different expressions they're so detailed ❤

Being alone > feeling alone

He’s describing my every single move, it’s kinda creepy.

Having high functioning autism myself most of what you shared lines up to what it's like going through school not being able to socialize well with others and observing how to socialize. As well as other factors. Thx for creating another great video, I look forward to your next one.

In my experience, being a loner really only lasts until you find people that you are compatible with, usually in a new environment where you feel more comfortable.
I used to be a complete loner from 1st grade all the way to the end of middle school. But when I started high school in a whole new school where no one knew me and found people that I actually liked, after pushing myself out of my comfort zone to actually talk to them, I was surprised to find that they were in fact nice to me and I managed to make a couple friends I was very close to.
All it took was finding someone who didn’t have any preconceived notion about me and giving them a chance. It turns out when you push people away out of fear they’ll reject you, they won’t want to hang out with you anymore (crazy, i know).
Now, I know that this doesn’t apply in every situation and that sometimes your classmates or peers or whatever are just assholes or are just not compatible with you, and I’m not suggesting that bullying is something you can get out of by just acting like everyone wants to be your friend.
But I am saying that just because you’ve been a loner before, doesn’t mean you’ll be a loner forever, maybe you just haven’t found the right people yet or maybe you should start approaching new people with a slightly different mindset. If you act like a loner, people will treat you like a loner.

I can relate sm, kinda make me want to share my story haha. I was a loner, and like you mentioned in the video, constantly observing people, learning social cues from them, it stuck to me until now, I interact with people with an intensity some find unnerving. Also the fact that I don't participate much in convo unless I have something useful to say makes people feel like talking to a rock, and I definitely encountered some people who think quiet is the same thing as being a doormat. I swung extremely on the pendulum of talkative, open - polite, reserved, and I think I'm closer to figuring out the balance now.
Honestly I just don't want to go on long winded explanation about niche thing no one cares about and then get labeled as annoying. Or get stuck with a bad reputation that get in the way of my goals and how I live my life. As much as I want to say I don't care about reputations, we don't get a win unless we play in the game.

I had a situation in high school where for whatever reason some jocks wanted to eat with me and my friend at lunch (maybe spill over from another table or something) and they talked about sports then asked for my input for some reason even though my "ignore me" aura was on. I spouted some neutral sportsy things in the same tone as they did for a few sentences then was left alone and didn't contribute further. after lunch ended my friend turned to me and asked "what was that about, I've never seen that side of you before". to blend in one must know what needs to be said.

Definitely became a loner and social circle hopper for most of high school since I was awkward and teased in middle school . But I got much better socially when I got to college and got a good set of friends to stay in touch with from then on.

Daidus, you finally remembered your KRplus password! I'm so glad the Squid King is back!

Thank u Daidus for this video. This rlly hits hard because I was a loner most of my life. Just like you, I also became an artist because I was alone a lot. I have felt the sadness and the desire for relationships, but I’m doing a lot better now. I have some cool friends, and I have also learned to appreciate the isolation because that’s when I thrive and create my art. Have a wonderful day.

3:21 I have personally mastered the skill

5:03 You just brought up some long-forgotten memories. I was such a loner, I didn't even have a spot in the cafeteria, I ate alone in the art room! Thankfully, my favorite art teacher was always okay with it. Wish I could've seen him again before he died of cancer.

Daidus sticking to his upload schedule nice to see

Aw man this was waaaay too relatable. Love your vids Daidus, you’re awesome bro.

This is such a relatable video.
I love my classmates this year . They are so amazing. They don't mind me one bit and let me be my own nerdy self. I can just sit in my bench all day without talking to ANYONE. I love it

Something I learned as someone who used to be a loner for the longest time is that the best way to make friends is to approach people like they already like you. If you act like a loner, others will treat you like a loner.

As another former loner. Watching this makes me really appreciate how far we've come. It's probably my favorite video on the channel. Thanks Daidus

The "Perfect Blue" reference on 3:45 got me in tears ngl

Man, i remember i was lonely just a couple of times due to being new or getting away from toxic friends.
Those few days or weeks of being lonely were the most BORING and sad moments i ever had in my school days. Thinking about people being lonely for most of their school days make me respect them and the ways they found to fight that boredom.
Like school seems like a hellish boring useless daily prison.
So yeah... stay safe and happy

i've been in college for 2 years now and have no friends. i was at a boarding school in high school so we didn't have phones and were forced to socialize so i got friends there and wasn't really a loner. but man, college changed that. i thought it'd be easier but no one ever comes to you to talk. you always have to go start a conversation yourself. doesn't help that i joined my class late so everyone already knew each other and i was the awkward new girl who sits at the back next to the window which reminds me... i thought it was some anime main character trope but I've done that multiple times at school without noticing i was doing it. it's perfect though! i get to blend in, not be spotted by anyone, use my phone, look outside, breathe in some fresh air and comfortably fart cause the smell will just go outside! (sorry, that last bit might be a little tmi)
listening in on conversations has been pretty helpful too! you get the excitement of real-life drama and the peace of knowing it'll never happen to you. my only worry now is making friends. i only talk to two of my high school friends and some of my family members. otherwise, i either just type long comments on youtube videos, play genshin for 6 hours every day or talk to chatgpt (sad, i know, but the conversations i have with it are surprisingly interesting. plus, i teach myself to be social with it. kind of)
anyway, point is, being lonely is fun (i say that as an introvert of course) but it can suck cause fomo exists and well, I'm a hopeless romantic and can't even start a conversation with people so... guess I'll just date fictional 2d men in my head :')

That perfect blue reference tho 😂

*1:06* *literally Me right now*

Lowkey love this, thanks Daidus❤❤

HE’S LIKE ME FR FR 😭😭😭

I’m a loner right now 😅

Honestly, the situation is different for everyone. For me i’m very introverted- and i USED to be very socially awkward. This girl, she’s very nice and we became friends. I grew out of the awkwardness thanks to her just being by my side and putting me in social situations, i don’t think she’s even realized she’s helped me. Sometimes we all just need that little push- and when you get it, let it happen. The only way to grow is to experience this stuff.
I’m still very introverted and prefer to be alone in my classes, except lunch, lol sitting alone really feels horrible but you’ll survive it, after all, most people don’t care- and that’s what I needed to realize the most for myself.

I went through pretty much all of this even though I had tons of friends and had somewhere that I felt belonging towards. I was in the band at my middle school and highschool all years through and met so many wonderful people but still felt like a loner for whatever reason. Until I started wrestling I still felt that way, I think it was mostly just a lack of confidence and self esteem mostly though. Luckily, I had great friends that raised me up from that and helped me understand that I'm no different than them and since then I've been doing much better socially and with my individuality. Definitely doesn't hurt to remember where you came from and be proud of what you've done to get to today.

This video is too relatable. I'm graduating high school next month and for the past few months I've been an extreme loner. I don't have many close friends and most people don't care about or like me so I'm better off alone. Most people I know will disappear from my life once I graduate and I'm kinda ok with that. I don't feel a strong attachment to anyone.

I rather be alone than be with someone who makes me feel alone

The way I relate and agree with everything in this video…… it’s beautiful ✨

This is too relatable. The entirety of eighth grade was like this for me. I feel now im less of a loner, but i still have some tendencies like i still listen to conversations every once in a while.

It's always good when Daidus uploads.

As someone who was a loner (still am, but anyways), I never felt sad or actually alone until recently. I found that I should talk to more people in Uni even if I don't really want to. Great video!

I've been told that I may have loner tendencies (by therapists no less, when opening up about my social anxiety issues and trust/vulnerability issues). My problem I think is that my conversations with friends and peers (my immediate family being the exception because they've raised me) tend to veer just to surface level things, like anime/manga, videogames, shows/movies, etc.
I've always had problems opening up beyond that with friends/peers ever since I was a little kid, to a point that I don't open up much about negative emotions to friends/peers (I'm way more likely to admit to being tired than to open up about having a bad day or being angry/depressed).

2:20 gotta appreaciate the watamote reference

sometimes loneliness can be like a curse (knowing that no one in society needs you), but everything has its pluses. If you understand that "no one in society needs you" = "everyone doesn't care about you", then you can find pluses in this

Is 3:50 a “Perfect Blue” reference?
Yeah I remember in high school most rooms stuck four desks together to make little tables and I’d spend entire class periods invested in my three classmates’ conversation and coming up with my own responses internally only to realize at the end of class I never actually participated so I’d say something and they’d be surprised that I heard what they were saying. Like my dude, we’re in arm’s length of each other and most times I was looking at whoever was talking.

The relatablity is through the roof
especially the observing part
man you have no idea how hard i was nodding my head

i freaking love your videos daidus lmao your too funny. so happy you made a youtube, the world needed your humor.

Being alone has given me time to really think about what I want to do. I am now pursuing a baking and pastry degree and currently succeeding so far. (Fingers crossed) It's nice to wind down and just have space to myself. I have a partner as of 5 months and we are both homebodies. We do our own things together, and spend time together as well. Right now I got my partner into Skyrim so we are enjoying this rabbit hole :)

So relatable, I laughed so hard! Reminiscing about occasionally eating lunch in a darkened corner of the library. Speedrunning a sandwich and drink, and then using the remaining time to draw.

3:49 I definitely didn't miss the Perfect Blue reference. Love how Daidus' videos are filled with references.

the love is war reference has tears in my eyes oh daidus oh daidus preach

As someone with massive social anxiety throughout middle school and everything, I can relate to everything in this video :D

You nailed my experience in high school, but while I was a loner type I wasn't alone. Which is nice knowing. Btw you're awesome Daidus, keep it up! :3

I actually used to go to my own secluded spot for lunch, not because I’m a loner but that’s because that’s where all my friends went to and I wasn’t even in band it was just so much more convenient to have a smaller group to talk with because you didn’t have to talk over people

Your animations are insane. Your honestly the best animation channel out there.

Thank you daidus. This was very relatable. The only friends i had in high school were the ones that forced themselves into my life loll .I wish i pushed myself to talk to more people in highschool cause like you say afterwards no one cares about you eating alone or even you in general🤷🏽‍♂️.

Man this is so relatable. I used to eat my lunch in like 5 minutes and then head to the library to draw. Good to know I ain’t the only one

Gess where I've had to sit for the past 3 years! Right in front of the teachers desk with the rest of the class potentially stearing at the back of my head. Omg I'm so glad it's finally over!

thank you for this video, i loved being alone ever since i finished school but now that i have a car, a job, and my own place, i slowly started to feel terribly lonely and needed to interract with someone, my best friend

Don't forget
As loners hachiman and ishigami are our inspiration

Thanks for uploading this. Needed this video when I was younger. I'm so happy I know I'm autistic now and my desire to be alone and avoid eye contact and literally everything else you described in this video has a reason and a purpose and I can respect myself as wanting different sensations and experiences than other people. The only thing that was different is in my classes I would find the one or two other loners in my class and talk to them only. So we could both feel included.

5:05 for me its a win, I don't want nobody to talk or look at me when I'm eating my food at lunch. Empty tables is the best.

Dude NGL I almost felt like crying when he said “meanwhile my table is completely empty” and it just shows him eating alone.

In high school I would have a lot of people I know and hang out with, but for some reason I still preferred to eat lunch alone at my locker. Social interaction is exhausting and when I wanna relax I'd much rather do it alone. With that being said, it's still important to talk to ppl and have friends or else you'll fall too deep into the loner rabbit hole and become too cut-off from the world.

Ah.... this hits too hard bro, you gotta stop being so relatable or I'm gonna wonder if there's sumn wrong with me

The whole sucking at social skills but great at reading auras is so flipping true

I didn't sit at a table alone, i took my food to the back of the school and ate on the back staircase where it was quiet... mostly

100% relatable to me and also agree on the part where you do need to interact with others. I pretty much only talk to a few people (if it is groups, it's mostly up to 3 others, pretty much never more) and when I do it's basically only about fun stuff/hobbies but never about...weather or work or whatever others manage to talk about.

Man the watching the popular kids interact to gain experience part gave me hard flashbacks to high school memories I had forgotten about. 😂 Took me 27 years to figure out how to fake having social skills.

Being alone is nice and quiet, but feeling alone feels depressing.
It’s always nice to have friends while being introverted.

So happy there's a new daidus video!! Also this might be the most relatable video i've ever watched which is kinda sad but hey

You know I felt really called out at some parts and had a good laugh thanks Daidus for this hope you make a sequel

i definitely related to the observing part. i've always been shy around others especially in new settings and i found myself just quietly listening to others to get to know their personalities first before opening up to them

Damn I can really relate to this. Rn I am in my Senior year of High School and I still haven't changed to much. I've been a loner since 5th grade and during that time I definitely went through struggles socially and mentally. I was jealous and still somewhat am that others can socialize so smoothly and I am here not talking and when I have to I crawl back into my shell. But honestly thanks for making this video! Though some what depressing but informative, I am glad that someone out there gets me and others can learn from this.

Bro, literally described my thought process at school and my actions

honkai sponsor on a loner video is very fitting

8:55 first of all, I didn’t expect a TG reference lol, (kinda since it’s sadly not as popular anymore) second, it looks really good! I can see your improvement and it looks great. Anyways, it’s kinda funny how I’ve already known these things both upsides and downsides and I really enjoyed the video

honkai sr really be spondering every genre i find, vtubers are playign the game, genshin creators are playing the game, some anime recap person is playing the game and animators are playing the game

I went to that same exact ramen shop! I recognise it from the little 80's metal band decoration at the end and the counter. By the time we finished eating, there was a line around the corner for it. For good reason too! It has been the best ramen I've had since I've been here (August). We went for the snow and ice festival.
Also being here has been a little bit of a struggle finding balance between going out and experiencing Japan and wanting to be an art gremlin hiding out surviving on instant ramen and video games. I need recharge time but also I'm excited to be here.

Hey man, your upload schedule is getting better! Hopefully that means that you are well and now are comfortably settled in Japan.❤

A Daidus video? In this economy?!

3:39 I wasn't expecting to find a Fountains of Wayne reference here, but I'm glad there was.

Have you been liscening in on my entire high school life XD? Really great video, made my loner heart happy. Also amazing animation.

Sitting near a trashcan alone in a hallway watching this hits me hard

And now the loner Daidus has a super hot GF. Happy End if their ever was one. Well done ma Boi, well done!

grew up with you homie^^ thanks for uploading

At first I was self doubting I was a loner, but after you brought up the observant trait, I learned I am a loner.